Zamkatimu
Kukondana komanso kukondedwa chifukwa chobwezera mwina ndiimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri m'moyo. Nthawi zina, zimachitika kuti ndi ife tokha omwe tingaike ndalama pachibwenzi.
Izi zitha kuchitika muubwenzi wamtundu uliwonse, paubwenzi, banja, akatswiri ... Koma mchikondi, ndizopweteka kwambiri, ndipo nthawi zina timabisa nkhope yathu.
Dziwani zizindikiritso za 7 kuti chikondi chanu mwatsoka ndi chimodzi, ndipo fufuzani nafe momwe tingapewere kugwera mumsampha uwu.
Chikondi chokha, ndi chiyani?
Tikamakambirananjira imodzi ChikondiOr ubale umodzi, zimangotanthauza kuti munthu amapereka pafupifupi chilichonse muubwenzi, koma osalandira zomwezo.
Ndalama zothandiza sizobwezera. Kuyanjana kumakhaladi mbali imodzi, koma osati (kapena zocheperako) mbali inayo.
Chikondi chamodzi chimatha ubale wosagawanika. Muubwenzi wachikondi, timagawana miyoyo yathu, malingaliro athu, ntchito zathu; timathera nthawi yathu limodzi.
Mchibwenzi chamodzi, kugawana sikuyenera; zikuwoneka ngati sitili patsamba limodzi.
Muyenera kukhala awiri (osachepera) muubwenzi. Ndipo wina akapanga ndalama zochulukirapo kuposa zina, ubalewo umakhala wopanda malire.
Ndizomveka bwino! Pali zochitika ziwiri: mumakhudzidwa ndi munthu yemwe simukugwirizana naye; kapena muli pachibwenzi ndi mnzanu yemwe samapereka zochuluka monga inu.
Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, kukonda munthu wina osakukondanso chimodzimodzi. gwero la mavuto.
Siubwenzi wathanzi, wolinganirana womwe mutha kuchita bwino kwa nthawi yayitali! Pali chinthu chimodzi chotsimikizika: ngati inu nokha ndi amene mungayikemo chikondi ichi, mudzakhalanso munthu yekhayo amene angavutike nacho. Taganizani za inu!
Zizindikiro za chikondi chamunthu umodzi ndi ziti?
Ngati mungadzipeze chimodzi kapena zingapo izi, dziwani kuti ubale wanu ndi umodzi.
Ndiwe woyambitsa chilichonse
Ngati simukuyambitsa kukhudzana, palibe chisonyezo cha moyo kuchokera kwa iye. Ndi inu omwe mumapanga malingaliro, ndipo ndinu oyambitsa chilichonse… Apo ayi, palibe chomwe chimasintha.
Simuli patsogolo pake
Mumapita kwachiwiri, ngakhale kwachitatu, kapenanso nthawi chikwi chimodzi. Ngakhale mukudzipereka nokha kwathunthu, mpaka nthawi zina mumanyalanyaza maubwenzi ena (abwenzi, banja…), mnzanu kapena wanu Phulani sadzakuika iwe patsogolo.
Muli nawo, osati njira ina yozungulira
Mutha kuyesa kulankhulana popanda kupeza mayankho kuchokera kwa iye, kenako winayo akaganiza zobwerera ...
Muyenera kukhala ndi iye! Komanso, mumadzipangitsa kuti mukhalepo chifukwa cha enawo. Koma inde, pamapeto pake mudzakhala ndi chizindikiro cha moyo… Kungakhale kupusa kwenikweni kuphonya mwayi wotere, sichoncho?
Mumanyengerera
Mumachita zonse kuti ubale ukhale wogwira ntchito. Mutha kuwonongeka nthawi zina. Koma zokambirana sizowona! Inu ndi amene mukusinthasintha. Kuphatikiza apo, winayo nthawi zambiri samadandaula kapena kupepesa.
Mukuwona kuti winayo sakupezeka mokwanira
Mukumva izi zosasangalatsa kuti nthawi zonse samakhala nanu. Ngakhale yanu kukonda alipo mwakuthupi, kulibeko. Zimakhala ngati amakonda kukakhala kwinakwake!
Mukufuna kupanga zinthu ndi wokondedwa wanu, mumadziwonetsera nokha mtsogolo limodzi ... Koma sizili choncho mbali inayo. Wina samabweretsa nkhaniyo, ndipo akhoza kuyesetsa kupewa kukambirana kotere.
Mumamva kukhumudwa
Ichi ndi chizindikiro chodziwikiratu, ndipo… Palibe wina wakhungu kuposa munthu amene safuna kuwona. Kumbali inayi, pokhala owona mtima kwa inu nokha, mosakayikira mudzatha kuzindikira kusasangalala kumeneku mkati mwanu.
Mumapitirizabe kuyembekezera, koma nthawi zambiri mumakhala okhumudwa. Mukuyembekezera zambiri, ndipo ndizoposa zomwe mungapeze.
Kodi mungapewe bwanji kugwera mumsampha uwu?
Kwenikweni, kaya munthuyo sangakondenso aliyense (moni opotoza a narcissistic!), Kapena kuti siinu okondedwa wanu, zilibe kanthu.
Kodi simukufuna ubale weniweni, kukondana? Nawa malingaliro a pewani chikondi cha mbali imodzi, kapena ngakhale kutulukamo.
Lengezani chikondi chanu kuyambira pachiyambi
Osachepera mutha kukhazikika ndipo zinthu zidzaonekera poyera! Fotokozani momwe mukumvera ndi wowopsa kwa aliyense.
Koma taganizirani izi: ndi bwino kudziwonetsera nokha, kukanidwa ndikutha kupitilirabe; kapena osanena chilichonse, kudikirira kopanda pake kenako ndikupitilizabe kukanidwa?
Kodi tingakhale bwanji ndi ubale wabwino ndi wokwaniritsa ngati sitikhazikitsa ntchito limodzi mtsogolo?
Ngati mukuyembekezera mbali yanu, ndipo simubwezeredwa, mukuwononga nthawi yanu mukuyembekezera china chomwe mwatsoka sichinachitike.
Ikani malire
Ndikukutengerani chiganizo chomwe chakhala chikundizindikiritsa nthawi zonse: osapanga wina kukhala wofunikira pamoyo wanu, pomwe simuli mwa iwo.
Osapanga ubalewu kukhala cholinga chanu chokha. Mu moyo wanu muli zolinga zina kufikira. Zimabwerera ku mwambi wodziwika kuti "Simuyenera kuyika mazira anu onse mudengu limodzi".
Osanyalanyaza ntchito yanu kapena maphunziro anu, musadule ubale wanu ndi anthu ena. Osangosintha malingaliro anu, kukulepheretsani kuti muziyang'ana kwambiri Phulani, koma mwina zingakupatseni mwayi wopanga misonkhano ina ndi zokumana nazo zosangalatsa.
Kufunsa mafunso oyenera
Mukufuna chiyani m'moyo wanu? Mukuyenera chiyani? Ndi ubale wamtundu wanji womwe mukufuna kuti mukhale nawo bwino?
Ayi koma kwenikweni, kodi mukuyenera kukondana ndi munthu yemwe sakuwonetsa kuti amakukondaninso? Ngati mwayankha kuti inde, mudzayenera kudzifunsa mafunso ena…
Zindikirani
Apa, ndiye gawo lomaliza lomwe lingakupangitseni kuti musinthe njira yolondola. Koma ndikuwononga nthawi bwanji! Ndikobzala mphepo, komwe mumangowononga mphamvu zanu, popanda phindu lililonse.
Tikukhulupirira kuti izi pitani zimachitika. Mudzazindikira kuti zonsezi zidzakuthandizani mtsogolo kuti mupange ubale weniweni womwe ungakukhutitseni. Ngati mukufuna kudziwa zambiri, onani nkhaniyi.
Tsegulani padziko lonse lapansi
Osatsekedwa kwa anthu ena, khalani maso! Ngati simunakwaniritse chibwenzichi, bwanji mukumirabe?
Tulukani m'malo anu abwino tulukani m'masautso awa. Chikondi chanu ndi chammbali chimodzi, ndipo kuvutika kwanu kuli mbali imodzi. Ndiye bwanji kupitirabe kuvutika nokha mukona yanu?
Pali zodabwitsa kuti mupeze mdziko lapansi. Uli ndi zinthu zambiri zokongola zoti udziwe. Chonde musaphonye chilichonse chomwe chingakusangalatseni.
Kudzera pazizindikiro zisanu ndi ziwiri zaubwenzi wamodzi womwe takufotokozerani, titha kumva kale kuti chikondi chamodzi chimakhala cholemetsa chachikulu kunyamula. Osakakamira mu chibwenzi chomwe sichimakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu okhutira.
Dziwani mtundu wa zomwe mukukumana nazo, ndikufunsani zosankha zomwe mukufuna pamoyo wanu. Aliyense akuyenera kukhala wokondwa, chifukwa chake dzipangeni nokha ndi chisangalalo chanu patsogolo.