Kodi mwadzionera nokha kuti pamene mwachezeredwa ndi malingaliro osakhutira ndi moyo wanu, mumafika pamalingaliro akuti munangopanga zolinga zolakwika? Mwina zinali zazikulu kapena zazing'ono kwambiri. Mwinamwake osati mwachindunji mokwanira, kapena munayamba kuchita izo molawirira kwambiri. Kapena iwo sanali ofunika kwambiri, kotero inu munasiya kuganizira.
Koma zolinga sizingakuthandizeni kuti mukhale ndi chimwemwe chokhalitsa, osasiya kukhala nacho!
Kuchokera pamalingaliro omveka, kukhazikitsa zolinga kumawoneka ngati njira yabwino yopezera zomwe mukufuna. Ndi zowoneka, zotsatirika komanso zochepera pa nthawi. Amakupatsani mfundo yoti musunthire ndikukankhira kukuthandizani kuti mukafike kumeneko.
Koma m’moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, zolinga kaŵirikaŵiri zimasanduka nkhaŵa, nkhaŵa, ndi chisoni, m’malo mwa kunyada ndi chikhutiro chifukwa cha zimene anachita. Zolinga zimatipanikiza pamene tikuyesetsa kuzikwaniritsa. Ndipo choyipa kwambiri, tikafika kwa iwo, nthawi yomweyo amasowa. Kung'anima kwa mpumulo n'kwakanthawi, ndipo timaganiza kuti ichi ndi chisangalalo. Ndiyeno timakhazikitsa cholinga chachikulu chatsopano. Ndipo kachiwiri, akuwoneka kuti sangamufikire. Kuzungulira kukupitilira. Wofufuza wina, dzina lake Tal Ben-Shahar, wa pa yunivesite ya Harvard, ananena kuti zimenezi ndi “chinyengo cha kubwera,” bodza lakuti “kukafika nthawi inayake m’tsogolo kudzabweretsa chimwemwe.”
Pamapeto pa tsiku lililonse, timafuna kukhala osangalala. Koma chimwemwe chimakhala chosatha, chovuta kuchiyeza, chimangochitika mwachisawawa. Palibe njira yomveka yopitako. Ngakhale kuti zolinga zingakupititseni patsogolo, sizingakupangitseni kusangalala ndi kayendedwe kameneka.
Wolemba bizinesi komanso wogulitsa kwambiri James Altucher wapeza njira yake: amakhala ndi mitu, osati zolinga. Malinga ndi Altucher, kukhutitsidwa kwanu konse ndi moyo sikudziwika ndi zochitika zapadera; Chofunika kwambiri ndi mmene mumamvera kumapeto kwa tsiku lililonse.
Ofufuza amatsindika kufunika kwa tanthauzo, osati zosangalatsa. Chimodzi chimachokera ku zochita zanu, china kuchokera ku zotsatira zake. Ndiko kusiyana pakati pa kukhudzika ndi cholinga, pakati pa kufunafuna ndi kupeza. Chisangalalo cha kupambana posachedwapa chimatha, ndipo kukhala wosamala kumakupangitsani kukhala wokhutira nthawi zambiri.
Mitu ya Altucher ndi malingaliro omwe amagwiritsa ntchito kuwongolera zisankho zake. Mutu ukhoza kukhala liwu limodzi - mneni, dzina kapena adjective. "Konzani", "kukula" ndi "zathanzi" zonse ndi nkhani zotentha kwambiri. Komanso "kuyika ndalama", "thandizo", "kukoma mtima" ndi "kuthokoza".
Ngati mukufuna kukhala okoma mtima, khalani okoma mtima lero. Ngati mukufuna kukhala wolemera, tengani sitepe kuti mukwaniritse izi lero. Ngati mukufuna kukhala wathanzi, sankhani thanzi lero. Ngati mukufuna kuyamikira, nenani “zikomo” lero.
Nkhani siziyambitsa nkhawa za mawa. Sali okhudzana ndi zodandaula za dzulo. Chofunikira ndi zomwe mukuchita lero, yemwe muli pamphindi ino, momwe mumasankhira kukhala pakali pano. Ndi mutu, chisangalalo chimakhala momwe mumakhalira, osati zomwe mumakwaniritsa. Moyo si mndandanda wa zigonjetso ndi kugonja. Ngakhale kuti kukwera ndi kutsika kwathu kungatidodometsa, kutisonkhezera, ndi kuumba zikumbukiro zathu, izo sizimatitanthauzira ife. Zambiri za moyo zimachitika pakati, ndipo zomwe tikufuna m'moyo ndizopezeka pamenepo.
Mitu imapangitsa kuti zolinga zanu zikhale zotulutsa zachisangalalo chanu ndikuletsa chimwemwe chanu kuti chisakhale chotsatira cha zolinga zanu. Cholinga chimafunsa kuti "ndikufuna chiyani" ndipo mutuwo umafunsa kuti "ndine ndani".
Cholingacho chimafunika kuwonetsetsa nthawi zonse kuti chichitike. Mutu ukhoza kukhazikitsidwa nthawi iliyonse pamene moyo umakupangitsani kuti muganizire za izo.
Cholinga chimalekanitsa zochita zanu kukhala zabwino ndi zoyipa. Mutuwu umapangitsa kuti zochita zonse zikhale mwaluso kwambiri.
Cholinga ndi chokhazikika chakunja chomwe mulibe mphamvu. Mutu ndikusintha kwamkati komwe mungathe kuwongolera.
Cholinga chimakukakamizani kuganizira komwe mukufuna kupita. Mutuwu ukungoyang'ana inu pomwe muli.
Zolinga zimakuyikani patsogolo pa chisankho: kukonza chisokonezo m'moyo wanu kapena kukhala wotayika. Mutuwu umapeza malo opambana mu chisokonezo.
Cholingacho chimatsutsa mwayi wa nthawi yamakono pofuna kupambana m'tsogolomu. Mutuwu ukuyang'ana mwayi pakali pano.
Mlondayo akufunsa kuti, "Tili kuti lero?" Nkhaniyo ikufunsa kuti, "Kodi chinali chiyani lero?"
Zolinga zimatsamwitsa ngati zida zankhondo zokulirapo. Mutuwu ndi wamadzimadzi, umalumikizana m'moyo wanu, kukhala gawo la zomwe muli.
Tikamagwiritsa ntchito zolinga monga njira yathu yoyamba yopezera chimwemwe, timasinthanitsa chikhutiro cha moyo wautali ndi chilimbikitso ndi chidaliro kwakanthawi kochepa. Mutuwu umakupatsirani muyezo weniweni, wotheka womwe ungatchulepo osati kamodzi pakanthawi, koma tsiku lililonse.
Palibenso kuyembekezera chinachake - ingosankha yemwe mukufuna kukhala ndikukhala munthu ameneyo.
Mutuwu udzabweretsa m'moyo wanu zomwe palibe cholinga chomwe chingakupatseni: kudzimva kuti ndinu ndani lero, apo ndi apo, ndikuti izi ndi zokwanira.