Zoyenera kuchita ngati kukhala kwaokha kukudabwitsani panthawi yachisudzulo? Katswiri wa zamaganizo Ann Bouchot akulangiza mwamphamvu kuganizira kuti mliriwu ndi wovutitsa aliyense, ndipo amapereka malingaliro amomwe angapulumukire, ngakhale kukhala pansi pa denga lomwelo ndi pafupifupi kale "ex".
Pamene vuto linafika, ena anali ndi chochitika chofunika anakonza - mwachitsanzo, ukwati kapena ... chisudzulo. Mkhalidwewo ndi wodetsa nkhawa, ndipo tsopano kupsyinjika kwa mliriwu ndi zochitika zonse zotsatizanazi zawonjezedwa kwa izo. Simungamve bwanji kuti mwatayika pano?
Kudzipatula kumakhudza kwambiri thanzi lamaganizidwe, akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso katswiri wokhudzana ndi mabanja komanso kusudzulana Anne Bouchot. Poyamba, ambiri amakwiya, kusokonezeka, kukwiya, ndi kukana. Ngati nthawiyi italika, mantha a matenda ndi mavuto azachuma, kusungulumwa, kukhumudwa ndi kunyong'onyeka kumakula.
Onjezani nkhuni pamoto ndi nkhani zotsutsana ndi nkhawa kwa okondedwa, ndipo tonse timachita mosiyana. Ena amasunga, ena amapeza chitonthozo podzipereka kuthandiza oyandikana nawo okalamba komanso omwe ali pachiwopsezo kwambiri ndi omwe amawadziwa. Amene amagwira ntchito kunyumba amakakamizika kusamalira ana panthaŵi imodzi, ndipo nthaŵi zina amadutsa nawo maphunziro a kusukulu. Eni mabizinesi ang'onoang'ono amaopa kutayika kwakukulu. Ngakhale ana amene mwadzidzidzi amasiya chizolowezi chawo chachizolowezi amasokonezeka ndipo amamva kupsinjika kwa akulu awo. Kupsyinjika kwakukulu kumawonjezeka.
Koma bwanji za awo amene ali mumkhalidwe wa chisudzulo? Ndani adapereka zikalata posachedwa kapena anali atatsala pang'ono kutenga sitampu mu pasipoti yawo, kapena mwina kupita kukhothi? Tsogolo tsopano likuoneka losatsimikizika kwambiri. Makhothi atsekedwa, mwayi wokumana ndi mlangizi wanu - psychotherapist, loya kapena loya, kapena mwina bwenzi lothandizira kapena kuthandizidwa ndi upangiri - lidapita. Ngakhale kuyimba foni pavidiyo sikophweka, chifukwa banja lonse latsekedwa kunyumba. Zimakhala zovuta makamaka ngati onse awiri ali m’chipinda chimodzi.
Kusatsimikizika kwachuma kumapangitsa kukhala kosatheka kugwirizana pazachuma. Kusamveka bwino za ndalama ndi ntchito palokha kumapangitsa zokambirana zilizonse ndi mapulani oyenda kukhala ovuta.
Imitsani zisankho zonse zapadziko lonse lapansi. Mavuto si nthawi yabwino kwa iwo
Potengera zomwe adakumana nazo pakulangiza maanja, Anne Bouchaud amapereka upangiri kwa iwo omwe adakumana ndi vuto lachisudzulo ndi mliri.
1. Dzisamalireni nokha. Pezani njira zolankhulirana ndi anzanu — patelefoni kapena mwa ma mesenjala. Tengani nthawi kuti muchepetse ndi kupuma. Chokani kuchokera kuzinthu zankhani momwe mungathere.
2. Ngati muli ndi ana, lankhulani nawo, afotokozereni zimene zikuchitika m’chinenero chimene angamve. Nenani kuti zonse zichitika. Ngakhale mutakhala ndi mantha kwambiri, yesetsani kusauza ana anu za vuto lanulo.
3. Lembani zinthu zosangalatsa ndikuyamba kuzichita. Konzani zosungira, werengani mabuku, onerani mafilimu, kuphika.
4. Osapanga zosankha mopupuluma. Osapanga malonda akulu. Kunyong’onyeka kungayambitse zinthu zosayenera, monga kulakalaka kudya mopambanitsa kapena kuledzera. Yesetsani kukhala achangu, itanani anzanu, yambitsani zolemba, khalani ndi nthawi yochulukirapo ndi ana anu, khalani ndi nthawi yopuma, yoyeretsa ndi ntchito zina zapakhomo. Mungathe kukulitsa unansi wodalirika ndi wogwirizana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ngati mutapeza njira zosonyezera kuti mumamumvera chisoni ndi kumuyamikira.
5. Imani kaye zisankho zonse zapadziko lonse lapansi. Mavuto si nthawi yabwino kwa iwo. Mwina zingatheke kuvomerezana ndi mwamuna kapena mkaziyo pa kuyimitsidwa kwa mlandu, kuchedwetsa kuthetsa nkhani zachuma.
Potsatira mapanganowo, nonse mudzakhala ndi mwayi wochepa wokhumudwitsana.
6. Ngati kuli kofunikira kupitiriza ndondomeko ya chisudzulo, mukhoza kukambirana zomwe mungachite - mwachitsanzo, kambiranani za kusamvana pamodzi ndi maloya mumtundu wa msonkhano wa kanema.
7. Ngati simunakumane ndi akatswiri othetsa ukwati, zingakhale bwino kutero ndikupeza uphungu pankhani zazamalamulo ndi zachuma.
8. Pezani chithandizo. Wogula wina wa Bouchot, mwachitsanzo, anali ndi gawo ndi psychotherapist mkati mwa galimoto, chifukwa sakanatha kupuma kunyumba.
9. Ngati mukukhalabe m’nyumba imodzi ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu, mungakhazikitsidwe dongosolo lomveka bwino la kulera ana ndi kusangalala. Pansi pa mapanganowo, onse adzakhala ndi mwayi wochepa wokwiyitsana kapena kukwiyitsana.
10. Tikakhala kutali, ndi bwino kukambirana kuti anawo azikhala kwaokha m’nyumba ya ndani. Ngati zinthu zilola, mutha kusinthana ndi kholo limodzi kapena kholo lina, poyang'ana chitetezo.
"Tonse tikukumana ndi vutoli pompano," akulemba motero Anne Bouchot wa mliriwu. "Tiyenera kuvomereza kuti ili ndi vuto la aliyense. Pa nthawi yovutayi, kumbukirani kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wakale nayenso ali ndi nkhawa zambiri.” Katswiriyo akuti, ngati n’kotheka, thandizani kutulutsa mpweya ndi kupulumuka nthaŵi imeneyi. Ndiyeno onse adzapeza njira zosinthira ndi kupirira chowonadi chatsopanochi.
Za Katswiri: Ann Gold Boucheau ndi katswiri wazamisala wodziwa zachisudzulo ndi ubereki.