Makhalidwe amene angatsimikizire chipambano cha mwana m’moyo angathe ndipo ayenera kuleredwa kuyambira ali mwana. Ndipo apa ndikofunikira kuti musapereke cholakwika: osakakamiza, komanso osayamwitsa.
Kudzidalira ndi kudzidalira ndi imodzi mwa mphatso zazikulu zimene makolo angapereke kwa mwana wawo. Izi sizomwe timaganiza, koma Karl Pickhardt, katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso wolemba mabuku 15 a makolo.
“Mwana amene alibe chidaliro amazengereza kuyesa zinthu zatsopano kapena zovuta chifukwa amawopa kulephera kapena kukhumudwitsa ena,” akutero Karl Pickhardt. "Manthawa amatha kuwalepheretsa moyo wawo wonse komanso kuwalepheretsa kuchita bwino."
Malinga ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, makolo ayenera kulimbikitsa mwanayo kuthetsa mavuto ovuta a msinkhu wake ndikumuthandiza pa izi. Kuphatikiza apo, Pickhardt amapereka malangizo ena olerera munthu wopambana.
1. Yamikirani khama la mwanayo, mosasamala kanthu za chotulukapo chake.
Pamene mwanayo akukula, njirayo imakhala yofunika kwambiri kwa iye kuposa kumene akupita. Kaya mwanayo anakwanitsa kugoletsa chigoli chopambana, kapena anaphonya cholinga - yamikirani khama lake. Ana sayenera kuzengereza kuyesa mobwerezabwereza.
“M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, kuyesetsa kosalekeza kumapereka chidaliro chochuluka kuposa chipambano chakanthaŵi,” akutero Pickhardt.
2. Limbikitsani kuyeserera
Lolani mwanayo achite zomwe zimamusangalatsa. Mutamandeni chifukwa cha khama lake, ngakhale atakhala kuti akuyeserera kuimba piyano kwa masiku angapo. Koma musamukakamize kwambiri, musamukakamize kuchita zinazake. Kuchita nthawi zonse, pamene mwana amayesetsa kuchita zinthu zosangalatsa, amamupatsa chidaliro kuti ntchitoyo idzatsatiridwa ndi zotsatira zomwe zidzakhala bwino komanso zabwino. Palibe zowawa, palibe phindu - mwambi wonena za izi, m'mawu akulu okha.
3. Kudzilola Kuthetsa Mavuto
Ngati nthawi zonse mumamanga zingwe za nsapato zake, pangani sangweji, onetsetsani kuti adatenga chilichonse kusukulu, inu, ndithudi, mudzipulumutse nthawi ndi mitsempha. Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo, mumamulepheretsa kukulitsa luso lofufuza njira zothetsera mavuto ndikumulepheretsa kukhala ndi chidaliro chakuti angathe kulimbana nawo payekha, popanda thandizo lakunja.
4. Akhale mwana
Musamayembekezere kuti mwana wanu azichita ngati wamkulu, malinga ndi malingaliro athu "wamkulu".
Pickhardt anati: “Ngati mwana akuona kuti sangakwanitse kuchita zinazake ngati mmene makolo ake amachitira, amataya mtima wofuna kukhala wabwinopo.
Miyezo yosatheka, ziyembekezo zazikulu - ndipo mwanayo amataya kudzidalira mofulumira.
5. Limbikitsani chidwi
Mayi wina anadzigulira makina osindikizira n’kudina batani nthawi zonse pamene mwanayo amufunsa funso. Pofika masana, chiwerengero cha kudina chinaposa zana. Ndizovuta, koma katswiri wa zamaganizo amati kulimbikitsa chidwi cha ana. Ana amene ali ndi chizoloŵezi cholandira mayankho kwa makolo awo sazengereza kufunsa mafunso pambuyo pake, kusukulu ya kindergarten kapena kusukulu. Amadziwa kuti pali zinthu zambiri zosadziwika ndi zosamvetsetseka, ndipo sachita manyazi nazo.
6. Zipangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta
Onetsani mwana wanu kuti angathe kukwaniritsa zolinga zake, ngakhale zazing'ono. Mwachitsanzo, kukwera njinga popanda mawilo otetezedwa ndikukhalabe bwino sikopambana? Zimathandizanso kuonjezera chiwerengero cha maudindo, koma pang'onopang'ono, malinga ndi msinkhu wa mwanayo. Palibe chifukwa choyesera kuteteza, kupulumutsa ndi kutsimikizira mwana wonse. Chifukwa chake mudzamuchotsera chitetezo ku zovuta za moyo.
7. Musamalimbikitse mwana wanu kuti aziona kuti ndi yekhayo.
Ana onse ndi apadera kwa makolo awo. Koma akalowa m’gulu la anthu, amakhala anthu wamba. Mwanayo ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti sali bwino, komanso osati woipa kuposa anthu ena, kotero kuti kudzidalira kokwanira kudzapangidwa. Ndipotu anthu amene amakhala naye pafupi sangamuone ngati wapadera popanda zifukwa zenizeni.
8. Osadzudzula
Palibe chomwe chimakhumudwitsa kwambiri kuposa kudzudzula makolo. Malingaliro olimbikitsa, malingaliro othandiza ndi abwino. Koma musanene kuti mwanayo amachita ntchito yake moipa kwambiri. Choyamba, ndikulimbikitsa anthu, ndipo kachiwiri, ana amawopa kulephera nthawi ina. Pambuyo pake, mudzamudzudzulanso.
9. Muziona zolakwa ngati kuphunzira
Tonse timaphunzira pa zolakwa zathu, ngakhale kuti mawu akuti anthu anzeru amaphunzira pa zolakwa za anthu ena. Ngati makolo amaona zolakwa zaubwana ngati mwayi wophunzira ndi kukula, sadzataya ulemu wake, adzaphunzira kusaopa kulephera.
10. Pangani zatsopano
Ana mwachibadwa amakhala osamala. Chifukwa chake, muyenera kukhala chitsogozo kwa iye ku chilichonse chatsopano: zokonda, zochita, malo. Mwanayo sayenera kuopa dziko lalikulu, ayenera kutsimikiza kuti athana ndi chilichonse. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kumudziwitsa zinthu zatsopano ndi malingaliro ake, kukulitsa mawonekedwe ake.
11. Mphunzitseni zimene mungathe.
Kufikira msinkhu winawake, makolo kwa mwana amakhala mafumu ndi milungu. Nthawi zina ngakhale ngwazi. Gwiritsani ntchito mphamvu zanu zazikulu kuphunzitsa mwana wanu zomwe mukudziwa komanso zomwe mungachite. Musaiwale: ndinu chitsanzo kwa mwana wanu. Choncho, yesani kukhala ndi moyo wotero womwe mungakonde kwa mwana wanu wokondedwa. Kupambana kwanu pa ntchito inayake kudzapatsa mwanayo chidaliro chakuti adzatha kuchita chimodzimodzi.
12. Osaulutsa nkhawa zanu
Pamene mwana yemwe ali ndi khungu lake lonse akumva kuti mukumudera nkhawa momwe mungathere, izi zimasokoneza kudzidalira kwake. Ndi iko komwe, ngakhale ngati simukhulupirira kuti apirira, ndiye ndani amene angapirire? Mukudziwa bwino lomwe, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti sangapirire.
13. Mutamandeni ngakhale mwanayo atalephera.
Dziko silili chilungamo. Ndipo, mosasamala kanthu za chisoni chotani, mwanayo ayenera kugwirizana nazo. Njira yake yopita kuchipambano idzakhala yolephereka, koma izi siziyenera kukhala chopinga kwa iye. Kulephera kulikonse kotsatira kumapangitsa mwanayo kukhala wokhazikika komanso wamphamvu - mfundo yofanana ya ululu, palibe phindu.
14. Perekani chithandizo, koma osaumirira
Mwanayo ayenera kudziwa ndi kumverera kuti mulipo nthawi zonse ndipo mudzathandiza ngati chinachake chachitika. Ndiko kuti, akudalira thandizo lanu, osati kuti mudzamuchitira zonse. Chabwino, kapena zambiri za izo. Ngati mwana wanu amadalira inu, sadzakhala ndi luso lodzithandiza.
15. Limbikitsani kuyesa zinthu zatsopano.
Atha kukhala mawu osavuta: "O, mwaganiza lero kuti musamange taipi, koma ngalawa." Chochitika chatsopano chikuchokera kumalo anu otonthoza. Nthawi zonse zimakhala zosasangalatsa, koma popanda izo palibe chitukuko kapena kukwaniritsa zolinga. Osawopa kuphwanya chitonthozo chanu - uwu ndi khalidwe lomwe liyenera kupangidwa.
16. Musalole mwana wanu kupita kudziko lodziwika bwino
Mulimbikitseni kuti azilumikizana ndi anthu enieni padziko lapansi. Chidaliro chomwe chimabwera ndi maukonde sichofanana ndi chidaliro chomwe chimabwera ndi kulumikizana kwamoyo. Koma mukudziwa izi, ndipo mwanayo akhoza kusintha maganizo ake.
17. Khalani olamulira, koma osati mopambanitsa.
Makolo oumiriza kwambiri angawononge ufulu wa mwanayo.
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