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Sergi Rufi: "Malingaliro ali ngati mpeni: amagwiritsidwa ntchito mosiyanasiyana, ena ndi othandiza pomwe ena owopsa"
Psychology
Katswiri wa zamaganizo Sergi Rufi amasindikiza "A real psychology", momwe amafotokozera momwe adasinthira kuvutika kwake kukhala moyo wabwino.
Sergi wamba Anayendayenda mpaka anapeza chimene ankafuna kuchita. Dokotala, Master ndi BA mu Psychology, Rufi amagwiritsa ntchito psychology ina, zomwe amazitcha "psychology yeniyeni." Motero, kupyolera mu maphunziro ake ndi zochitika zake, amayesa kuthandiza ena kukhala ndi moyo wabwino popanda kukhala pamwamba.
Zangosindikizidwa "Psychology yeniyeni" (Dome Books), buku, pafupifupi mbiri yakale, koma pang'ono komanso kalozera, momwe amafotokozera njira yake yosiya kuvutika. M'gulu lolumikizidwa kwambiri, momwe aliyense mwachiwonekere ndife okondwa pama social media, kumene timakhala otanganidwa kwambiri ndi mauthenga onse omwe timalandira ndipo timadziwa zochepa za ife tokha ndizofunikira;
monga akunena, podziŵa “kulekanitsa tirigu ndi mankhusu.” Tinayankhula ndi Sergi Rufi ku ABC Bienestar za chinthu chomwechi: kuyika kwa chisangalalo, chikoka cha nkhani ndi mantha ambiri omwe amativutitsa tsiku ndi tsiku.
Nchifukwa chiyani mukunena kuti malingaliro angakhale chida cha ubwino, komanso chizunzo?
Zitha kukhala, kapena m'malo mwake, chifukwa palibe amene watiphunzitsa kwenikweni momwe malingaliro amagwirira ntchito, chomwe chiri, komwe chiri, chomwe tingayembekezere kuchokera kwa icho. Kwa ife, malingaliro ndi chinthu chobisika kwa ife ndipo chimamangidwa mwachisawawa, koma kwenikweni ndi chinthu chovuta kwambiri. Tinganene kuti maganizo ali ngati mpeni: uli ndi ntchito zosiyanasiyana, zina zothandiza kwambiri ndipo zina zovulaza kwambiri. Malingaliro ndi osadziwika kosatha.
N’chifukwa chiyani timaopa kusungulumwa? Kodi ndi chizindikiro cha masiku ano?
Ndikuganiza kuti kusungulumwa ndi chinthu chomwe chakhala chikutiwopseza nthawi zonse, pamlingo wa minyewa komanso pamlingo wachilengedwe; tinapangidwa kuti tikhale mu fuko, mu ziweto. Izi ndizovuta kwambiri, ndipo pakali pano ofalitsa nkhani akulimbikitsa moyo monga banja komanso banja. Sitiwona zotsatsa za anthu okha, omwe akumwetulira. Pali chikhalidwe cha chikhalidwe cha anthu chomwe timachiwona tsiku ndi tsiku chomwe chimapangitsa kuti munthu akhale yekha.
Chifukwa chake pali kusalidwa pa kusungulumwa, pakukhala mbeta ...
Ndendende, posachedwapa ndinaona m’magazini nkhani ya munthu wina wotchuka, mmene iwo amati anali wokondwa, koma panalibe kanthu kena, chifukwa anali adakali wosakwatiwa. Kusakwatiwa nthawi zambiri kumatengedwa ngati chiganizo, osati kusankha.
Akuti m’bukuli kuti kulingalira bwino sikumatithandiza kukhala ndi thanzi labwino m’maganizo. Kodi timasokoneza malingaliro ndi machiritso?
Kulingalira ndizo zonse zomwe taphunzitsidwa: kuganiza, kukayikira ndi kukayikira, koma mwanjira ina pambuyo pake sitingathe kudziwa momwe tilili, ngati tili bwino, momwe tilili. Mafunso amtunduwu ndi odziwika bwino, ndipo nthawi zambiri sitidziwa momwe tingawathetsere. Kuganiza kwathu kumakhala kodziwikiratu 80% ya nthawiyo, ndipo mu izi zomwe takumana nazo zimalowererapo, zomwe nthawi zambiri, popanda kuzindikira, zimatichedwetsa. Sitingakhale nthawi zonse kudikirira zomwe lingaliro likutiuza: ndife osakaniza a zinthu zambiri, ndipo nthawi zambiri sizinthu zonse zomwe zili chifukwa ndi zomveka. Ubwenzi, chikondi, zomwe ndimakonda pa nyimbo, chakudya, kugonana ... ndi zinthu zomwe sitingathe kuziganizira.
Mukutanthauza chiyani mukanena m'buku kuti aphunzitsi achuluka m'miyoyo yathu, osati aphunzitsi?
Mphunzitsi akuyenera kuchita ndi munthu amene wadzipereka ku ntchito yomwe amalipidwa, yomwe ndi kutumiza malemba kapena ndondomeko, komabe mphunzitsi ayenera kuchita ndi zina zambiri. Mphunzitsi akuyenera kuchita ndi gawo lanzeru kwambiri, gawo lakumanzere, ndi mphunzitsi ndi chinthu chokwanira, ndi munthu amene amaganiza ndi mbali zonse za ubongo, amene amalankhula za makhalidwe ndi chikondi ndi ulemu. Mphunzitsi ndi loboti ndipo mphunzitsi ndi munthu.
Kodi kuphunzitsa ndi koopsa?
El wotsogolera Osati mwa iyo yokha, koma bizinesi yozungulira iyo ndi. Maphunziro a mwezi umodzi kapena iwiri zomwe zimakupangitsani kuganiza kuti ndinu katswiri ... Pakakhala kusowa kwa malamulo a makhalidwe abwino, pali anthu omwe amachita ntchito zomwe sakuzilamulira ndipo pamenepa, mukhoza kupita kukafuna thandizo ndi kutha. kuipiraipira. Kumbuyo kwa mafashoni onse muyenera kukhala okayikira. Ngati izi zichitika, nthawi zambiri pamakhala chosowa chachuma, osati chilimbikitso chaumunthu. Ndipo mu nkhani ya wotsogolera… kwa ine winawake akuitanidwa wothandizira moyo ndi zaka 24, bwino ndi 60, popanda kudutsa njira zambiri ndi ntchito zamkati ndi zovuta, ndizovuta. Ndikuganiza kuti wothandizira moyo ayenera kukhala wina isanafike nthawi ya tombstone (Series). Mphindi yokhala ndi ntchito kwa nthawi yoyamba, banja loyamba, kuti akusiyani, tiyenera kukhala ndi chidziwitso osati kukhala ndi moyo zinthu izi, koma kenako anazigwira ntchito.
Kodi Instagram ikusintha kusintha kwa maubwenzi a anthu?
Instagram ndi nsanja yomwe imalimbikitsa kuyanjana kwakanthawi kochepa, kudzikonda komanso kutsogolo. Ndikulankhula m'bukuli kuti pali mitundu iwiri ya anthu omwe amagwiritsa ntchito malo ochezera a pa Intaneti: anthu omwe nthawi zonse amasonyeza kuti ali bwino komanso omwe ali ndi udindo. Zili ngati chithunzi cha mphunzitsi ndi mphunzitsi yemwe adayankha: woyamba ali ndi njira imodzi yogwiritsira ntchito Instagram, amafuna kudzutsa kaduka ndikupambana ambiri. amakonda; yachiwiri imakhala yolumikizana kwambiri yopingasa komanso yocheperako. Chiwonetserochi pamapeto pake chimakhala chokopa, ndithudi.
Kodi chikhalidwe chimatipanga ife ngati anthu?
Mwamtheradi, ndife anthu azikhalidwe. Mwachitsanzo, anthu amangong’ung’udza nyimbo nthaŵi zonse, ndipo tiyenera kuzindikira kuti nyimbo si nyimbo chabe, koma ndi mawu, ndi mawu achisoni ndi osangalatsa ndipo izi zikutimanga. Pali chikhalidwe cha ogula chomwe chimakhala ndi chikhalidwe china, nthawi zonse chimakhala chofanana, koma timamva kuti pali mankhwala omwe timagwirizana nawo. Mwachitsanzo, mawu a nyimbo zachilatini; Zimamveka kwambiri ndipo zimatimanga ngati anthu, zimakhudza momwe tilili.
Komabe, kodi kaonekedwe kaluso kangatithandize kukhala pamtendere ndi ife eni?
Zachidziwikire, ngakhale zitipangitsa kukhala mwamtendere ndi ife tokha, sindikudziwa ... Ngakhale mumayatsa wailesi ndipo nyimbo yomweyi imasewera nthawi zonse, ndipo nthawi zambiri mumtundu uwu wachikondi wapakatikati wamatsenga umapangidwanso, chitsime chamkati, ndikubwereranso mobwerezabwereza ... sangalalani masiku onse.
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Zoonadi, chisangalalo sichingakhale chovuta kwambiri, mwinamwake ndi chinthu chophweka, ndipo chifukwa chake chimatithawa, chifukwa zomwe taphunzitsidwa ndizovuta komanso kufufuza kosalekeza.