Zolakwa 9 zomwe zingawononge chotupitsa chaukwati wanu (ndi ukwati wa wina)

Popeza si aliyense amene ali ndi luso loyankhula pagulu, ndipo tikhoza kukhala ndi mantha pazochitika zazikulu, tikukulangizani kukonzekera toast, poganizira malamulo ena.

Inde, aliyense amadziwa chinachake: mwachitsanzo, simungathe kubwera ndi mawu panthawi yomaliza, kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa musanayambe kulankhula, komanso kugwiritsa ntchito mawu otukwana poyamikira. Koma tidzakambirana za ma nuances ena.

Osakoka tositi

Choyamba, si inu nokha mlendo paukwati uwu, ndipo kumbuyo kwanu kuli mzere wa iwo omwe akufunanso kuyamika okwatirana kumene. Kachiwiri, zolankhula zanu ziyenera kukhala ndi lingaliro, lingaliro lofunikira, osaphatikizanso kubwereza mndandanda wonse wazochitika kuchokera m'moyo, malingaliro anzeru ndi mawu olekanitsa.

Choncho, malinga ndi Diane Gottsman, yemwe anayambitsa sukulu ya zamakhalidwe ku Texas, toast yabwino imakhala yosapitirira mphindi 7. Akatswiri ena amakhulupirira kuti ziyenera kutenga mphindi 2 mpaka 5-6. Chachikulu ndichakuti mawuwo azikhala atanthauzo komanso aluso.

Osazengereza kuyankhula

Zimachitika kuti nthawi ya toasting pa ukwati ndi yochepa chifukwa cha chiwerengero cha alendo kapena chifukwa cha zikhalidwe za chikondwerero, kapena okonza ajambula dongosolo linalake la zisudzo. Kumbukirani izi ndipo yesetsani kuti musakakamize kulankhula pokhapokha mutafunsidwa. Ngati mutenga zovuta zina zokonzekera tchuthi, mudzapatsa okwatirana kumene chithandizo chochuluka kuposa ngati mutadutsa maikolofoni kuti muwafunire chisangalalo ndi thanzi.

Osayika nthabwala zomwe anthu ambiri sangazimvetse.

Nthawi zambiri, anthu ambiri amasonkhana paukwati: pakati pawo pali mabwenzi awiri omwe simukuwadziwa, ndi achibale awo. Ndipo adzachita manyazi ndi nthabwala zomwe zimamveka kwa inu nokha ndi okwatirana kumene komanso gulu lochepa la anthu. Kodi ndikofunikira kuseka poyankha mawu awa? Kodi zinanenedwa mwachipongwe kapena ayi? Osamveka bwino.

Komano, ngati «akunja» kupeza nthabwala, izo zikhoza kupangitsa zinthu kuipiraipira. Mwinamwake simungafune agogo a mkwati wa zaka 80 kuti adziwe za ulendo wa unyamata wake wosokonezeka pakati pa ukwati?

Osalankhula za ma ex

Ngakhale kuti mkwati ndi mkwatibwi anakhalabe m’chigwirizano chabwino ndi mabwenzi awo akale, amene anachita mbali yaikulu m’njira yawoyawo m’miyoyo yawo, ichi sichinali chifukwa chotchulira maina awo, kupangitsa okwatirana chatsopanowo kukhala ndi mantha. Tsopano mukukondwerera kubadwa kwa banja latsopano, mukusangalala kuti okwatirana kumene apezana wina ndi mzake ndipo adaganiza kuti atengepo kanthu, makamaka kuchokera ku malamulo, sitepe. Bwino kuyang'ana pa izo.

Osayesa kukhala oseketsa

Paukwati uliwonse pamakhala mlendo amene amasangalatsa anthu ozungulira ndi nkhani zoseketsa ndi ndemanga tsiku lonse. Nzosadabwitsa kuti udindo wake «mu ulemerero» zikuoneka kukopa. Komabe, poyesa kuiyandikira, cholakwa chanu chachikulu chikhoza kunama.

“Mumadziŵa bwino zimene mumachita ndi zofooka zanu kuposa wina aliyense. Osayesa kukhala oseketsa ngati simungathe kuchita nokha, akutero katswiri wa zamakhalidwe Nick Layton. "Mukakayikira, nthawi zonse sankhani kuona mtima kusiyana ndi nthabwala."

Osalankhula za ana amtsogolo

Lamuloli likuwoneka ngati lachilengedwe, sichoncho? Komabe, ongokwatirana kumene kaŵirikaŵiri amakakamizika kumvetsera uphungu ndi maulosi okhudza ana awo amene sanakonzekere. Ndipo osati achibale okha.

Malinga ndi katswiri wa zamakhalidwe Thomas Farley, si nkhani ya kupanda ulemu chabe: «Mawu ngati 'Sindingathe kudikira mpaka mutakhala ndi mwana wamkazi wokongola' angapangitse okwatirana kukhala achisoni poonera mavidiyo aukwati, ngati adzatha kulimbana ndi kusabereka.

Osawerenga pa foni yanu

Inde, n’zosatheka kuti muyang’ane pa pepala kapena pa foni pamene mawuwo amalembedwa pa toast. Muyenera kukumbukira pang'ono zomwe mukalankhule kuti muyang'ane maso ndi omvera komanso osawoneka osatetezeka.

Panthawi imodzimodziyo, ngati mumasankha pakati pa foni ndi chosindikizira, ndi bwino kusankha chomaliza, ngakhale mukuwoneka kuti ndi chopanda ulemu. Wolemba nkhani wina dzina lake Caitlin Peterson anati: “Musamawerenge mawu pafoni yanu. - Zowoneka bwino zimatha kusokoneza nkhope yanu pazithunzi ndi makanema. Komanso, simukufuna kuti chidwi chanu chitayike pakati pakulankhula chifukwa cha chidziwitso cha uthenga wa Instagram ”(bungwe lochita zinthu monyanyira loletsedwa ku Russia).

Osapereka toast kwa m'modzi mwa okwatirana

Mwina ndinu bwenzi kapena wachibale wa mmodzi wa awiriwa: mukudziwa zambiri za iye, koma pafupifupi kanthu za mnzake. Ndipo mulimonse, ichi ndi chikondwerero cha anthu awiri, kotero toast iyenera kuperekedwa kwa onse awiri.

Muyenera kuyesetsa, mwina kufunafuna zambiri za mnzanu wa bwenzi lanu, koma ntchito yanu idzapindula: ongokwatirana kumenewo adzayamikira kuti simunanyalanyaze aliyense wa iwo.

Osatengera chidwi

"Poyesa kumveka ngati zoseketsa kapena zanzeru, okamba amayiwala kuti mphindi zawo zisanu powonekera sizokhudza iwo, koma za okwatirana kumene," akutero Victoria Wellman, woyambitsa nawo komanso wotsogolera wopanga wa Public Talk Lab. “M’nkhani zaukwati, chilichonse chonenedwa kapena kuchita chiyenera kukhala chopindulitsa mkwati ndi mkwatibwi.”

Palibe chifukwa chofufuza nkhani zaumwini pakati panu kapena kuwakumbutsa mobwerezabwereza momwe mumawakonda. Anu «Ine» ndi «ine» ayenera kukhala zochepa, chifukwa si ukwati wanu.