Ndani ananena kuti anthu achikulire sangayambe kukondana, kupanga chikondi komanso kukhala ndi maulendo? Wopuma penshoni wochokera ku USA akutsimikizira ndi chitsanzo chake kuti m'zaka khumi za moyo wanu mukhoza kumva kuti ndinu wokongola komanso osadzikana chilichonse.
Hattie Retroudzh wazaka 85 wa ku New York ali ndi ana awiri ndi zidzukulu zitatu. Zitha kuwoneka ngati akuyenera kuthera nthawi yake yonse yochita "zoyenera" za anthu okalamba: kuyankhulana ndi mabanja, kulima dimba, kuluka, kuphika ... Mzimayiyo amakumana ndi anyamata, amalangiza makasitomala pazochitika zaubwenzi, ndipo amalemba bukhu lokhudza okonda zibwenzi.
Retrowedge adasudzula mwamuna wake mu 1984 ali ndi zaka 48. Sanasangalale kuti mwamuna wake amagwira ntchito pang’ono ndipo sakanatha kulipirira maphunziro a ana aku koleji. Kenako mkaziyo anatsimikiza mtima kuti kuyambira pano azingocheza ndi anyamata okha basi.
Malinga ndi iye, abwenzi osakwana zaka 40, mosiyana ndi anzawo, ali ndi zolinga komanso zolinga. Amakhala ndi chiyembekezo chamtsogolo ndipo amapanga mapulani, ndipo wopuma pantchito amakonda kuwathandiza. Kuonjezera apo, amuna a msinkhu wake samagwirizana ndi mkazi, chifukwa sagwiritsidwa ntchito posamalira chisangalalo cha wokondedwa komanso kuti amafika pachimake.
“Sindinakumanepo ndi mwamuna amene sangafune kugona nane”
Panthawi ina, wopuma pantchito anali kufunafuna okonda pa Tinder ndipo anapita masiku atatu pa sabata. “Sindinakumanepo ndi mwamuna amene sakufuna kugona nane,” akudzitama motero.
Komabe, Retrouge salowa muubwenzi ndi mnyamata aliyense. Nthawi zambiri okwatirana amatumiza kwinakwake kuti akamwe, ndipo ngati kamoto kakalowa pakati pawo, amapita kwawo ku Retrouge, ngati sichoncho, amabalalika mwamtendere. Tsiku lina, wolandira penshoni anaika malonda m’nyuzipepala, kuvomereza kuti amafuna kugona ndi mwamuna wosakwana zaka 35. Analandira mauthenga ambiri kuchokera kwa omwe ankafuna.
Nthawi zina kugonana kumayamba kukhala pachibwenzi. Choncho, kwa nthawi ndithu mayiyo anakumana ndi John wazaka 39. Mu 2018, adawonekeranso limodzi pa kanema wawayilesi woperekedwa kwa maanja omwe ali ndi kusiyana kwakukulu kwazaka. Komabe, atangojambula, banjali linaganiza zochoka.
“Si amuna okha amene angakhale ndi ambuye achichepere. Ndinatembenuza masewera
Pakalipano, mtima wa mkazi wa ku America ndi womasuka kachiwiri, koma akukumana ndi vuto losayembekezereka. Maakaunti ake mu Tinder ndi Match adatsekedwa, ndiye tsopano wopuma pantchito akuyang'ana chikondi mu ntchito ya Bumble. Anzake ambiri adapeza chikondi kumeneko, ndipo Retrowedge sakukonzekera kutsalira. “Dzulo mnyamata wina wa ku Israel anandiimbira foni n’kunena kuti amandikonda. Zabwino bwanji!» adagawana nawo.
Komanso, wopuma pantchito posachedwapa anayamba ntchito pa autobiography, amene akufuna kutcha "Mbiri ya Cougar". Mayiyo akutsimikiza kuti zomwe akumana nazo zithandiza amayi ena achikulire kuti alowe mu ubale ndi achinyamata. “Si amuna okha amene angakhale ndi ambuye achichepere. Ndatembenuza masewerawo! " Retrowedge imatsindika.
Kodi amalangiza chiyani kwa amayi omwe akufuna kuti adzimva achigololo akakula? Chinsinsi chake ndi chosavuta: muyenera kuseweretsa maliseche, kuwonera mafilimu olaula, kuthandizira mnzanu ndipo musaiwale za masewera olimbitsa thupi. Ndiye moyo wa kugonana ndipo pambuyo pa zaka 80 udzakhala pamwamba!