Banjali siliri monga lidalili. Zomwe zidalengezedwa kale ndi chinkhoswe, kenako kusindikizidwa ndi ukwati, okwatiranawo tsopano ali okhachisankho chimodzi zomwe zimayikidwa mochuluka kapena mocheperapo mwadzidzidzi pamagulu onse awiri. Sikulinso zotsatira za lumbiro lochitidwa pa guwa pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana (kuphatikizapo ndalama kapena maubwenzi amphamvu pakati pa mabanja awiri), koma kutsimikizira kosavuta kwa anthu awiri kupanga okwatirana, kukhala pamodzi n 'kukhala kofunika kwambiri kuti akhale mmodzi. .

Awiriwa amapangidwa pamene anthu awiri azindikira kuti ali ndi wina ndi mzake a kusankha kugwirizana zomwe zimawakakamiza kupanga ubale wokhalitsa. Chodabwitsa ichi chikuwoneka kwa anthu onse awiri ngati achilengedwe, osapeŵeka komanso amphamvu mokwanira kuti asokoneze mapulani omwe anali nawo asanakumane.

Kwa Robert Neuburger, banjali limapangidwa pamene " anthu awiri amayamba kuuzana wina ndi mzake ndipo nkhani ya banjali iwafotokozera mobwereza ”. izi nkhani salinso m'ndege yofanana ndi zochitika zatsiku ndi tsiku zomwe zisanachitike msonkhano wawo ndipo nthawi yomweyo zimadzazidwa ndi " Kuyambitsa nthano Zomwe zimafotokozera kusamveka kwa kukumana kwawo. Ndi nkhani yomwe imapereka tanthauzo la msonkhano wawo ndi zochitika zake, kuyambira kuya mpaka kwa banja lawo: okonda awiriwa amakhulupirira izo zenizeni ndipo aliyense amalingalira mnzake.

Nkhaniyi imalimbikitsidwa, monganso m'zikhulupiliro zonse, ndi miyambo monga chikondwerero cha chikumbutso cha msonkhano, ukwati, Tsiku la Valentine komanso zikumbutso zina zophiphiritsira za chikondi chawo, zochitika za msonkhano kapena zochitika zazikulu za banja lawo. Ngati ina mwa miyambo iyi, yomwe imalimbitsa nthanoyo nthawi zonse, imaponderezedwa kapena kuyiwalika, nkhaniyo imagwedezeka: " Ngati anayiwala tsiku lokumbukira ukwati wathu, kapena sananditengere kumalo ongopeka omwe timakumana nawo chaka chilichonse, kodi ndichifukwa choti amandikonda mochepera, mwina ayi? “. Zomwezo zimapitanso ndi zizindikiro za nkhaniyi: njira yolankhulirana, njira yoitanirana wina ndi mzake, kugogoda pakhomo, ndi gulu lonse la zizindikiro zosiyana zomwe zimakhala zovuta kuti ena azindikire, omwe ali achilendo ku nkhaniyi. . .

"Msonkhano" sichiyenera kuchitika pa nthawi ya kuyanjana koyamba pakati pa okonda awiri amtsogolo: ndizochitika za kuphulika kwakanthawi komwe kumapangitsa kuti kuyanjana kusinthe ndikusokoneza dongosolo lomwe lilipo la maphunziro awiriwa. Zowonadi, pamene okwatirana afotokoza za msonkhano wawo, kaŵirikaŵiri amasiya kukumbukira zimene anachita poyamba. Amafotokoza nkhani ya pamene zonse zinayamba kwa iwo. Nthawi zina mphindi iyi imakhala yosiyana kwa okonda awiriwo.

Kodi amakumana bwanji? Choyamba, tiyenera kuvomereza kuti kuyandikira, yomwe imasonyeza mitundu yonse ya kuyandikira mumlengalenga, imakhala ndi chikoka champhamvu pa zosankha za okondedwa. Kuyandikira kwa malo, chikhalidwe, kapangidwe kapena magwiridwe antchito ndi njira yomwe imasonkhanitsa anthu ofanana, mawonekedwe, zaka, komanso kukoma, ndikupanga okwatirana ambiri. Choncho m'njira tinganene « Mbalame za nthenga zimauluka pamodzi ". Anthu awiriwa omwe ali mchikondi akhulupirira nkhani yomwe ikuwatsimikizira kuti ndi banja lopangidwa ndi anthu awiri opangira wina ndi mnzake, ofanana, okwatirana.

Ngati tiyenera kukhulupirira zisankho, mpira, womwe unali kwa nthawi yayitali malo oyamba kupanga maanja, sulinso paphwando. Ndipo makalabu ausiku sanatengeke kwenikweni: pafupifupi 10% ya mabanja akadapanga komweko mzaka za m'ma 2000. Misonkhano yoyandikana nawo kapena m’banja yatsatira njira imodzimodziyo. Ndi tsopano maphwando achinsinsi ndi abwenzi ndi maulalo opangidwa panthawi yamaphunziro, zomwe zimadyetsa misonkhano, zomwe zikuyimira 20% ndi 18% mwa izi. Zizoloŵezi zokhala m'banja ndi munthu wapamtima zimakhalabe, ndi njira zogwirizanitsa kusintha kumeneku. ” Timasonkhana ndi munthu yemwe ali pamlingo wofanana ndi ife, yemwe tingathe kukambirana naye ” akutsimikizira katswiri wa chikhalidwe cha anthu Michel Bozon.

Chilakolako chachikondi chomwe chimayendetsa anthu awiriwa kumayambiriro kwa chiyanjano sichikhalitsa. Ikhoza kutha monga idabwera ndipo ilibe chochita ndi cholumikizira, chomwe chingathe kugwira ntchito zosinthana zokhazikika. Ngati chikondi chawocho chikhalitsa, ngati akufuna kuti chikhale chokhalitsa, akhoza kukhala okondana, kotero kuti aliyense athe kukulitsa ubale wokhazikika wamalingaliro ndi mnzawo yemwe amamuona ngati munthu wapadera, wosasinthana komanso yemwe tikufuna kukhala naye pafupi. . Ndi mtundu wa ubale womwe umakhala wofunikira mwachilengedwe kuti munthu athe kuwongolera malingaliro ake, kuganiza bwino. Ngati asunga maulalo awo, ndikuwakulitsa, okonda awiriwa amatha kupanga zamoyo zabwino, zenizeni, za konkire, zapamwamba. Pakadali pano, zongopeka zangochitika mwangozi, okwatirana amoyo ndi zolengedwa zofananira sizikugwiranso. Kwa Jean-Claude Maes, okonda ali ndi zisankho ziwiri kuti "akhalebe m'chikondi":

Kuphatikiza zomwe zikutanthauza kuti aliyense wa okondedwa amavomereza kupanga magawo ake okha omwe amakwaniritsa zosowa za mnzake.

Kugwirizana zomwe zikutanthauza kuti aliyense amasiya zinthu zina zomwe amazikonda, kuti agwirizane, motero kusandutsa ngozi ya mkangano m'banjamo kukhala mkangano wamkati. Ndi njira yachiwiri iyi yomwe William Shakespeare amayambira ku Troilus ndi Cressida, yomwe ili ndi mawu omveka bwino.

TROILUS - Ndi chiyani, madame, chimakupwetekani?

CRESSIDA - Kampani yanga yomwe, bwana.

TROILUS - Simungathe kudzithawa nokha.

CRESSIDA - Ndiloleni ndipite, ndiloleni ndiyesere. Ndili ndi ine ndekha yemwe amakhala ndi inu, komanso munthu wina woyipa yemwe amakonda kudzipatula kukhala chosewerera cha wina. Ndikufuna kukhala nditapita ... chifukwa changa chathawira kuti? Sindikudziwanso zomwe ndikunena ...

TROILUS - Mukamalankhula ndi nzeru zambiri, mumadziwa zomwe mukunena.

CRESSIDA - Mwina ndinasonyeza chikondi chochepa kuposa kuchenjera, Ambuye, ndipo ndinapanga poyera kuvomereza kwakukulu kotero kuti ndifufuze maganizo anu; tsopano ndakupezani inu anzeru, chotero opanda chikondi, chifukwa kukhala wanzeru ndi m’chikondi n’koposa mphamvu za munthu ndipo kuli koyenera kwa milungu yokha.

« Ndikuti banja lililonse, ndipo izi zikuwonekera kwambiri masiku ano, sizinthu zina koma nkhani yomwe timapereka mbiri, choncho ndi nkhani yodziwika bwino ya mawuwa. » Koma Philippe

“Lamulo lachibadwa ndiloti timafuna zosiyana ndi zathu, koma kuti tizigwirizana ndi anzathu. Chikondi chimatanthauza kusiyana. Ubwenzi umasonyeza kufanana, kufanana kwa zokonda, mphamvu ndi khalidwe. “ Francoise Parturier

"M'moyo, kalonga ndi abusa sangakumane. ” Michel Boson