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Eduardo Llamazares: «Tazolowera kuganiza chifukwa timaopa kuchitapo kanthu»
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Zomwe takumana nazo zapangitsa Eduardo Llamazares kulemba buku lothandizira, «Malingaliro, ndisiyeni ndikhale ndi moyo!»Izi zimatumikira omwe maganizo awo amawalepheretsa kukhala ndi moyo wokhutiritsa. Doctor in Physiotherapy ndi «coach», Llamazares wakonza bukuli ndi zofunika zosakaniza chotsani mphamvu ya malingaliro, nthawi zambiri zovulaza. Kudziwa kwanu ndi zokumana nazo zaumwini Iwo apereka makiyi kuti aphunzitsenso malingaliro ndi kusangalala popanda kuzunzika kopangidwa ndi machitidwe ophunzirira omwe samatithandiza konse.
N’chifukwa chiyani timavutika chonchi ndipo maganizo athu salola kuti tipite patsogolo?
Timaganiza kuti ndife otero ndipo ndi chinthu chimene sitingathe kuchisintha chifukwa ndi umunthu wathu. Neuroscience yatiwonetsa kuti ubongo wathu umatha kudzisintha wokha ndipo umatilola kuti tizidziwona tokha mwanjira ina ndikuchita zinthu zosiyanasiyana: kukhala opanda ungwiro, kupereka phindu ku malingaliro a ena ... chovuta koma ndi chinthu chomwe chimatibweretsera zabwino zambiri. Kupsinjika komwe timadzipangitsa tokha kumayambitsa matenda monga matumbo okwiya, nkhawa, dermatitis, kusowa tulo ...
Kodi zomwe timaganiza zimatifotokozera ife?
Sitipanga zosankha mwaufulu. Sitisankha zomwe timaganiza kapena zomwe timachita kuchokera ku ufulu, koma timachita kuchokera m'malingaliro omwe ali ndi chikumbumtima komanso zinthu zomwe sitikuzidziwa. Nthawi zina zaubwana wathu zimatipangitsa kukhala osangalala chifukwa ndizochitika zomwe zidalembedwa kalekale m'maganizo mwathu: kupezerera anzawo, ubale woyipa, wachibale wovuta ...
Pali zinthu zazikulu zimene zimasintha mwadzidzidzi kaganizidwe kathu
Pali anthu omwe amasintha malingaliro awo chinthu chofunikira chikawachitikira: ngozi, matenda, kutayika ... Amasintha zomwe amayendera ndikuyamba kuona moyo mosiyana, kudzifunira zochepa, kudzisamalira okha ... Ndipo zikomo kwambiri. ku chochitika chovuta kwambiri. N’cifukwa ciani zinthu ngati zimenezi ziyenela kucitika pa umoyo wathu kuti tisinthe maganizo athu? Maganizo angatipweteke kwambiri.
Kodi kuika zinthu zofunika kwambiri pa zinthu zimene sizinachitike n'kofunikira kumatanthauza mantha athu?
Mogwira mtima. Malingaliro athu amagwiritsa ntchito malingaliro kuti apange zochitika zomwe sitikonda, njira yodzitetezera tokha komanso maziko a nkhawa. Timavutika popanda ntchito chifukwa cha zinthu zomwe mwina sizingachitike. Koma kuyambira tili ana, maganizo athu anaphunzira kuti tiyenera kulamulira chilichonse. Tinaganiza zophunzira kulenga mavuto pasadakhale. Malingaliro athu samasiyanitsa zenizeni ndi zomwe sizichitika ndipo chifukwa chake nkhawa imayamba. Timakhala ndi mantha ndipo izi zimabweretsa nkhawa chifukwa timaganiza kuti sitingadziwe momwe tingayendetsere zomwe zikubwera m'tsogolomu pomwe tili ndi zinthu zoti tithane nazo. Mantha amatithera, tikulimbana, timagona maola ochepa, zimakhudza chitetezo chathu cha mthupi ... Tayamba chizolowezi choganiza chifukwa choopa kuchitapo kanthu.
Ndi kuyembekezera ndi kuyesa kufanana ndi nthawi chinachake chomwe chingachitike kapena sichingachitike
Ndiko kuti, ndipo zomwe zimatheka ndi izi ndikupewa kupanga zisankho. M'malo mochita zochita kapena kukambirana ndi munthu wina, kutenga ziwombankhanga, timatembenuza malingaliro athu ndipo timapitirizabe ndi mantha amenewo. Sitikuchita chilichonse kuti tisinthe. Njira yothetsera vutoli? Dziwani njira iyi yowonera moyo ndikupanga zatsopano. Yambani kuchita ndi masitepe ang'onoang'ono kuti muwone zomwe zikuchitika ndipo malingaliro athu adzagwirizana kuti tingadziwonetsere momwe tilili.
N’cifukwa ciani timadziimba mlandu cifukwa ca ena?
Iwo ndi machitidwe ophunziridwa omwe amachokera ku ubwana. Kaŵirikaŵiri, tili ana, sitinawonjezere kukhulupirika kwathu kapena kukulitsa umunthu wathu. Cholinga chake chinali chakuti tigwirizane ndi chikombole: kupeza magiredi abwino, kukhala opambana m'kalasi ... Taphunzitsidwa zambiri kuchokera kufananiza ndipo taphunzira kuti tiyenera kukwaniritsa ziyembekezo za ena ndikudzimva kukhala ndi udindo pazomwe zimachitikira ena pamene chiridi chinachake chimene chimadalira pa zinthu zambiri osati pa ife.
Vuto lalikulu la anthu oganiza bwino kwambiri ndi loti amangoganizira za ena osati za iwo eni. Timada nkhawa ndi zimene ena amatiganizira, ndipo sitikuona kuti n’kofunika kwambiri kuti tizimasuka ndi zimene timachita kapena mmene tilili. Timaona kuti maganizo a ena n’ngofunika kwambiri osati zimene timafunikira kuti tizimva bwino.
Kodi kudzudzulidwa kumatilepheretsa kukhala ndi moyo wabwino?
Tikulimbitsa malingaliro athu kuti tiyang'ane zoyipa mwa anthu ena ndipo mosakayikira timayang'ananso zoyipa zathu. Tikupanga kawopsedwe kowona zoyipa nthawi zonse. Malo athu amatisonkhezera ndipo amapangitsa malingaliro athu kuganiza mwanjira ina chifukwa amalimbikitsidwa m'makhalidwe ena. Timayiwala kuti pali zinthu zodabwitsa mwa munthuyo kapena mkhalidwewo ndipo tiyenera kubwezera mwa kuyang'ana chinthu chabwino nthawi zonse. Kodi mungalole kuti mulowetse zinthu zotani m'maganizo mwanu?
Dulani
Dziwani kuti ndi anthu ati, zochitika ndi magulu omwe amakudzudzulani. Sankhani kusintha maganizo anu, osati kusokoneza anthu amene akukudzudzulaniwo kapena kusadziika m’mavuto. Dziphunzitseni kuti mudziwe kuti ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zili ndi "mphamvu yowononga" ndikusankha kusintha ndi zina, anthu, zowerengera kapena makanema ndi "mphamvu yomanga".
Kodi zomwe timaganiza za ena zimatifotokozera ife?
Tidazolowera kuwona zolakwika zathu ndikuziwona mwa anthu ena zimapanga galasi. Timakonda kuona mwa ena zinthu zomwe ngakhale ife tilibe kapena kutilephera. Ngati zikukuvutani kuti munthu ali wokondwa kwambiri, mwachitsanzo, zingakhale chifukwa chakuti zimakhala zovuta kuti mukhale ndi kusonyeza.
Kodi kukhululuka ndi kupempha chikhululuko kumasula maganizo athu?
Kodi maganizo amene ndikukhala nawo amandithandiza kukhala ndi mtendere wamumtima? Mukayankha funso limeneli, mudzakhala omveka bwino cholinga chanu m’moyo. Ndi kusunga malingaliro anu ku zakale. Nazi mavuto a anthu: kuvutika maganizo kumbali imodzi ndi nkhawa kumbali inayo. Kumbali imodzi, ndife ochuluka m'mbuyomo: kuzunzidwa, kukwiyitsa banja, komanso nthawi zonse timaganizira za m'tsogolo, zomwe zimatipangitsa kupsinjika maganizo. Kutalikirana ndi chinthu chodabwitsa chomwe tingathe kuchita, kusiya zinthu zakale ndikusankha momwe tikufuna kumverera kuyambira pano ndi zomwe taphunzira kuchokera ku zomwe takumana nazo. Ndi kusankha pakati pa kukhala ndi moyo wabwino kapena kuika maganizo pa chinthu chimene mulibe mphamvunso kuchilamulira.