Kudzikuza kumatanthauzidwa ndi umunthu womwe umapezeka mwa anthu omwe amakonda kuyankhula zambiri za iwo eni, kudzipenda okha. Pafupi ndi narcissism, kudzikuza kumapangitsa kukhala kotheka kuwongolera chithunzi cha munthu, kudzikweza ndi kukokomeza luso lake, luso lake ndi mikhalidwe ina.

Liwu lakuti “egotism” limachokera ku kutembenuzidwa koyambirira kwa zaka za zana la 19, ku liwu lachingerezi lakuti “egotism”. Kutanthauziridwa koyamba ndi liwu loti "egoism" lomwe tikudziwa, kudzikuza kulibe tanthauzo lomwe. Inde, akudzikonda ndi mawu achi French omwe amatanthauza kudzikonda mopambanitsa; 'kudzikuza kusonyeza kuziziritsa mtima kuyankhula za wekha. Ngakhale muzu wachilatini wa mawu akuti "ego" ndi womwewo, wodzikuza, yemwe amasamala kwambiri zofuna zake, amasiyana kwambiri ndi odzikonda, amene amadzikonda yekha ndi chikondi chopambanitsa.

Ndi funso la kudzipembedza, kudzikuza mopambanitsa umunthu wa munthu, makamaka ndi chizolowezi chongolankhula za iye mwini.

Egoist amamva chikhumbo chokhazikika chowonetsa ndikuwonetsa kwa ena kufunikira kwake, zomwe amachita mosangalala kwambiri. Nthawi zambiri amawonetsa kufunikira kwakukulu popanda chifukwa ku luso lamba kapena luso.

Monga taonera, munthu wodzikuza ndi munthu amene amaima pa chopondapo ndipo amasangalala kumadzitama. Motero, amakhala munthu wodzilekanitsa ndi ena n’kusiya kutchera khutu ku zimene zikuchitika pafupi naye.

Zofuna za ena zimapita patsogolo kuposa zake, ndipo m’pake kuti amaziona kukhala zofunika kwambiri. Choncho, egoist ali ndi kusowa chifundo kwa ena, ndipo amamupangitsa kuwaganizira ngati njira yokwaniritsira zolinga zake. Zolinga za chitukuko cha ego, kuti apambane pakuwala kwambiri ndi chikoka chake ndi umunthu wake. The egoist amakula kofunika kwambiri, ngati si mopambanitsa, kudzidalira ndi kudzidalira. Izi zimapangitsa munthuyu kukhala wodzikuza, wotsekeredwa m'zinthu zake, ndipo sangathe kutsegulira ena ndi luso lawo kapena kupambana kwawo.

Kumbali ina, wodzitukumula ali ndi kawonedwe kabwino ka zinthu: amamveketsa bwino lomwe kuti iye amadziŵa bwino koposa aliyense mmene ena ayenera kukhalira. Izi zimamupatsa mphamvu yodzilamulira yomwe akufuna, apo ayi adzakhala odzitchinjiriza pamene zinthu sizikuchitidwa monga momwe adalangizira.

Okhoza kusokoneza mtendere wa ena kuti apeze zomwe akufuna, odzikuza ndi anthu omwe savomereza kuti sakuwamvera.

Kuwoneka kuchokera kunja, wodzikuza akuwoneka kuti ali ndi chidaliro chochuluka. Komabe, sizili choncho. Pogwidwa ndi kusatetezeka kolimba kwa mkati, amayesa pamwamba pa zonse kuti abise, kukhulupirira motero kuti apewe kuti munthu asakane umunthu wake.

Pokhalabe ndi chithunzi cha iwo eni omwe amawawona kuti ndi angwiro m'maso mwawo (ndipo amatanthawuza, pamaso pa ena), amayesa kuchita bwino pantchitoyo komanso ogwira mtima kuposa momwe alili. Mwachidule, mantra yawo ndikusalola kuti ziwoneke ngati akulephera kudzilamulira, kaya ndi zomwe zikuchitika komanso / kapena chithunzi chawo. Koma zonsezi ndi chinyengo chabe, chifukwa ego ali ngati wina aliyense: osatetezeka komanso opanda ungwiro.

Pamene mukuchita ndi ego tsiku ndi tsiku, ena mwa peculiarities wake akhoza mwamsanga pa misempha, ndi chithunzithunzi chabe yopuma naye. Komabe, pali njira zingapo zomwe zimamulola kuti atuluke m'ndende yake ndikumusangalatsa pang'onopang'ono ena ndi zilakolako zawo.

Choyamba, ndizothandiza kukopa munthu wodzikuza, kumutsimikizira za makhalidwe ake (ngakhale amawalengeza nthawi zonse). Zikuwoneka zodabwitsa, koma tiyenera kukumbukira kuti egoist, pansi pamtima, samadzikonda kwambiri ndipo amafunika kutsimikiziridwa, kupatsidwa chidaliro. Akamvetsetsa kuti ali m'dera "ochezeka", amasiya kutembenuza chilichonse mozungulira yekha.

Pamenepo, m’poyenera kukhala wachifundo ndi wodzikuza. Pamene ali m'mavuto ndi ego yake, kumupangitsa kuti amvetse kuti amamvetsetsa, mofatsa komanso mwachifundo, podziyika yekha mu nsapato zake, adzamumasula nthawi yomweyo.

Mwa kusonyeza kukoma mtima ndi kulolerana, pokhala oleza mtima mopambanitsa, timatsimikizira kwa wodzikuza kuti timakhulupirira mu luso lake, kuti alibe chotsimikizira. Izi zimachepetsa kusapeza kwake. Tikhozanso kumvetsera kwa iye, koma popanda kumulola kuti alankhule yekha, pomukakamiza kuti asinthe, mwinamwake kusiya kukambirana (kapena ngakhale chipinda kapena nyumba). Pomukakamiza kuti akhale mu kusinthanitsa, komanso kuti asabweretse chirichonse kwa iye, pang'onopang'ono adzazindikira kuti pali zinthu zokongola zomwe muyenera kuzidziwa ndi kuzidziwa kunja kwake.