Kodi chabwino ndi chiyani chomwe chili choipa? Momwe mungachitire anthu othawa kwawo, chochita ndi ana amphaka komanso kutaya mabuku akale? Kodi zingakhale bwino kukweza malipiro mu dipatimenti ndipo Petrov ayenera kuchotsedwa ntchito? Pali zambiri zazikulu ndi zazing'ono m'moyo, ndipo kwa aliyense wa iwo muyenera kupanga malo anu.
Ichi ndi chakuda ndipo ichi ndi choyera. Tidzawonjezera malipiro kuyambira Seputembala, tidzachotsa Petrov. Mabuku omwe sanawerengedwe kwa zaka 10 zapitazi ndipo sadzawerengedwa m'zaka 5 zikubwerazi - timawataya.
Malo ena ali ndi mfundo zomveka bwino zonena kuti YES kapena AYI, PITIRIZANI kapena OSATI.
Choncho, kupanga malo odziwika bwino ndi ntchito yovuta kwambiri kwa ambiri. Ambiri samangolankhula, komanso amalingalira mwanjira ina mosadziwika bwino, osamveka bwino, osokonezeka. Kutali ndi amuna onse amatha kufotokoza momveka bwino, momveka bwino komanso motsimikizika, makamaka izi ndizovuta za amayi. Amayi ambiri samangokhala ndi chizolowezi chopanga malingaliro awo omveka bwino, amapewanso. Kaŵirikaŵiri zimenezi zimanenedwa poyera: “Ndimawopa kulipanga mwaukali kwambiri. Chilichonse m'moyo ndi chosamvetsetseka. Sindikufuna kudzitsekera m'mapangidwe amphamvu kwambiri, ndiyenera kukhala ndi ufulu woganiza, ndikufunika mwayi wochita zinthu molingana ndi momwe zinthu zilili ndikusintha malingaliro anga.
Tsopano, izi sizokhudza kutsimikizika. Izi ndi za categorical ndi amakani. Categoricalness ndi kukana ufulu wa malingaliro osiyana, kuuma ndi kusafuna kusintha malo ngakhale pamene sikuyeneranso.
Kuti tisasokoneze kutsimikizika ndi kukakamira komanso kusakhazikika, timafotokoza momveka bwino kuti: "Mawonekedwe omwe mwapanga ndikuwafotokoza sangakhale omaliza. Simukuyenera kumamatira kwa moyo wanu wonse, mutha kusintha nthawi zonse. Ngati izi sizili zokakamizika kwa anthu ena, koma malingaliro anu ndi malo anu okha, ndiye kuti kusintha malingaliro anu muzochitika zatsopano sikuli kusagwirizana konse, koma kusinthasintha koyenera.
Pamtunda pali masewera olimbitsa thupi "No categoricalness", omwe amapangidwira anthu omwe ali ndi malingaliro odziwika bwino. Zochita ziwirizi zimakhala ngati ma antipodes awiri, ngakhale pambuyo pake mudzazindikira kuti amagwirizana bwino. Muyenera kuphunzira kuyankhula osati mwachisawawa, ndi mawu ofewa komanso odekha, polankhula momveka bwino komanso motsimikizika.
Cholinga cha masewerawa: Kuonjezera ntchito «Kulankhula kwatanthauzo», kulimbikitsa kutalika ndi malingaliro a kuganiza ndi kulankhula kwa omwe akutenga nawo mbali patali.
Munthu amene ali ndi udindo womveka amagwedezeka pang'ono m'moyo. Akhoza kusintha maganizo ake, koma izi sizichitika zokha, koma mwadala. Munthu yemwe ali ndi malingaliro ena alibe zokonda zamadzimadzi zokha zomwe zimasintha ndi malingaliro ndi zinthu zosasintha, komanso zolimba, zomveka bwino. Ndi munthu wodalirika m'mawu, mutha kukambirana.
Kukhoza kukambirana ndikutha kugwirizanitsa malo awiri osiyana komanso omveka bwino. Ndipo ngati mulibe maganizo omveka bwino, mungagwirizane bwanji ndi inu pa nkhani inayake?
Ndipo, chofunika kwambiri, chitukuko cha ntchitoyi chimachepetsa kwambiri mkangano wa kulankhulana pakati pa anthu. Nkosavuta kutsutsa ngati palibe udindo.
Maganizo anga ndi akuti malo anu si olondola.
- Ndi iti yolondola?
- Sindikudziwa. Koma zanu ndi zolakwika.
Ngati munthu ankaganiza za udindo wake, iye yekha anali kufunafuna mfundo zake zomveka ndi kulungamitsidwa, koma palibe chabwino, ndi anthu anzeru kusankha osati malo kuti n'zosatheka kupeza cholakwika (izi sizichitika), koma opanda ungwiro. yomwe ili ndi ubwino wambiri poyerekeza ndi ena. Amakhala wololera.
Mulimonsemo, nthawi zina zimakhala zotheka kuphatikiza malo awiri enieni kukhala amodzi. Ndipo kuphatikiza malo amodzi omveka bwino ndi kuwukira sikungagwire ntchito.
Masewera olimbitsa thupi
Pamene mukuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, ntchito yanu muzokambirana zilizonse ndikulongosola momveka bwino momwe mulili. Udindo wanu sungakhale womaliza, koma womveka komanso womveka. Zikafika pakufunika kupanga chosankha, ndinu okonzeka kupanga chisankho chanu.
Muyenera kukulitsa luso lolankhula momveka bwino za udindo wanu. Muyenera kunena kuti "ndili nazo" komanso "ndikutsutsana nazo."
Kwa nthawi yonse yolimbitsa thupi, nthawi zambiri masabata 1-2 akugwira ntchito molimbika komanso mwezi woyeretsa, tikulimbikitsidwa kuti tichotse mawu otembenuka: "Chabwino, sindikudziwa ...", "Zonse zimatengera momwe zinthu ziliri", "Nthawi zina, ndipo nthawi zina sichoncho", "Chabwino, nonse mukulondola", "Ndimathandizira malingaliro onse awiri", "50/50" ndi zina zotero. Mukumvetsa, nthawi zina zonse zimatengera momwe zinthu ziliri, koma tsopano muyenera kuphunzira kutsimikizika kwenikweni. Mwezi umodzi muyenera kuchita popanda mawu ngati mtambo.
Mosamala! Ngati malo omveka bwino komanso olondola omwe mwawafotokozera ayambitsa mikangano kapena masoka osafunikira, samalani. Apa mutha kukhala chete, ntchito yathu ndikuphunzira, osati kuwononga moyo wathu kapena wa ena. Total: timagwira ntchito popanda kutengeka.
Mtengo wa OZR: Pakuperekedwa kwa ntchitoyi, mudzapatsidwa mitu yotsutsana yomwe muyenera kukambirana, kuwonetsa wolankhulana naye momveka bwino, momveka bwino komanso momveka bwino. Muyenera kunena momveka bwino komanso momveka bwino kuti "Ndili ndi izi" komanso "ndikutsutsana ndi izi." Kutha kupanga ndi kuteteza maudindo otere kudzaganiziridwa ngati kuchita izi.