Zamkatimu
Kuwunikira gasi, mawonekedwe a nkhanza omwe amakupangitsani kukhulupirira kuti mumakhala zenizeni
Psychology
Kuwunikira gasi kapena kupanga "magetsi" pa munthu ndi mtundu wina wamavuto amisala omwe amakhala ndi malingaliro a zenizeni za winayo
Akatiuza "ukunena chiyani?", "Osachita sewero" kapena "bwanji mumakhala kumbuyo nthawi zonse?" mwa apo ndi apo, sikofunikira kuyika chidwi chathu pachokha, koma pamene awa ndi mawu ena abwerezedwa pokambirana ndi anthu omwe tili nawo pafupi, tiyenera kuyamba kuyambitsa ma alamu onse chifukwa mwina tikukhudzidwa ndi izi.
Mawuwa adachokera pamasewera omwewa mu 1938 komanso kanema wotsatira waku America mu 1944. Mwa iwo, bambo amayendetsa zinthu zakunyumba ndi zokumbukira kuti mkazi wake akhulupirire kuti ndiwopenga ndikusunga chuma chake. Tsopano, mawuwa afika tsiku ndi tsiku kuzindikira anthu oopsa.
Kuwunikira gasi, komwe kumatchedwanso "Gasi kuwala", ndi mtundu wina wamavuto amisala omwe amakhala gwiritsani malingaliro a zenizeni za winayo. Laura Fuster Sebastián, katswiri wazachipatala ku Valencia, akufotokoza kuti munthu amene amamuvutitsa mwamaganizidwe mosazindikira kapena mosazindikira amasokoneza wovutikayo kuti akayikire momwe angaweruzire: yemwe sakudziwanso zomwe ayenera kukhulupirira ndipo izi zimabweretsa nkhawa, kuzunzika, chisokonezo, ndi zina zambiri ».
Zizindikiro zomwe zimawonetsa kuti ndimavutika ndikuwala mafuta
Kuti muwone ngati mukudwala "mpweya wamafuta" muyenera kudziwa momwe zinthuzi zimasinthira, mverani zokambirana zilizonse zomwe zingachitike kuti muthe kusiyanitsa magawo atatu omwe atha kuchitika: ndi kutaya.
Laura Fuster Sebastián akufotokoza kuti pakukonzekera, wozunzidwayo amakonda munthu amene amapanga "gasi wonyezimira", pomwe amadzionetsera ngati mnzake wokwanira: wozunza, ngakhale zitha kuchitikanso muubwenzi, ogwira nawo ntchito, ndi ena, omwe timalumikizana nawo kwambiri kuyambira pachiyambi ndipo sitiwona chilema chilichonse mwa iwo ».
La siteji yachangu Ndipamene wozunzidwayo amayamba "kupembedzedwa" nkulephera kuchita kena kake bwino, koma atayesa kuyerekezera, amafunitsitsa kukonza zinthu.
Taya gawo: apa mavuto amayamba ndipo wozunza salinso ndi nkhawa zokonza vutoli, atayesetsa kubweza ngongoleyo mphindi zina zabwino. Ndiye kuti, atha kukhala anthu omwe amakonda kucheza ndi anzawo.
Ndipo, tikukhala munthawi imeneyi, kodi omwe amachitidwayo amakhala bwanji ndi izi?
Kukhala wokhumudwa: «Zonsezi zidzakupangitsani inu kukhala achisoni, otsika komanso osatetezeka. Mudzadabwa ngati ndinu omvera kwambiri ndipo mudzadziimba mlandu chifukwa chosadziwa kusangalala ndi moyo, kukumbukira nthawi zabwino ", akutero katswiri wamaganizidwe.
Kuchuluka kwa zifukwa. Mutha nthawi yanu kudzilungamitsa nokha, kapena, mutha kupeza kulimba mtima kuti mukambirane zamkangano, ngakhale mukudziwa kuti zithetsa kukangana. "Izi zitembenuka ndipo pamapeto pake mudzaganiza kuti ndizo malingaliro anu, kuti sizinali zoyipa kwambiri, kapena kuti mupepese."
Ndi maubwenzi ochepa ochezera. Monga tafotokozera kale, mwina mumatha kukhala ndi malingaliro olakwika a anzanu kapena ngakhale atakusandulirani chifukwa chosasunthika, ndiye kuti mumayanjana ndi anthu ochepa nthawi zonse…
Momwe mungatulukire kuno
Nthawi zina timaganiza kuti kuthetsa chibwenzi ndi munthu amene amatichitira zoipa ndikosavuta, koma nthawi zambiri zosemphana zimachitika. Malinga ndi katswiri wama psychology, ozunzidwa omwe apatsidwa "gasi wamagesi" sakudziwanso zoyenera kapena zenizeni. Chifukwa chake, kuzunzidwa kwamtunduwu kumatha kukhala kovuta kwambiri kuti munthu amene akuvutikayo komanso malo ake azindikire kuposa kuchitiridwa nkhanza.
«Chinthu choyamba chimene tiyenera kuchita ndicho kuzindikira zizindikiro zomwe tatchulazi ndikuzindikira kuti tili ndi vuto. Pakadali pano, kulumikizana ngati banja kwachepa kwambiri, koma ndi njira imodzi yothanirana ndi mavutowa ”, akutero a Laura Fuster Sebastián, ndikulimbikitsa anthu kuti ayambe kulumikizana momasuka, anene zomwe akuganiza komanso kuti asadzione ngati olakwa. "Ndiudindo wa onse kukonza vutoli, chifukwa chake, musadzilungamitse mopitirira muyeso ndipo musapepese."
Mfundo ina yofunika kuikumbukira ndi ya kulimbikitsa malingaliro. "Palibe amene angakuuzeni momwe muyenera kukhudzidwira nthawi zina, ndipo simuyenera kupepesa chifukwa chokhumudwa kapena kukwiya."
Kubwezeretsanso maubale ndi kufunsa thandizo kudzakuthandizani kuti mukhale bwino, kukulitsa kudzidalira kwanu ndikuwona zinthu kuchokera kwina. «Musazengereze kupempha thandizo ndikufotokozera zomwe mukumva pafupi nanu. Ngati ndi kotheka, katswiri wamaganizidwe angakuthandizeni kudziwa ngati zomwe zikukuchitikirani zikuchitikadi kuyatsa gasi ndikuyika yankho lake », akumaliza katswiriyo.
Chilankhulo chomwe chimagwiritsidwa ntchito
Chilankhulo chomwe wozunzayo amagwiritsa ntchito chingakupatseni chidziwitso kuti akukupatsani "kuwala kwa mpweya." Laura Fuster Sebastián (@laurafusterpsicologa) akunena zomwe zingakhale zina mwazinthu zomwe zimakonda kutchulidwa:
“Umachita zinthu mopambanitsa.”
"Ndikufuna thandizo".
"Sindinachite izi".
“Ukupsa ndi kanthu.”
“Usokonekanso.”
“Khazikani mtima pansi kamodzi.”
Osachita masewera.
"Sindinanenepo izi".
Chifukwa chiyani mumakhala nthawi zonse podzitchinjiriza?
"Mukulankhula za chiyani?".
"Ndi vuto lako".
Ndiwe wosamala kwambiri. ”
“Sintha zinthu.”
“Lekani kuyerekezera zinthu.”
"Ndimangocheza".
Sukumbukira chilichonse. ”
Zimakhala chimodzimodzi nthawi zonse ndi iwe. ”
umunthu
Monga momwe a Laura Fuster Sebastián anenera, munthu amene amachitira nkhanza wina amakhala ndi izi:
Amakunamizani nthawi zonse. Ndipo osati zokhazo, azinena motsimikiza kuti pamapeto pake mukayikira zenizeni zomwe mwawona ndipo pamapeto pake mudzakhulupilira.
Ndikukana zonse. Zilibe kanthu kuti mwamva, kuti mumabwerezanso mwachangu komanso mopanda tanthauzo, komanso kuti mukudziwa motsimikiza kwathunthu kuti anena kanthu chifukwa, malinga ndi katswiri wamaganizidwe, "anthu awa amakana zenizeni ngakhale muli ndi umboni." Adzakubwerezerani zambiri mpaka pamapeto pake mudzalandira malingaliro awo bola ngati simukutsatira.
Idzakupatsani "laimu imodzi ndi mchenga". Tsiku lonse azikumenyani ndikukuwuzani kuti mukukokomeza kapena kupenga, komabe adzagwiritsa ntchito kulimbikitsidwa kwabwino kuti athe kubwezera, ngakhale mumacheza omwewo.
Zidzakupangitsani kugawana zosowa zawo. Ngati amadziona kuti ndi wotsika, zingakupangitseni kuti inunso muzimva bwino. Ngati zingakupangitseni kumva kuti ndinu ocheperako, mudzakhala ndi nthawi yovuta kuti mutuluke mu poizoni.
Amadziwa momwe angagwirire. Osati inu nokha, atha kunamizirani malo anu kuti akuchitireni zoipa… "Angakupangitseni kukhala ndi malingaliro olakwika okondedwa anu kuti musawakhulupirire, musawauze vuto lawo ndikudzipatula kwathunthu ”, anatero katswiriyo.