Kukhala ndi wobwereketsa kumatanthauza kuyankha mwachangu komanso moyenera pamene tatsutsidwa, kapena ngakhale kuyikidwa m'mavuto ndi apostrophe yopangidwa kwa ife. Sizophweka nthawi zonse. Ndipo kotero, akulemba Dan Bennet, repartee nthawi zambiri "N'chiyani chimabwera m'maganizo pamene interlocutor wathu wapita"… Mochedwa kwambiri, ndiye! Kukhala ndi wobwereketsa kumafuna makhalidwe angapo, ndipo akhoza kuthandizidwa: kumvetsera mwachidwi, kudzikulitsa, kudzidalira komanso kuseka ... !

Monga anthu ena, kodi nthawi zina mumaganiza zolondola kwambiri zomwe munganene komanso muyenera kunena, nthawi zambiri mukangosiya wolankhula naye? Ndizowona kuti mulibe wothandizana nawo: simungathe komanso kudziwa momwe mungayankhire pakadali pano, koma zitangochitika… Sikuti malingaliro anu sakugwira ntchito… "Mzimu wa staircase".

Dzinali likadapangidwa ndi filosofi ya Chidziwitso Denis Diderot, kuzungulira zaka 1773 mpaka 1778 ... Iye amene analemba motero, mu Zodabwitsa za wosewera : "Munthu womvera ngati inu, kwathunthu ku zomwe zimamutsutsa, amataya mutu wake ndipo amapezeka pansi pa masitepe"… Diderot amatanthawuza kuti, pokambirana, ngati china chake chatsutsidwa kwa iye, adataya mwayi ... kamodzi kokha anatuluka, anafika pansi pa masitepe (ndipo mochedwa kale) kuti yankho iye zikadayenera kuperekedwa kwa iye!

Poyambitsa mchitidwe waluso kwambiri wobwereza, wolemba Théophile Gautier analemba: “Komanso palibe amene anali ndi yankho losangalatsa komanso lachangu kuposa mawu omveka bwino”. Koma kuti mukhale ndi repartee, ndikofunikira kale kuti muyambe kudziwa kumvetsera ...kumvetsera mwachidwi", Wodziwika ndi chiwonetsero cha kulemekezana ndi kukhulupirirana kwa interlocutor. Zimafuna, makamaka, kukhazikika pa zina, motero kuti "Kumva ndi ena", chomwe chili chofunikira kwambiri kuposa kugawana lingaliro. Zimafunanso chifundo, chomwe chiri "Kutha kulembetsa m'dziko lomvera la ena kuti mumvetsetse kuchokera mkati".

Kumvetsera bwino mawu olankhulidwa ndi ena, mogwirizana ndi iwo ndi mawu awo, kotero inu mudzatha, zonse bwino, kuyankha moyenera. Mfungulo ina: mukakhala wophunzira kwambiri, mukamadziwa zambiri za nkhani, mudzatha kuyankha molondola. Werengani, manyuzipepala ndi mabuku, mverani zotsutsana pawailesi yakanema kapena pawailesi, ngakhale lingalirani mizere yomwe mungapange m'malo mwa ochita nthabwala kapena andale omwe adafunsidwa: mudzapindula mwachangu. 

Kusachita nawo mbali nthawi zambiri kumasonyeza kusadzidalira. Komabe, monga Kenny Sureau, wolemba, wophunzitsa komanso wowongolera payekha, akunenera, “Kusadzidalira si kwachibadwa, kumabwera chifukwa cha zowawa zina”, monga kunyodola m’moyo, chilema chakuthupi kapena kudzimva kukhala wonyozeka. Tidzadzipeza tokha oletsedwa pankhani yobwezera, kuyankha masewera, mwachidule, kukhala ndi repartee.

Wokonda zambiri, komanso chidwi chosakhutitsidwa, mikhalidwe iwiri yomwe imatilola kukhala ndi mayankho nthawi zambiri, Kenny Sureau amakhulupiriranso kuti. “Palibe amene amabadwa popanda kudzidalira”, chani "Ndikumverera komwe kumakhazikika pakapita nthawi"… Makamaka panthawi yomwe mpikisano wokhazikika ukugwira ntchito pakati pa anthu. Kuti mukhale ndi chidaliro, kungakhale kokwanira kukhala osangalala momwe muliri komanso kudziwa komwe mukupita. 

Aliyense amadziwa zolephera. Koma anthu amene amadzidalira adzayamba mobwerezabwereza, ndipo pamapeto pake adzapambana… Limbani! Chifukwa chake, mutakhala ndi chidaliro mwa inu, mukugwirizana bwino ndi inu nokha komanso zomwe mumayendera, mudzapindulanso, ndipo izi zimakhala zachibadwa kwa inu ... momwe mungabweretsere. Ndipo, m'lingaliro limeneli, ngakhale kukhala chete kungakhale a "Repartee wowononga", akukhulupirira blogger wokhazikika pazachitukuko chamunthu, makamaka ngati chete uku “Zimaonetsa chikhumbo chofuna kuyankha funsoayi”.

“Nthaŵi zina maganizo amatithandiza kuchita zinthu zopusa molimba mtima”, akuti François de La Rochefoucauld. Ndipo kotero, imodzi mwa njira zothandiza kwambiri ponena za repartee ndi kuyankha nthabwala, ngakhale nthabwala. Kodi mumatsutsidwa chifukwa chokhala wamanyazi? Yankhani mwachitsanzo, "Ayi, ndinangoyiwala kuvula chigoba chamanyazi". Komanso, musakonzekere mizere yanu pasadakhale, khalani modzidzimutsa komanso mwachilengedwe. Zikugwira! Bwanji osakonza masewera apakamwa ndi anzanu?

Chifukwa kuyankha koseketsa komanso kodabwitsa kumafuna kusanthula kwabwino, komanso munthawi yake, zomwe wotsutsa akuwonetsa, ndikuwonetsetsa kuti luso lake lizidziwonetsera. Kudzinyoza kungakhale chitsanzo chabwino chokhomerera mlomo kwa mdani wanu! Bwalo la zisudzo litha kukhalanso, chifukwa cha ichi, njira yabwino yoyankhira mafunso amtundu uliwonse, makani, mawu achipongwe ...

Ndipo ndithudi, bwanji, ngati mumakonda kusowa kwa repartee, kuti musalembetse nawo mumsonkhano wokonzekera zisudzo? Ndipo potero, lingalirani mizere, yoseketsa kapena mophweka pa phunzirolo, pindulani mumzimu… Wolemera mumzimu, woyengedwa ndi wanzeru adzakhala wobwereketsa wanu, m'pamenenso mdani wanu adzadabwa kwambiri! Chifukwa, monga momwe wolemba Léopold Sédor Senghor ananenera moyenerera, “Popanda kukula kwa mzimu sitiri kanthu. Ndipo kufunafuna uku, komwe kumakweza munthu pamwamba pa munthu, ndi komwe kumalemekeza anthu ”.