Ndili ndi Christophe Martail, katswiri wa zamaganizo-psychoanalyst m'malo a amayi komanso nyumba ya ana yomwe ili ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu.
"Ndinakumana ndi mnzanga ndili ndi zaka 14, ali ndi zaka 17 ndi theka. Le grand Amour… Mwamsanga kwambiri, ndinkafuna kukhala ndi banja, chinali chinthu chofunika kwambiri kwa ine! Sindinali kumva bwino, ndinkaona kuti ndikusowa chinachake. Kuyambira ndili ndi zaka 15, ndinapempha wokondedwa wanga kuti andipatse mwana. Koma sanakonzekere ndipo adandipeza ndili wamng'ono kwambiri: sanalakwe. Patapita zaka, ndinalandira Baccalaureate S. Nditamasulidwa ku cholinga chimenechi, ndinadziuza kuti inali nthawi yoti ndikhale ndi mwana ameneyu. Ndinaziganizira mochulukira. Mnyamata wanga anali ndi ntchito, choncho tinapita kukaipeza! Mwezi wachiwiri woyesedwa unali wabwino.
Ndikuona ngati moyo wanga unayamba tsiku limene mwana wanga anabadwa. Kusowa kumeneku komwe ndidamva kwa zaka zambiri kwadzaza, ndikungokhalira moyo kwa iye tsopano. Ndimamubweretsera chilichonse chimene ndingamupatse. Munthu wanga alipobe. Timakondana kwambiri. ” Elodie, wazaka 20, mayi ake a Rafael, wa miyezi 13.
Nchiyani chikubisa chikhumbo cha mwana wamng'ono wotere?
Lingaliro la shrink : Ndikafunsa atsikanawo kuti ayankhe funsoli, nthawi zambiri amandifotokozera kuti amafuna kuti mwana “akonze” ubwana wawo. Kusowa komwe Elodie amadzutsa mwina ndiko komwe adamva ali mwana. Kaŵirikaŵiri ndimamva kwa achichepere oyembekezera amene ndimawafunsa kuti: “Mwana ameneyu, potsirizira pake ndinakhoza kumpatsa chikondi chonse chimene ndinalibe. Mosazindikira, amafuna kuti mwana "achite bwino" kuposa makolo awo.
Mgwirizano wodabwitsa wa achinyamata 18 aku America! Mu June 2008, atolankhani adatulutsa chidziwitso chochititsa chidwi ichi: Atsikana 18 akusekondale ochokera ku Massachusetts, onse azaka zosachepera 16, adatenga pathupi modzifunira nthawi imodzi ndikulera ana awo pamodzi! Njira "yopeza munthu yemwe amamukonda mopanda malire", adaulula, okondwa kwambiri, angapo a iwo. |