Sewero labanja ndi chochitika chomwe chingakhudze aliyense. Ndipo izi, nthawi iliyonse ya moyo. Kaya ndife ana, achinyamata kapena achikulire, tonse timachita mosiyanasiyana ndipo timafunikira chithandizo kapena chithandizo chaumwini.

Pali masewero ambiri apabanja. Mutha kutaya wokondedwa wanu chifukwa changozi. Nthawi zina achibale angapo amataya miyoyo yawo nthawi imodzi. Nthawi zambiri, izi zimachitika pangozi zagalimoto, ngozi zapandege, masoka achilengedwe kapena, monga tawonera m'zaka zaposachedwa, pazachiwembu.

Nthawi zina sewero labanja limayambitsidwa ndi matenda. Izi zingasinthe moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku wa banja, nthawi zambiri zimatha ndi imfa ya munthu wokhudzidwayo. Kaya ndi cholowa, chobadwa nako, kaya ndi khansa kapena meningitis, zimakhudza amuna ndi akazi ndipo sizitengera zaka. Matenda a ana ndi amodzi mwamavuto omwe amawononga mabanja.

Tikhozanso kutaya wokondedwa wathu kutsatira a kudzipha. Pankhaniyi, pali mafunso ambiri. Achibale amakwiya ndipo nthawi zina amamva chisoni.

Nthawi zonse sewero la banja silimaphatikizapo imfa ya wachibale. Nthawi zina zimadziwika ndi nkhanza, kusudzulana kapenanso kusiyidwa.

Kukumana ndi sewero labanja kumakhala kovuta pazaka zilizonse. Tili achikulire, timayenera kukumana ndi vutoli tili ndi udindo. Nthawi zina timayenera kusamalira wokondedwa, tiyenera kumasula nthawi, tili ndi ntchito zoyang'anira, etc. Nthawi zina, akuluakulu amayenera kuthana ndi okondedwa omwe amakhudzidwa kwambiri. Angakhale ndi maudindo atsopano kapenanso kuchita zinthu zina zosasangalatsa.

Akuluakulu amayenera kuchita ndi ana awo ndipo nthawi zina makolo awo poyang'anizana ndi sewero. Ndi malo osayenera. Komanso, iwonso ayenera kuchira ku zochitika zomvetsa chisonizo. Musazengereze kupempha thandizo kwa abale ena. Pakafunika thandizo, nthawi zina n’zotheka kupempha thandizo lakunja. Madokotala, ogwira nawo ntchito komanso akatswiri amisala atha kukhala othandiza kwambiri.

Amene akugwira ntchito angatenge masiku angapo kuti asamalire okondedwa awo kapena kuti achire ku tsoka labanja lawo. Masiku a tchuthi amaperekedwa ngati wachibale atamwalira ndipo tchuthi chosalandiridwa chitha kutengedwa kukathandiza wokondedwa wodwalayo.

M’unyamata, masoka a m’banja amakhala aakulu kwambiri. Zowonadi, achinyamata amakhala omvera. Alibenso ana osalakwa koma alibe chidziwitso chokwanira pamoyo wawo kuthana ndi zovuta.

Pakagwa tsoka m'banja, ndikofunikira kusamalira achinyamata. Tiyenera kuwalimbikitsa kufotokoza maganizo awo ndi kutsagana nawo m’chisoni chawo. Achinyamata amafunika kuwamvetsetsa ndi kuthandizidwa. Zochitika zazikulu zomwe zimachitika muunyamata ndizochititsa chidwi kwambiri. Zitha kukhudza kusalimba bwino kwa achinyamata.

Makolo ayenera kudziwitsa ana omwe amaphunzira kusukuluyi za mavuto am'banja kuti zovuta zomwe mnyamatayo amve komanso kuti zisamamasuliridwe molakwika.

Malo a ana akakumana ndi tsoka labanja nthawi zambiri amakhala ovuta. Timakonda kudziuza tokha kuti ang'ono samamvetsetsa zomwe zikuchitika. Komabe, ziyenera kudziwika kuti kuyambira ali mwana, mwana amamvetsetsa zomwe zikuchitika momuzungulira. Amamva zotsatizana zokambitsirana, amamva kuti alibe kanthu kapena alibe. Akhoza kukhudzidwa mwachindunji ndi sewerolo popanda kufotokoza zakukhosi kwake.

Ndikofunikira kulankhula ndi ana makamaka kuwapangitsa kuti azilankhula. Ana atha kukhala ndi zovuta kufotokoza momwe akumvera komanso momwe akumvera. Mwinanso sangamvetse sewero la banja. Muyenera kuwafotokozera mmene zinthu zilili m’mawu osavuta ndi kuwafunsa mafunso.

Monga momwe zimakhalira ndi achinyamata, izi ziyenera kukambidwa ndi ana asukulu komanso omwe akuwasamalira. Chifukwa chake ngati afunsa mafunso, oyang'anira amatha kupeza mayankho oyenera ndipo bwanji osakambirana ndi womaliza.

Pakagwa tsoka m'banja, muyenera kupeza chithandizo. Thandizo ili lingachokere kwa abale kapena abwenzi, koma si zokhazo. Nthawi zina zimakhala bwino kukambirana ndi dokotala za vutoli komanso kuti simumakhala bwino naye. Milandu yovuta kwambiri kapena pamitu yovuta kwambiri, thandizo la katswiri monga zama psychologist kapena psychiatrist lingalimbikitsidwe.

Sewero labanja limatha kukhala lalikulu. Thandizo laumwini nthawi zambiri limafunikira kuti muyang'anire moyo wanu ndikukwaniritsa maudindo anu atsiku ndi tsiku. Kaya zachipatala, maganizo kapena mwaubwenzi, thandizo ndilofunika.