Iwo ali okonzeka kuswa lamulo lililonse ngati likuwoneka losamveka. Nthawi zonse adzapeza chinachake chotsutsa. Opanduka sangathe kupirira conservatism ndi stagnation. Kodi mungagwirizane bwanji ndi anthu omwe akukhala monyoza chilichonse?
Ambiri aife takumanapo ndi anthu otere paubwana wathu. Mukukumbukira mnzake wa m'kalasi yemwe nthawi zonse ankakangana ndi aphunzitsi, akumangirira pansi pa desiki ndikujambula zithunzi zamagulu?
Kukula, anthu oterowo amakhalabe owona kwa iwo okha: amatsutsana ndi utsogoleri popanda chifukwa, amadzudzula malingaliro onse "wamba" ndikusokoneza malingaliro awo akuluakulu pazokambirana zilizonse. Chilichonse chomwe munganene, iwo amangonena mosiyana. Umenewu ndi umunthu umene sitingathe kuubisa.
“Ngakhale kuti zigawenga zingachite mofanana, si onse amene amafanana,” akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku America Robert Sternberg. - Anthu ena amanyansidwa ndi kusagwirizana komanso kusagwirizana, ena amakhulupirira kuti malamulo amapangidwa kuti aphwanyidwe, ena amaganiza modabwitsa ndikuyang'ana moyo mosiyana ndi ena onse.
Anthu opanga nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi moyo ngakhale ali ndi chilichonse. Ngakhale pali zigawenga zomwe sizipanga konse - ndizosasangalatsa. Ndipo palinso ena amene amadzikweza pochita zionetsero.”
Iwo amaganiza mosiyana
Woyang'anira zotsatsa wazaka 37 Victoria ali ndi talente yabwino yobwera ndi malingaliro oyambira komanso olimba mtima. Koma njira yake yowafotokozera imayambitsa chisokonezo pakati pa anzawo, kunena mofatsa.
Victoria anati: “Tikakambirana za ntchito yatsopano ndi gulu lonse pamsonkhano, zimandilimbikitsa kwambiri. “Nthawi yomweyo ndimaona mmene zingakhalire, ndipo ndimaona kuti ndiyenera kufotokoza zimene ndapeza mwamsanga, ngakhale ngati wina akulankhula nthawi yomweyo. Ndipo inde, zimandivuta kuti ndikhazikike mtima pansi ngati mnzanga wabwera ndi lingaliro losathandiza.”
Amavomereza kuti amachita manyazi akakumana ndi kuzizira kochitapo kanthu, komabe sangazindikire kuti akuwonetsa kudzikuza ndi kudzikuza kuposa luso.
“Simunganene kuti anthu oterowo ndi ouma khosi ndi achipongwe mwadala,” anatero katswiri wa zamaganizo Sandy Mann wa pa yunivesite ya Central Lancashire. Titha kuwaona opanduka kukhala ochirikiza satana, koma nthawi zambiri amapanga zigamulo zawo mowona mtima, osati pofuna kutsutsa malingaliro a wina.
Ali ndi talente - kuwona zinthu mosayembekezereka, kupanga zosankha zodabwitsa, osaopa zigamulo za anthu ena.
Nthawi zambiri zigawenga sizimauza ena maganizo awo
Koma ngati zigawenga sizikufuna kupatutsa ena, aziika maganizo awo pa kugwirira ntchito pamodzi, kulimbikitsa khama lawo makamaka kuthetsa mavuto ndi kupeŵa mikangano mosamala.
"Kukhala "nkhosa yakuda" pagulu lomwe lili ndi malingaliro achikhalidwe ndi luso lonse. Anthu omwe amaganiza modabwitsa nthawi zambiri amalakwitsa pocheza ndi anthu, akutero mlangizi wa bizinesi Karl Albrecht. "Samadziwa momwe angalankhulire malingaliro awo molondola kwa ena: nthawi zambiri amawafotokozera ngati mkangano mkangano, kulepheretsa anthu ena kuwazindikira molondola, chifukwa amatero mwamwano komanso mosasamala."
Karl Albrecht amavomereza kuti iye anali kale "nkhosa zakuda", koma adatha kukhala ndi luso lofunikira lachitukuko, makamaka, luso lozindikira malingaliro, maganizo, maganizo a anthu ena.
Iye anati: “Vuto lalikulu si lakuti munthu amaganiza mosiyana, koma mmene amafotokozera maganizo ake. "Makhalidwe ake akhoza kukhala oopsa."
Bwanji ngati ndinu wopanduka?
Momwe mungawonetsere malingaliro anu odabwitsa popanda kukwiyitsa komanso popanda kukhumudwitsa ena? Choyamba, mukakhala ndi lingaliro lachilendo, lifotokoze momveka bwino, ndiyeno pokhapo uuze ena.
Yesetsani kugwiritsa ntchito mawu omwewo, kutembenuka kwa malankhulidwe ndi magwero omwewo azidziwitso monga omwe akukambirana nawo. Ndipo phunzirani kumasuka pamene anthu akutsutsa malingaliro anu.
“Moyo wa zigawenga ndi nkhosa zakuda umafuna kuleza mtima kwakukulu kwa okondedwa awo, chifukwa uli wodzala ndi mikangano,” akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo Robert Sternberg wa pa yunivesite ya Oklahoma. - Koma kwa ena, maubwenzi oterowo amalimbikitsa ndi kulimbikitsana - amawona ngakhale m'mipikisano yafupipafupi kusonyeza chikondi.
Chinthu chokha chimene wopanduka amafuna ndi kuganizira udindo wake
Ngati onse awiri amakonda kukangana ndi kusangalala mofanana mikangano imeneyi, ubwenzi wawo udzapindula. Koma samalani kuti musalowe mumpikisano wamawu ndi wopanduka ngati mukufuna chinthu chimodzi chokha: kumutsekera mwamsanga.
Nthawi zina timayamba kukangana poyankha, kuganiza kuti mwanjira imeneyi tidzateteza ufulu wathu ndikupeza zotsatira zabwino kwa ife. Koma chinthu chokhacho chomwe wopanduka amafuna ndi kuganizira za udindo wake. Ngakhale mutagwirizana naye pa mfundo A ndi B, mfundo C ndi D zidzatsatira.
Sankhani chomwe chili chofunikira kwambiri kwa inu: kutseka mutuwo kapena pitilizani ndewu. Pali njira imodzi yokha yokhazikitsira wopandukayo - kunyalanyaza mawu ake, komanso kusamamatira, kudzipangitsa moto.
Pandukirani mkati mwa aliyense
Komabe, kulankhulana ndi zigawenga n’kothandiza kwa aliyense wa ife. Tikamakana kulimbana ndi anthu ena n’kupeŵa mikangano mwakhama, nthaŵi zambiri timachita zinthu zodzivulaza tokha, choncho zingakhale bwino kuti titengere makhalidwe ena oipa.
Nthawi zina zimakhala zosatheka kufotokoza zomwe munthu ali nazo ndikuyika malire popanda kutsutsana. Tikayerekeza kunena kapena kuchita zosiyana, timatsimikizira osati umunthu wathu, komanso umunthu wa wina: "Sindili ngati inu, ndipo simuli ngati ine." Nthawi zina, iyi ndi njira yokhayo yokhalira wekha.