Bedi laukwati ndi chizindikiro champhamvu cha ubale wabwino pakati pa okwatiranawo. Komabe anthu ambiri amene amakondana akusankha kugona padera. Ndiye, popanga chipinda chapadera, tiganizire za izi ... kapena ayi?

Kusankha kugona payekha sikutanthauza kuchepa kwa chikondi. Nkhaniyi ingakhale yovuta kuyibweretsa pafupi ndi mnzanu yemwe azitha kuwona kutha kwa banjali komanso kukopeka. Kufikira ganizoli modekha kwa awiriwa kumakhudzanso kukonzanso mau ogwirizana ndi maanja omwe amagona padera komanso kuyankhulana bwino.

Ndikofunika kuwonetsetsa kuti mnzanuyo sakuvutika ndi vutoli, ngakhale sakuvomereza. Kuopa kukhala anthu ogona, kuti nthawi zachikondi zimasiyana, monga momwe zimakhalira nthawi zambiri zogonana, zingakhale zovomerezeka. Kuonjezera apo, kugona padera kumatanthauzanso kugawana nthawi yocheperapo komanso ngati pali zokhumudwitsa kapena zosayankhula, chipinda chogona padera chimamanga khoma pakati pa okondedwa omwe amafika kumapeto kwa kulankhulana.

Chitsenderezo cha anthu ndi champhamvu chokhudza bedi laukwati. Ngakhale ili ndi yankho lapamtima, ngati muwauza okondedwa anu kapena anzanu, ndi kubetcha kotetezeka kuti adzalumphira kuganiza za thanzi la ubale wanu. Osatengera izi: zabwino zanu zokha ndi za okondedwa anu ndizofunikira. Mutha kusankha kusunga chidziwitsochi kwa inu nokha, ngakhale mulibe chifukwa chochitira manyazi; ndi zapamtima ndipo sizikhudza wina aliyense kupatula inu ndi wokondedwa wanu.

Poyamba, timaganiza kuti sitingathe kugona popanda wina. Kenaka zaka zikupita, banja limakula ndipo kukhala pabedi limodzi usiku uliwonse sikumasonkhezeranso chikondi kapena libido.

Ngati muli ndi mwayi wokhala ndi malo okwanira, bwanji osakhazikitsa chipinda chachiwiri? Ngakhale moyo wanu waukwati utakhala wabwino, umakulolani kupuma, ndi mphindi yopumula nokha. Kusankha kugona mosiyana sikutanthauza kuti awiriwo abwerera mmbuyo.

M'malo mwake, kumaphatikizapo kuyambitsa miyambo yatsopano yachikondi ndi chilakolako chogonana. Kugonana kumasankhidwa kwambiri komanso kwamtengo wapatali. Mukuvomera ku msonkhano komwe mumadabwitsa winayo m'malo ake apamtima… Nthawi zambiri zovuta kukhazikitsa mukagawana bedi lomwelo.

Mumakonda kugona msanga, amakonda kuwerenga kwambiri usiku. Mumadzuka kangapo usiku kupita ku bafa, amakonda snore akangogona tulo. Mikangano yaing'ono yausiku yokhudzana ndi khalidwe la mmodzi kapena winayo si yachilendo ndipo nthawi zambiri imayambitsa mikangano. Ngati zosokonezazi ndi zazikulu, kukhala ndi chipinda chosiyana kungakhale kothandiza. Izi zimalepheretsa okondedwa kukhala okwiya komanso otopa chifukwa cha kusowa tulo komanso kudzudzulana chifukwa cha makhalidwe omwe sangachite ...

Ndani sakonda kugona yekha pabedi lalikulu la anthu awiri ndi kukhala ndi duvet yaikulu kwa iwo? Izi zapamwamba, maanja ambiri amasankha kugula patatha zaka zambiri akukhala limodzi. M'zaka zoyamba za chibwenzi, izi sizikhala nthawi zambiri zomwe munthu amamvetsera, komabe, mwayi wotonthoza ndi wofunikira.

Apanso, zitha kumasula ubale wanu popeza palibe yemwe angamve ngati akupereka chitonthozo chawo kuti apindule ndi banjali. Kuonjezera apo, mukamapumula pambuyo pogona usiku wautali, mumatha kubwerera mmbuyo ndi kuthetsa mikangano iliyonse yomwe ingawonekere.

Ngati okwatiranawo akuvutika, kukhala ndi chipinda chosiyana panthaŵi yamavuto kungakhale kopindulitsa. Mwanjira imeneyi, aliyense amakhala ndi nthawi yoti akhazikike mtima pansi, kupeza malingaliro abwino ndi kulingalira bwino za mkhalidwewo. Kuphatikiza apo, pakugona nokha, mumathawa kukangana ndi kukwiya komwe kumachitika chifukwa cha mikangano. M’maŵa, mumakhala wodekha ndi wokonzeka kukambirana vuto lomwe lili pakati panu.

Zili kwa banja lililonse kuti lifotokoze momwe amakhalira. Kusankha kukhala m'chipinda chosiyana kumatha kupulumutsa pakagwa mikangano komanso kumachepetsa kutopa pang'ono ndi zokhumudwitsa. Kusintha moyo wanu kumafunanso kukonzanso moyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku, womwe umakonda kutenthetsa ndi kulimbitsa banjali.