Manipulator malinga ndi E. Shostrom

​​​Manipulator malinga ndi Everett Shostrom ndi mtundu woipa wa neurotic manipulator wofotokozedwa ndi E. Shostrom. Buku lodziwika bwino la E. Shostrom «The man-manipulator» lomwe limagwirizana ndi lingaliro la «manipulator» kutanthauza kosalekeza, lomwe lakhala lachikhalidwe.

Kwa mitundu ina ya zowongolera, onani nkhani yaposachedwa ya Manipulator

Malinga ndi Shostrom, wonyenga ndi munthu wonyenga yemwe amafuna kukhala ndi anthu komanso kuwongolera anthu monga momwe amachitira ndi makina owongolera. Ndiko kuti, omwe anthu ena onse sali awo, osati anthu, koma zinthu zachilendo, zopanda moyo komanso zopanda moyo, ndipo amawachitira ngati opanda kutseguka, popanda kudalira, ngati zinthu zamakina. Munthu wamtundu uwu amangotsatira zofuna zake zokha, ndizodabwitsa kulankhula za zofuna za chinthu chamakina kwa iye, choncho ichi ndi khalidwe loipa la munthu.

Anthu opondereza otere amalamulira ena kudzera m’njira zosiyanasiyana, kuphatikizapo kusonyeza mavuto awo. Mwachitsanzo, awa ndi "Whiners", ndiko kuti, anthu omwe akuchita bwino, koma akakumana, amatha kulankhula kwa maola ambiri momwe zinthu zilili zoipa kwa iwo komanso momwe amatopa ndi chirichonse.

Wonyenga sangamvetse, osadziwa kuti ndi wonyenga kapena chinthu chopusitsa.

Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati uku ndikupusitsa m'nyumba kapena moyo wachinyengo? Ngati kusinthako kuli koyenera ndipo sikunabwerezedwe muzochitika zina, ndikusintha tsiku ndi tsiku. Ngati munthu amakhala ngati manipulator nthawi zonse, osasiya udindo uwu, uwu ndi moyo.

Tiyeni tione izi ndi chitsanzo cha mwana. Mwanayo akufuna kuwonera pulogalamu ina kapena zojambula. Ndinafunsa, zili bwino. Analira - kuyesera kukopa, koma kusokonezedwa - kusokonezedwa, uku ndikuwongolera mkati mwa chikhalidwe cha zaka. Ndipo ngati iye nthawi yomweyo, nthawi zonse ndi mosalekeza kubangula mpaka atamuwonetsa zojambula, akuumirira kulira m'njira yakeyake, uyu ndi wonyenga kale.

manipulative ndi neurotic

Kutengera kukunyengerera ndi mawonekedwe a neurotic. Chimodzi mwazofunikira za neurotic ndichofunika kulamulira, kukhala ndi mphamvu. Karen Horney amakhulupirira kuti chilakolako chofuna kulamulira chimayambitsa "kulephera kwa munthu kukhazikitsa ubale wofanana. Ngati sakhala mtsogoleri, amadzimva kuti watayika, wodalira komanso wopanda thandizo. Iye ndi wamphamvu kwambiri moti chilichonse choposa mphamvu zake amachiona ngati kugonjera kwake.

Kutsutsa zolakwika m'malingaliro a E. Shostrom

Potsatira E. Shostrom, onyenga nthawi zambiri amatchedwa mitundu ina ya anthu omwe sakuyenera konse kukhala ndi ziyeneretso zoipa zoterozo.

"Munthu amene amagwiritsa ntchito anthu ena kukwaniritsa zolinga zake ndi wonyenga." Kunama ndi kupusa. Wophunzira amagwiritsa ntchito aphunzitsi kuti akwaniritse cholinga chake chokhala munthu wophunzira - ndi wophunzira wabwino, osati wonyenga wankhanza.

"Iye amene amagwiritsa ntchito chinyengo ndi wonyenga." Chisokonezo ndi kupusa. Munthu wonyengerera ndi munthu wonyenga, osati munthu wopusitsa. Mwachitsanzo, zosokoneza zabwino zimagwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi zonse polankhulana pakati pa okondedwa, achibale ndi anthu achikondi. Kuwongolera kwabwino ndi gawo lachilengedwe la maubwenzi awo apamtima okongola, momwe palibe amene amamva ngati chinthu chachilendo kapena chopangidwa ndi makina. Kuwongolera kwabwino ndikuwonetsa kukhudzidwa kwa omwe akumutsogolera, ndipo sikungakhale maziko a mawonekedwe olakwika a wolemba wawo. Onani →