An actualizer ndi mtundu wa umunthu wochokera m'buku lodziwika bwino la E. Shostrom «Manipulator», mosiyana ndi Manipulator omwe adawafotokozera (osasokonezedwa ndi wonyenga m'lingaliro lovomerezeka). Onani →
Lingaliro lapafupi ndi umunthu wodzikonda, koma zikuwoneka kuti ndi mayina ofanana, mfundozi zimakonza zosiyana kwambiri.
Makhalidwe akuluakulu a realizers:
Mizati yomwe "iyima" yeniyeni ndi kuwona mtima, kuzindikira, ufulu ndi kudalira:
1. Kuona mtima, kuona mtima (kuwonetsetsa, kukhulupirika). Wokhoza kukhala woona mtima mukumverera kulikonse, zirizonse zomwe zingakhale. Iwo amadziwika ndi kuona mtima, kufotokoza.
2. Kuzindikira, chidwi, chidzalo cha moyo. Amadziwona ndi kumva bwino komanso amamva ena. Iwo amatha kupanga maganizo awo pa ntchito zaluso, za nyimbo ndi moyo wonse.
3. Ufulu, kumasuka (mwachisawawa). Khalani ndi ufulu wofotokozera zomwe angathe. Iwo ndi olamulira miyoyo yawo; maphunziro.
4. Kudalira, chikhulupiriro, kukhudzika. Khalani ndi chikhulupiriro chozama mwa ena ndi mwa iwo eni, kuyesetsa nthawi zonse kulumikizana ndi moyo ndikuthana ndi zovuta pano ndi pano.
The actualizer amafuna chiyambi ndi wapadera mwa iyemwini, ubale pakati pa realizers uli pafupi.
The actualizer ndi munthu wathunthu, choncho udindo wake woyamba ndi kuzindikira kudzidalira.
Munthu weniweni amawona moyo ngati njira yakukula, ndipo amawona kugonja kwake kapena kulephera kwake mwanzeru, modekha, ngati zovuta kwakanthawi.
The Actualizer ndi umunthu wosiyanasiyana wokhala ndi zotsutsana.
Ndikhulupilira kuti simunandimvetse kuti munthu wodzipanga yekha ndi munthu wapamwamba wopanda zofooka zilizonse. Tangoganizani, wowonjezera akhoza kukhala wopusa, wowononga kapena wamakani. Koma sangakhale wosasangalala ngati thumba la mankhusu. Ndipo ngakhale kufooka kumadzilola nthawi zambiri, koma nthawi zonse, muzochitika zilizonse, amakhalabe umunthu wosangalatsa!
Mukayamba kuzindikira zomwe mungathe kuchita mwa inu nokha, musayese kukwaniritsa ungwiro. Yang'anani chisangalalo chomwe chimabwera chifukwa chophatikiza mphamvu zanu komanso zofooka zanu.
Erich Fromm akunena kuti munthu ali ndi ufulu wolenga, kupanga, kuyenda, kutenga zoopsa. Fromm adatanthauzira ufulu monga kuthekera kosankha.
The actualizer ndi yaulere m'lingaliro lakuti, pamene akusewera masewera a moyo, amadziwa kuti akusewera. Amamvetsetsa kuti nthawi zina amawongolera, ndipo nthawi zina amasinthidwa. Mwachidule, akudziwa zachinyengo.
The actualizer amamvetsa kuti moyo sikuyenera kukhala masewera aakulu, m'malo mofanana kuvina. Palibe amene amapambana kapena kuluza mu kuvina; ndi njira, ndi njira yosangalatsa. The realizer "amavina" pakati pa kuthekera kwake kosiyanasiyana. Ndikofunika kusangalala ndi njira ya moyo, osati kukwaniritsa zolinga za moyo.
Chifukwa chake, kuzindikira anthu ndikofunikira ndipo safuna zotsatira zokha, komanso kuyenda komweko. Angasangalale ndi “kuchita” zambiri komanso kuposa zomwe akuchita.
Akatswiri ambiri azamisala ali otsimikiza kuti realizer amatha kusintha zochitika zanthawi zonse kukhala tchuthi, kukhala masewera osangalatsa. Chifukwa amadzuka ndi kugwa ndi kutha kwa moyo ndipo samautenga moipitsitsa.
Yekha bwana
Tiyeni timvetsetse mfundo za chitsogozo chamkati ndi chitsogozo kuchokera kwa ena.
Umunthu wolunjika mkati ndi umunthu wokhala ndi gyroscope womangidwa muubwana - kampasi yamaganizo (imayikidwa ndikuyambitsidwa ndi makolo kapena anthu omwe ali pafupi ndi mwanayo). Gyroscope nthawi zonse imasintha mothandizidwa ndi maulamuliro osiyanasiyana. Koma ziribe kanthu momwe angasinthire, munthu wolamulidwa ndi mkati amadutsa m'moyo mwawokha ndipo amangotsatira malangizo ake amkati.
Mfundo zochepa za makhalidwe abwino zimatsogolera magwero a utsogoleri wamkati wa munthu. Zomwe zimabzalidwa mwa ife tidakali aang'ono zimatengera maonekedwe amkati mwathu ndi makhalidwe ake pambuyo pake. Timalandila ufulu woterewu mwamphamvu, koma ndi chenjezo limodzi. Kuchulukirachulukira kwa chitsogozo chamkati ndikowopsa chifukwa munthu amatha kukhala osaganizira za ufulu ndi malingaliro a anthu ena, ndiye kuti amakhala ndi njira imodzi yokha - kukhala owongolera. Adzasokoneza ena chifukwa cha malingaliro ake ochulukirapo a "chilungamo".
Si makolo onse, komabe, amaika gyroscope yotereyi mwa ana awo. Ngati makolo ali ndi kukayikira kosatha - kodi mungalere bwanji mwana? - ndiye m'malo mwa gyroscope, mwanayo adzapanga makina amphamvu a radar. Adzangomvetsera maganizo a ena ndi kusintha, kusintha ... Amafunikira makina a radar kuti alandire ma siginecha kuchokera kumabwalo okulirapo. Malire apakati pa ulamuliro wa banja ndi maulamuliro ena onse akuwonongedwa, ndipo chosoŵa chachikulu cha mwana wotero ‘chomvera’ chimaloŵedwa m’malo ndi kuwopa mawu otsatizanatsatizana a maulamuliro kapena kuyang’ana kulikonse. Kuwongolera mwanjira yosangalatsa nthawi zonse kwa ena kumakhala njira yake yayikulu yolumikizirana. Apa tikuwona bwino lomwe momwe kumverera koyambirira kwa mantha kudasinthidwa kukhala chikondi chomata kwa onse.
"Anthu aganiza chiyani?"
"Tandiuza titani pano?"
"Nditenge udindo wanji, huh?"
The actualizer sichidalira kwambiri kuwongolera, koma sichimagwera pakuwongolera kwamkati. Akuwoneka kuti ali ndi malingaliro odziyimira pawokha komanso odziyimira pawokha. Wochita zenizeni amalola kuwongolera komwe akuyenera kumvera kuvomerezedwa ndi anthu, kuyanjidwa ndi kufuna kwabwino, koma magwero a zochita zake nthawi zonse amakhala chitsogozo chamkati. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri n’chakuti ufulu wa munthu amene wachita zimenezi ndi woyambirira, ndipo sanaupeze chifukwa chokakamizidwa ndi anthu ena kapena mwa kupanduka. Ndikofunikiranso kwambiri kuti munthu yekhayo amene akukhala panopa angakhale mfulu, wotsogoleredwa mkati. Kenako amakhulupirira kwambiri kudzidalira kwake komanso kudziwonetsera kwake. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, iye sadalira zozizwitsa zakale kapena zam'tsogolo, sizidzasokoneza kuwala kwake, koma amakhala ndi moyo mwaufulu, amakumana nawo, amapeza zochitika pamoyo, akuyang'ana pa "pano" ndi "tsopano".
Munthu amene ali ndi moyo m’tsogolo amadalira zimene akuyembekezera. Amakwaniritsa zachabechabe zake kudzera m'maloto ndi zolinga zake. Monga lamulo, amadzipangira yekha mapulani awa amtsogolo chifukwa chakuti ali ndi vuto pakalipano. Amapanga tanthauzo la moyo kuti atsimikizire kukhalapo kwake. Ndipo, monga lamulo, zimakwaniritsa cholinga chosiyana, chifukwa, kuyang'ana zamtsogolo zokha, zimayimitsa chitukuko chake pakalipano ndikukulitsa malingaliro otsika mwa iwo okha.
Mofanana ndi zimenezi, munthu amene anakhalapo kalekale sakhala ndi mphamvu zokwanira, koma amapambana kwambiri poimba mlandu ena. Iye samamvetsetsa kuti mavuto athu alipo pano ndi tsopano, mosasamala kanthu za kumene, liti, ndi ndani amene anabadwira. Ndipo yankho lawo liyenera kufunidwa pano ndi pano.
Nthawi yokha imene tili ndi mwayi wokhala ndi moyo ndi nthawi ino. Tikhoza ndipo tiyenera kukumbukira zakale; tikhoza ndipo tiyenera kudziwiratu zam’tsogolo. Koma tikukhala mu nthawi ino yokha. Ngakhale tikamakumbukira zakale, kuzilira kapena kuzinyoza, timachita zimenezi panopa. Ife, makamaka, timasuntha zakale kupita kumasiku ano, titha kuchita. Koma palibe amene angathe, ndikuthokoza Mulungu kuti sangathe, kupita patsogolo kapena m'mbuyo mu nthawi.
Wonyenga yemwe amathera nthawi yake yonse kukumbukira zakale kapena maloto opanda pake a m'tsogolo satuluka wotsitsimula kuchokera kumayendedwe amalingaliro awa. M’malo mwake, watopa ndi kuwonongedwa. Khalidwe lake ndi lopambanitsa m'malo mochita khama. Monga Perls adanena. mtengo wathu sudzawonjezeka ngati titakomedwa ndi maumboni a zinthu zakale zovuta ndi malonjezo a tsogolo labwino. “Si chifukwa changa, moyo wayenda motere,” akudandaula motero wonyengayo. Ndikuyang'ana zamtsogolo: "Sindikuchita bwino tsopano, koma ndidziwonetsa ndekha!"
The Actualizer, kumbali ina, ali ndi mphatso yosowa komanso yodabwitsa yopezera phindu pano ndi pano. Amatcha mafotokozedwe kapena malonjezo m'malo mwa ntchito yeniyeni kukhala bodza, ndipo zomwe amachita zimalimbitsa chikhulupiriro chake mwa iyemwini ndikuthandizira kudzitsimikizira kwake. Kuti mukhale ndi moyo mokwanira panopa, palibe chithandizo chakunja chomwe chimafunika. Kunena kuti “Ndine wokwanira tsopano” m’malo monena kuti “Ndinali wokwanira” kapena “Ndidzakhala wokwanira” kumatanthauza kudzitsimikizira nokha m’dziko lino ndi kudzipenda bwino lomwe. Ndipo moyenerera.
Kukhala mu mphindi ndi cholinga ndi zotsatira mwazokha. Munthu weniweni amakhala ndi mphotho yakeyake - kudzidalira komanso kudzidalira.
Kodi mukufuna kumva malo ogwedezeka apano pansi pa mapazi anu? Tengani chitsanzo cha mwana wamng’ono. Amamva bwino kwambiri.
Ana amadziwika ndi chiwerengero chonse, popanda kukayikira, kuvomereza zonse zomwe zimachitika, chifukwa, kumbali imodzi, ali ndi zokumbukira zochepa komanso kudalira pang'ono zakale, ndipo, kumbali ina, sadziwa momwe angachitire. neneratu zam’tsogolo. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, mwanayo amakhala ngati munthu wopanda zam’mbuyo ndi zam’tsogolo.
Ngati simunong'oneza bondo kalikonse ndipo osayembekezera kalikonse, ngati palibe kuyembekezera kapena kuyamikira, ndiye kuti sipangakhale kudabwa kapena kukhumudwa, ndipo mosasamala mudzasuntha pano ndi tsopano. Palibe maulosi, ndipo palibe maulosi owopsa, zoneneratu zakupha, kapena kulosera zakupha.
Lingaliro langa la umunthu wa kulenga, wokhala ndi moyo wopanda tsogolo ndi zakale, makamaka lozikidwa pa kusirira ana. Mukhozanso kunena izi: "Munthu wolenga ndi wosalakwa", ndiko kuti, kukula, kuzindikira, kuchita, kuganiza, ngati mwana. Kusalakwa kwa munthu wolenga si ukhanda ayi. Iye akufanana ndi kusalakwa kwa mwamuna wokalamba wanzeru amene wakwanitsa kupezanso luso lake lokhala mwana.
Wolemba ndakatulo Kallil Gibran ananena motere: "Ndikudziwa kuti dzulo ndi chikumbutso cha lero, ndipo mawa ndilo loto la lero."
Wochita zenizeni ndi wochita, "wochita", ndi munthu yemwe ali. Iye samawonetsa zotheka zongoyerekeza, koma zenizeni, ndipo amayesa mothandizidwa ndi ntchito ndi luso lake kuthana ndi zovuta za moyo. Amadziona kuti ndi wolemera chifukwa chakuti kukhalapo kwake n’kodzala ndi ntchito zopitirizabe.
Amatembenukira momasuka ku zakale kuti athandizidwe, amafunafuna mphamvu mu kukumbukira ndipo nthawi zambiri amapempha zam'tsogolo pofunafuna zolinga, koma amamvetsetsa bwino kuti zonsezi ndizochitika zamakono ...