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Menyani, lumani ndikudina kuti munene
Wamng'ono kwambiri, mwanayo sangathe kufotokoza zakukhosi (monga ululu, mantha, mkwiyo, kapena kukhumudwa) ndi mawu. Choncho amakonda kufotokoza yekha mosiyana, pogwiritsa ntchito manja kapena zimatanthauza zambiri "zofikirika" kwa iye : kumenya, kuluma, kukankha, kukanikiza… Kuluma kungathe kuyimira njira yotsutsa ulamuliro kapena ena. Amagwiritsira ntchito njira imeneyi kusonyeza mkwiyo wake, kusakondwera kwake kapena kungoyang’anizana nanu. Choncho, kuluma kumakhala njira yake yolankhulirana ndi kukhumudwa kwake..
Mwana wanga amaluma: momwe angachitire?
Ngakhale zili choncho, sitiyenera kulekerera khalidweli, kapena kulola kuti lichitike kapena kupeputsa. Muyenera kulowererapo, koma osati njira iliyonse yakale! Pewani kulowererapo pomuluma motsatizana, “kumusonyeza mmene akumvera”. Iyi si njira yoyenera. Kulabadira khalidwe laukali la munthu wina si chitsanzo chabwino choti tipereke ndipo kumatichotsa pa chitsanzo chabwino chimene tiyenera kutengera ana athu. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, mwana wanu sangamvetse zomwe mukuchita. Mwa kuluma, timadziyika tokha pamlingo wathu wolumikizana, timataya ulamuliro ndipo izi zimapangitsa mwanayo kukhala wosatetezeka. Olimba NO nthawi zambiri ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yothandizira ana azaka izi. Ayi izi zidzamulola kumvetsetsa kuti manja ake ndi osavomerezeka. Kenako pangani chosokoneza. Koposa zonse, musamangotsindika za manja (kapena zifukwa zomwe zidamupangitsa kuluma). Iye ndi wamng’ono kwambiri moti sangathe kumvetsa chimene chimamulimbikitsa kutero. Polozera chidwi chake kwina, muyenera kuwona khalidweli likuchoka mofulumira kwambiri.
Malangizo ochokera kwa Suzanne Vallières, katswiri wa zamaganizo
- Zindikirani kuti kwa ana ambiri, kuluma kungakhale njira yowonetsera malingaliro
- Osalekerera izi (nthawi zonse lowereranipo)
- Osaluma ngati kuchitapo kanthu