Perfectionism - chinsinsi cha kupambana kapena matenda?

Perfectionism ndi mawu omveka.

Kaŵirikaŵiri ndimamva, bwenzi langa, mmene achichepere okhala ndi zozungulira m’maso mwawo akuda chifukwa cha kutopa akudzinenera monyadira ponena za iwo eni kuti: “Amati ndine wofuna kuchita zinthu mwangwiro.”

Amati, ngati, ndi kunyada, koma sindimva chidwi.

Ndikupereka malingaliro owunikira malingaliro akuti ungwiro, m'malo mwake, zoipa osati zabwino. Makamaka, kusokonezeka kwamanjenje.

Ndipo chachiwiri - ndi chiyani chomwe chingakhale china chofuna kuchita zinthu mwangwiro?

Wikipedia: Perfectionism - mu psychology, chikhulupiliro chakuti zabwino zingatheke ndipo ziyenera kukwaniritsidwa. Mu mawonekedwe a pathological - chikhulupiriro chakuti zotsatira zopanda ungwiro za ntchito zilibe ufulu kukhalapo. Komanso, kufuna kuti munthu akhale wangwiro ndi chikhumbo chofuna kuchotsa chirichonse "chopambana" kapena kupanga chinthu "chosafanana" kukhala "chosalala".

Kufunafuna chipambano kuli m’makhalidwe aumunthu.

M’lingaliro limeneli, mtima wofuna kuchita zinthu mwangwiro umakulimbikitsani kuchita khama kuti zinthu zitheke.

Monga mphamvu yoyendetsera - khalidwe lothandiza kwambiri, katswiri wa zamaganizo wopeka bwino m'mutu mwanga amandiuza.

Ndikuvomereza. Tsopano, mzanga, mbali yamdima ya mwezi:

• Kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa nthawi yokwera mtengo (osati zambiri zopangira yankho, koma kupukuta).
• Komanso kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu (kukayika, kukayika, kukayika).
• Kukana zenizeni (kukana lingaliro lakuti zotsatira zabwino sizingakwaniritsidwe).
• Kuyandikira kuchokera ku ndemanga.
• Kuopa kulephera = kusakhazikika komanso nkhawa yayikulu.

Ndimamvetsetsa bwino anthu okonda kuchita zinthu mwangwiro, chifukwa kwa zaka zambiri ine ndekha ndimadzikweza ndekha ngati munthu wokonda kuchita zinthu mwangwiro.

Ndinayamba ntchito yanga yotsatsa malonda, ndipo ichi ndi gwero la mliri wangwiro (makamaka gawo lake lokhudzana ndi mauthenga owonetsera - ndani akudziwa, adzamvetsa).

Ubwino: zinthu zabwino (tsamba lawebusayiti, zolemba, mayankho apangidwe).

Zopindulitsa: gwirani ntchito maola 15 patsiku, kusowa kwa moyo waumwini, kukhala ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse, kusowa mwayi wopita patsogolo chifukwa cha ndemanga.

Ndiyeno ndinazindikira lingalirolo kukhala ndi chiyembekezo (olembedwa ndi Ben-Shahar), adavomereza, ndipo ndikukupatsani kuti mulingalire.

The Optimalist amagwiranso ntchito molimbika ngati Perfectionist. Kusiyana Kwakukulu - Optimalist amadziwa kuyimitsa nthawi.

Optimalist amasankha ndikuzindikira osati zoyenera, koma mulingo woyenera kwambiri - yabwino, yabwino kwambiri pansi pa zomwe zikuchitika.

Osati abwino, koma mlingo wokwanira wa khalidwe.

Zokwanira sizikutanthauza kutsika. Zokwanira - zikutanthauza, mkati mwa dongosolo la ntchito yamakono - kwa asanu apamwamba popanda kuyesetsa kuti asanu apamwamba ndi kuphatikiza.

Ben-Shahar yemweyo amapereka mawonekedwe ofananira amitundu iwiri:

• Wofuna kuchita bwino kwambiri - njira ngati mzere wolunjika, kuopa kulephera, kuganizira cholinga, «zonse kapena palibe», chitetezo udindo, wofunafuna zolakwa, okhwima, ndiwofatsa.
• Optimalist - Njira ngati yozungulira, kulephera ngati mayankho, ndende kuphatikiza. panjira yopita ku cholinga, tsegulirani upangiri, wofunafuna zabwino, amasintha mosavuta.

Chifukwa chake mfundo yanga yotsutsana ndi ungwiro ndi: mulingo woyenera kwambiri - njira yabwino yothetsera vutolo munthawi yochepa.

Mwachitsanzo, ndimalemba ntchito yolenga. Pali mutu, ndinakhazikitsa cholinga. Ndimadzipatsa mphindi 60 kuti ndilembe. Mphindi zina za 30 zosintha (monga lamulo, "zidziwitso" zimandipeza pambuyo pa maola angapo). Ndizomwezo. Ndinachita mofulumira komanso mogwira mtima, m'njira yabwino kwambiri mkati mwa ndondomeko ya ntchitoyo komanso panthawi yomwe ndapatsidwa, ndinapita patsogolo.

Malangizo:

• Dziwani zotsatira zomwe mukufuna zomwe zingakukhutiritseni
• Fotokozani zotsatira zanu zabwino. Yankhani, chifukwa chiyani muyenera kubweretsa zotsatira zokhutiritsa ku zabwino? Kodi ubwino wake ndi wotani?
• Chotsani owonjezera
• Khazikitsani tsiku lomaliza kuti mumalize
• Chitani!

Chitsanzo china choyenera kuganizira:

Chaka chapitacho, ndinachita maphunziro a luso lolankhula, motero ndinachita nawo mpikisano wolankhula.

Popeza ndidayika ndalama zambiri pantchitoyi ndikukwaniritsa zotsatira zake, ndidachita bwino kwambiri malinga ndi oweruza.

Ndipo apa pali chododometsa - mayankho ochokera kwa oweruza ndi okondwa, koma amavotera adani anga, omwe anali ofooka kwenikweni.

Ndinapambana mpikisano. Ndi kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zambiri.

Ndikufunsa mlangizi wanga, - Ziri bwanji, monga ndemanga "zonse zili bwino, moto", koma samavota?

Mumachita bwino kwambiri moti zimakwiyitsa anthu,” andiuza Coach.

Ndichoncho.

Ndipo potsiriza, zitsanzo zingapo:

Thomas Edison, yemwe adalembetsa ma patent 1093 - kuphatikiza ma patent a babu yamagetsi, phonograph, telegraph. Atauzidwa kuti analephera kambirimbiri pamene ankakonza zopanga zake, Edison anayankha kuti: “Sindinalepherepo. Ndangopeza njira zikwi khumi zomwe sizikugwira ntchito. "

Nanga bwanji ngati Edison anali wosalakwa? Mwinamwake ikanakhala babu yamagetsi yomwe inali patsogolo pa nthawi yake pofika zaka zana. Ndipo basi babu. Nthawi zina kuchuluka kumakhala kofunikira kuposa mtundu.

Michael Jordan, mmodzi wa othamanga kwambiri m’nthaŵi yathu: “M’ntchito yanga, ndinaphonya maulendo oposa zikwi zisanu ndi zinayi. Anataya pafupifupi mazana atatu mpikisano. Nthawi makumi awiri ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi ndapatsidwa mpira wopambana ndikuphonya. Moyo wanga wonse ndalephera mobwerezabwereza. Ndipo ndichifukwa chake zakhala zopambana. ”

Nanga bwanji ngati Yordani amadikirira nthawi zonse kuti azitha kuwombera? Malo abwino kwambiri odikirira izi ndi pa benchi. Nthawi zina ndi bwino kuyesa ngakhale zooneka ngati zopanda chiyembekezo m'malo modikirira zomwe zili bwino.

Mwamuna wina ali ndi zaka makumi awiri ndi ziwiri adachotsedwa ntchito. Chaka chotsatira, adayesa mwayi wake mu ndale, akuthamangira ku nyumba yamalamulo ya boma, ndipo adalephera. Kenako anayesa dzanja lake pa bizinesi - osapambana. Ali ndi zaka makumi awiri mphambu zisanu ndi ziwiri, adadwala kusokonezeka kwamanjenje. Koma adachira, ndipo ali ndi zaka makumi atatu ndi zinayi, ataphunzira zambiri, adathamangira ku Congress. Wotayika. Zimenezi zinachitikanso patapita zaka zisanu. Osakhumudwitsidwa konse ndi kulephera, amakweza mipiringidzo kwambiri ndipo ali ndi zaka makumi anayi ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi amayesa kusankhidwa kukhala Senate. Lingaliro limeneli litalephera, amaika patsogolo kuti adzakhale wachiwiri kwa pulezidenti, ndipo mopanda chipambano. Pochita manyazi ndi zaka zambiri zolepheretsa akatswiri ndikugonja, adathamangiranso Senate madzulo a tsiku lobadwa ake makumi asanu ndipo walephera. Koma patapita zaka ziwiri, bamboyu anakhala Purezidenti wa United States. Dzina lake anali Abraham Lincoln.

Nanga bwanji ngati Lincoln anali wosalakwa? Mwachionekere, kulephera koyamba kukanakhala kugonja kwa iye. Wokonda kuchita zinthu mwangwiro amawopa zolephera, wochita bwino amadziwa kukwera pambuyo polephera.

Ndipo, ndithudi, pokumbukira, mapulogalamu ambiri a Microsoft omwe adasindikizidwa "yaiwisi", "osamaliza", adayambitsa kutsutsidwa kwakukulu. Koma adatuluka patsogolo mpikisanowo. Ndipo iwo anamalizidwa mu ndondomekoyi, kuphatikizapo ndemanga kuchokera kwa ogwiritsa osakhutira. Koma Bill Gates ndi nkhani yosiyana.

Ndifotokoze mwachidule:

Mulingo woyenera kwambiri - njira yabwino yothetsera kupatsidwa zinthu mu nthawi yochepa. Ndizokwanira, mzanga, kuti ukhale wopambana.

PS: Komanso, zikuwoneka, m'badwo wonse wa okonda kuchedwetsa akuwonekera, adzachita zonse mwangwiro, koma osati lero, koma mawa - mwakumana ndi anthu otere? 🙂