Chitetezo cha M'maganizo: Zomwe Amanena Zokhudza Ife ndi Ena

M'nkhani yapitayi, tinakambirana za magulu atatu a zilembo: «zodabwitsa», «zisudzo» ndi «zosokoneza» - ndi oimira magulu awa. Khalidwe likhoza kutsimikiziridwa ndi njira zingapo, kuphatikizapo mtundu wa chitetezo chamaganizo chomwe interlocutor amagwiritsa ntchito. Pangozi, «zachilendo» anthu amakonda amaundana, «zisudzo» - kumenyana, «nkhawa» - kuthawa.

MMENE MUNGATANKHEZERE KHALIDWE NDI MTUNDU WA KUTETEZA MWA MAGANIZO

Kudziteteza kuzinthu zosasangalatsa komanso zokumana nazo ndizachilengedwe, koma nthawi zina lingaliro la uXNUMXbuXNUMXbzomwe zidachitika limasokonekera, ndipo timayamba kukhala muufumu wamagalasi okhotakhota.

Ndili ndi zilonda zapakhosi Pali mitundu iwiri ya chitetezo: kukana ndi kuchotsa. Iwo sangalole chidziŵitso chosafunika kuzindikirika, kukana zodziwikiratu, kapena kuchoka ku mikhalidwe yosapiririka kupita ku dziko la zongopeka ndi maloto, kuloŵa m’matenda. Ndi munthu woteroyo, mumamva nokha pamodzi: mwakuthupi ali pafupi, koma maganizo ali kutali.

Protection wotsutsa - kuwonetsera, kukwaniritsidwa kwa zenizeni. Amapereka kwa ena malingaliro awo, malingaliro awo, zolinga za zochita ndi makhalidwe awo. Ndikosavuta kuzindikira mikhalidwe yosavomerezeka mwa anthu ena (kaduka, umbuli, nkhanza) kuposa mwa iwe mwini. Chifukwa chake kufunikira kosadziwa kusokoneza zenizeni.

Steroids sewero ndi sewero ndizodziwika bwino: zimathetsa kusamvana mkati mwa mikangano kapena kupangitsa ena kukhala ndi nkhawa komanso kudziona ngati otsika. Amagwiritsa ntchito kuponderezana ndi kugonana pofuna kuwathandiza kuchotsa manyazi, kukhalabe odzilemekeza, komanso kuthana ndi nkhawa.

Narcissus idealization ndi yobadwa nayo: amayang'ana ena kudzera mu magalasi amtundu wa rozi. Izi zimawapatsa malingaliro otetezeka ndi chiyembekezo cha zabwino. Chithumwa chimasinthidwa mosakayika ndikutsika mtengo.

Depressive-manic introjection ndi khalidwe: iwo kupanga zisankho ndi kuchita pa maziko a maganizo a anthu ena ndi zikhulupiriro - introjects. Iwo "amameza" mfundo za anthu omwe amawasamalira ali mwana popanda "kugaya" kapena kuganiza mozama za iwo. Nthawi zambiri sakhala moyo wawo, osamvetsetsa zomwe akufuna.

Protection masochists Kukhala ndi makhalidwe abwino: Amakhala ndi makhalidwe abwino ndipo amadzimva kuti ali ndi udindo wotsatira chisankho chawo chokhala ogonjera ndi kulolera zachiwawa. Mwanjira imeneyi, amakwera pamwamba pa wankhanzayo ndi kulandira «mkwiyo wachifundo» kuchokera kwa ena, osachita chilichonse kuti asinthe.

okakamira kudzipatula, kuletsa ndi kupangika mwachangu ndi mawonekedwe. Iwo amadziwika ndi maganizo otengeka, zokhumba ndi zochita. Amalekanitsa malingaliro awo ndi malingaliro awo kuti apewe zokumana nazo zosafunikira, ndipo izi zimawapangitsa kuwoneka ngati maloboti. Angathenso "kukonzanso" zomwe achita - kuwononga mosazindikira ganizo lopweteketsa mtima kapena kutengeka mtima, kapena kusandutsa zoyipa kukhala zabwino: chidani kukhala chaubwenzi, chidani kukhala chikondi. Munthu amadzitsimikizira kuti chilichonse chomwe amamva chimagwirizana ndi mtengo umodzi wokha.

Kuti tikhalebe odzilemekeza, kupewa kuweruza ndi zokumana nazo zoipa, timadzitchinjiriza tokha. Koma ndi m'mphamvu yathu kuphunzira kuzigwiritsa ntchito mozindikira ngati zili zogwira mtima komanso zothandiza, ndikuchepetsa mphamvu zawo zikasokoneza mfundo ndikubweretsa kusagwirizana mu ubale.

MFUNDO ZA Mtundu ULIWONSE WA KHALIDWE

Ndili ndi zilonda zapakhosi ndizofala kutalikirana ndi kukana ubwenzi, ndipo izi ziyenera kukonzedwa. Mukafuna kuchoka, dzikumbutseni kuti kuyandikana ndikofunika kwa inu, mumangochita mantha. Ngati mumakumbukira chikhumbo cha chikondi, zidzakhala zosavuta kuthana ndi mantha ndikukhalabe ndi mnzanu wolankhulana naye.

Mukakhala chete, musalankhule za inu nokha, osapempha chilichonse, izi zingayambitse nkhawa mwa iye. Khalani nawo, nenani zomwe mukufuna. Munganene kuti: “Ndimatopa ndi misonkhano kawirikawiri. Ndiyenera kukhala ndekha, kusinkhasinkha zowonera. Tiuzeni kuti mumakonda kuonana ndikulankhulana pa foni kangati.

Kutenga nawo mbali mu maubwenzi kumalephereka chifukwa chakuti mumaletsa mkwiyo, phunzirani kufotokoza poyera kusakhutira. Mwachitsanzo: “Sindimasuka mukamafunsa mafunso ambiri”, “Ndimakwiya mukamandilembera nthawi zambiri. Sindingathe kuyankha mwachangu chotere.

paranoiaam m'pofunika kulamulira negativism ndi exactingness ndi kuphunzira kulimbana ndi zinthu zomwe zimabweretsa chiwopsezo chenicheni kapena chongoyerekeza. Mungadzifunse kuti: “Mwina ndikuchita mopambanitsa, “ndikudzipiringitsa”? N’chiyani chimandichititsa kuganiza kuti munthuyu ndi wodana naye? Kodi n'zotheka kuchita mosiyana ndi zomwe zinachitika? Motani, m'mawu otani, ndi kamvekedwe kanji?

Dziletseni nokha ngati mukufuna kutsutsa, kuwongolera, kuyeretsa wina. Phunzirani kusamala: gwirani mofatsa ena, lankhulani mawu okoma pa nthawi yoyenera. Yesetsani kukhala ogwirizana pakati pa ntchito ndi moyo. Yesetsani kuchulukitsitsa m'malingaliro ndi thupi kudzera muzomverera zathupi, kusinthasintha kwamphamvu ndi kumasuka.

Steroids m'pofunika kulamulira mochulukitsitsa mawonetseredwe a maganizo, mantha kugonana, achire mu ubwana. Mfundo yakuti nthawi zambiri mumakhala ndi nkhawa komanso kuchita zinthu mopambanitsa, imakulepheretsani kuganiza mwanzeru, imatopetsa inuyo komanso anthu ozungulira inu. Phunzitsani kulimba mtima ndi kukhazikika. Lekani kulimbikira mpikisano, udindo waukulu ndi mphamvu. Gwiritsirani ntchito kukhudzika ndi kugonana monga mawu, osati ngati chitetezo.

Khalani ndi chithunzi chabwino chaumwini. Yang'anani chidaliro ndi kudzilemekeza pa udindo wachikulire komanso kuthekera kopanga zisankho paokha. Imvani mphamvu mumakhalidwe anu osiyanasiyana: ubwenzi, chisamaliro, modzidzimutsa komanso momasuka.

Narcissus ndikofunikira kuwongolera kusanja kosalekeza, kuwunika ndi kutsika kwamitengo. Musakweze ena Kumwamba ndipo musawachitire chipongwe. Yesetsani kusintha maganizo anu posankha kuchita zinthu mwangwiro ndi kudzithandiza nokha. Zindikirani kuti muli ndi ufulu wolakwa, musamadzidzudzule mopambanitsa. Lekani kufuna chitsimikiziro chakunja cha mtengo wanu. Mukakhala ndi manyazi, kumbukirani kuti aliyense amamva izi. Phunzirani nokha kuti mudziwe yemwe inu muli kwenikweni, zomwe malingaliro anu enieni ndi zosowa zanu zili.

Phunzirani kusiyanitsa malingaliro anu ndi chikhumbo chofuna kusangalatsa ena. Onetsani zakukhosi popanda manyazi, musaope kuvomereza kudalira ena. Mukhoza kukhalabe okongola, amphamvu, osalephera komanso osungulumwa m'maso mwawo, kapena mukhoza kuvomereza kupanda ungwiro kwanu, kusonyeza kufooka ndi kudalira ndikupeza kutentha kwa maubwenzi aumunthu. Phunzirani kupempha zomwe mukufuna.

Depressive-manic muyenera kuchepetsa khalidwe lomvera mpaka pamlingo woyenerera ndikukhala wosamva kudzudzulidwa. Lekani kukhala wabwino kuopa kukanidwa.

Ufulu wofotokoza zakukhosi umakulitsa ubwenzi, pamene kunama ndi kusakhudzana ndi malingaliro kumabweretsa kudzipatula komanso kukhudzidwa kwa psychosomatic. Tetezani zokhumba zanu ndi zokonda zanu, fotokozani kusakhutira komwe kunalunjikitsidwa kale mkati ndikukupangitsani kukhala osasangalala. Yesani kupewa kuphatikiza kwathunthu. Mutha kudziyimira pawokha komanso kupatukana ndi anthu ofunikira. Phunzirani kudzithandiza nokha ndi kudzisamalira. Lekani kudziweruza nokha chifukwa cha machimo ongoganizira ndi malingaliro oipa, pewani iwo omwe amakutsutsani.

Ndinkaseka muyenera kuchoka paubwenzi wochititsa manyazi "kugonjera-kugonjera". Phunzirani kulamulira mawonetseredwe a kudzichepetsa, yambani kukonza zinthu m'banja ndi kuntchito. Tetezani ufulu wanu mwaulemu komanso molimba mtima ndikuwona zotsatira zake. Mudzaona kuti zimenezi sizidzawononga ubwenzi. Kuyimilira ufulu motsutsana ndi kuvutika kumabweretsa ulemu. Lolani kuti munene kusagwirizana kapena kukhumudwa pa nkhani yofunika. Fotokozerani zofuna za munthu wamkulu.

Khalani odzikonda wathanzi, limbikitsani chikhumbo cha kupambana mwa inu nokha. Ngati mwakwanitsa, zikondweretseni nokha ndikukondwerera kupambana. Lekani kuika moyo ndi thanzi lanu pachiswe. Tulukani muubwenzi ngati mutuluka muzochitika zachiwawa, ndipo yesetsani mgwirizano, mgwirizano. Lembani mndandanda wa zofuna 100 ndikuyamba kuzikwaniritsa.

Pa zochita ndi zisankho zomwe zimatenga okakamirakusonkhezeredwa kwambiri ndi malingaliro a liwongo. Ndikofunikira kuchepetsa chikoka ichi, kusiya kukana kufotokoza zakukhosi ndikuyesetsa kukhulupirika. Sangalalani ndi zomwe mukumva. Lolani zochita zilizonse zodzigwedeza nokha kuti mukhale ndi moyo: pangani nkhope pagalasi, pangani nkhope zanu, kulumpha ngati mwana. Lolani kuti mukhale oseketsa, opusa.

Fotokozani mkwiyo wanu poyera m’malo mwaukali wanu wanthaŵi zonse. Zitsutseni ngati china chake sichikugwirizana ndi inu kapena ngati malire anu sakuganiziridwa. Lekani kupondereza zilakolako ndi zilakolako "zolakwika". Simukuyenera kukhala wangwiro komanso wakhalidwe labwino nthawi zonse.

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Phunzirani, dziyang'anireni nokha. Perekani ndemanga kwa wokondedwa wanu za momwe mumamvera mukamakumana naye, momwe mumamvera akamachita kapena sakuchitapo kanthu pa inu. Yang'anirani momwe mumayankhira momwe mukumvera, ganizirani zomwe akunena, khalani muzokambirana ndikukambirana.

Mayankhidwe atsopano ndi osadziwika bwino adzabweretsa kusintha kowoneka mu kudzidalira, malingaliro ndi khalidwe. Mukapeza "Ine" wanu weniweni, mudzayamba kumanga moyo mogwirizana ndi zofuna zanu ndi malingaliro anu. Kusasangalatsa kwakanthawi panjira yakusintha sikungapeweke, koma mphotho idzakhala maubale omwe amabweretsa chisangalalo ndi kukhutitsidwa.