Kulowa muzovuta, kukumana ndi zovuta muubwenzi kapena kutayika musanasankhe, nthawi zambiri timafuna upangiri: timafunsa anzathu, anzathu kapena intaneti. Timayendetsedwa ndi mfundo yomwe tinaphunzira kuyambira ubwana: chifukwa chiyani kupanga chinthu chomwe chinapangidwa kale pamaso pathu. Komabe, pothetsa nkhani zaumwini, mfundo imeneyi nthawi zambiri sigwira ntchito, ndipo uphungu umayambitsa mkwiyo m’malo mwa mpumulo. Chifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika komanso momwe mungapezere yankho?
Makasitomala akafuna thandizo, nthawi zambiri amafunsa malangizo. Mwachitsanzo, momwe mungachokere pachibwenzi kapena momwe mungakonzere. Amafunsa ngati kuli koyenera kusiya ntchito, ndi nthawi yoti mukhale ndi mwana, choti muchite kuti mukhale olimba mtima, kusiya kuchita manyazi.
Zikuwoneka kuti mafunso ambiri ndi akale monga dziko lapansi - kodi sanabwere ndi mtundu wina wa malamulo wamba kapena mapiritsi opulumutsa omwe angathandize mulimonse? Anthu ena amafunsa mwachindunji za zimenezi, mwachitsanzo: “Kodi mukuganiza kuti pali tsogolo la maunansi ndi munthu ameneyu?” Tsoka, apa ndiyenera kukhumudwa: ine kapena anzanga alibe yankho lachilengedwe chonse. "Ndiye titani?" - mukufunsa. "Pezani gudumu," ndikuyankha.
Anthu apanga zipangizo zambiri zothandiza zimene zimathandiza kuti moyo ukhale wosalira zambiri moti kukonzanso zinthu zimene zinalipo kale n’kungotaya nthawi. Koma zikafika pa nkhani monga kumanga maubwenzi, kukhala ndi chidaliro, kuthana ndi chisoni, kapena kuvomereza kutayika, palibe njira ina koma kuyambitsanso gudumu. Inde, amene ali wangwiro kwa ife.
Ndikukumbukira kuti ndili mwana, tinkasinthana njinga ndi mnyamata wa mnansi chifukwa cha chidwi. Ankawoneka ngati njinga wamba, koma zinali zosasangalatsa bwanji: mapazi ake sanafike pamapazi, ndipo mpando umawoneka wovuta kwambiri. Zidzakhala zofanana ngati mutatsatira mwamsanga malangizo a munthu wina ndikuyamba kukonza moyo motsatira chitsanzo cha munthu wina: monga mabwenzi, monga amalangizidwa pa TV kapena anaumirizidwa ndi makolo.
Kukhala ndi malingaliro athu ndikutsegulira zatsopano, pang'onopang'ono - tokha kapena mothandizidwa ndi psychotherapist - timasonkhanitsa njinga yathu.
Mwa zina, psychotherapy ndi njira yobwezeretsanso gudumu, kufufuza mosamala, mosamala mayankho a mafunso oti "ndiyenera kukhala bwanji" ndi "zomwe zingandigwirizane ndi ine." Maubwenzi sangaphunzire m'mabuku, ngakhale atha kukhala othandiza ngati angakuthandizeni kudzifunsa mafunso oyenera. Tinene kuti luntha lochita kupanga lasankha mnzake wangwiro kwa ife. Koma ngakhale kusankha bwenzi molingana ndi chilinganizo chotsimikizika, chifukwa chake timakumana ndi munthu wamoyo, ndipo tilibe chochita koma kukhala maubwenzi amenewa tokha, kuyesera ndi improvising mwa iwo.
Zoti munene kwa mnzako mukasemphana maganizo? Momwe mungagwirizane pazachuma, ndani adzachotsa zinyalala? Muyenera kupanga mayankho nokha. Ndi iti mwa izo yomwe idzakhala yowona, mungathe kudziwa mwa kumvetsera nokha. Ndipo, zikutheka kuti adzakhala osiyana kwambiri ndi omwe akulimbikitsidwa ndi abwenzi kapena intaneti.
Kuvomereza kutayikiridwa, palibe njira ina yopulumukira koma kukhala ndi moyo. Kuti ndikhale ndi chidaliro chochulukirapo, ndikofunikira kudziwa komwe kumachokera, ndendende kusatetezeka kwanga. Kodi ndimatchera khutu ku chiyani chomwe chimandichititsa manyazi?
Chifukwa chake, kukhala ndi malingaliro ndikutsegulira zatsopano, pang'onopang'ono - tokha kapena mothandizidwa ndi psychotherapist - timasonkhanitsa njinga yathu. Winawake adzakhala ndi nthiti zapinki ndi dengu la mabuku, wina wokhala ndi matayala odzaza ndi mawilo amphamvu. Ndipo tikangokankhira pansi panjinga yomwe tadzipangira tokha, timayamba kuyenda molunjika komwe tili.