Ana ouma khosi adzapambana

Foni inaitana masana. Mu chubu - mawu okondwa a mphunzitsi. Chabwino, ndithudi, wanu «opusa» adalowanso ndewu. Ndipo monga mwayi ukanakhala nawo - ndi mnyamata yemwe ali ndi theka la mutu wamtali kuposa iye. Mukuganiza mofunitsitsa momwe mungachitire zokambirana zamaphunziro madzulo: "simungakwaniritse chilichonse ndi nkhonya zanu", "iyi ndi sukulu, osati gulu lankhondo", "bwanji ngati mwavulala?". Koma kenako zonse zidzachitikanso.

Kukakamira ndi chizolowezi chotsutsana mwa mwana kungayambitse nkhawa ya makolo. Zikuwoneka kwa iwo kuti ndi khalidwe lovuta kwambiri, sangathe kuyanjana ndi aliyense - kaya m'banja, kapena kuntchito. Koma ana amakani nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi malingaliro amoyo, kudziyimira pawokha komanso kukhala ndi malingaliro a «Ine».

M’malo mowadzudzula chifukwa chopanda mwambo kapena mwano, samalani za makhalidwe abwino a khalidwe limeneli. Kaŵirikaŵiri ndiwo chinsinsi cha chipambano.

Amasonyeza kulimbikira

Ena akatuluka mu mpikisanowo akuganiza kuti sangapambane, ana amakani amapita patsogolo. Katswiri wina wa mpira wa basketball Bill Russell ananenapo kuti, “Kuika maganizo kwambiri ndi kulimba m’maganizo ndiye maziko a chipambano.”

Iwo sakhudzidwa

Ana amene nthawi zambiri amapita limodzi ndi anzawo sadziwa kwenikweni zimene akufuna. Ouma khosi, m'malo mwake, amapindika mzere wawo ndipo salabadira kunyozedwa. Sasokonezeka mosavuta.

Iwo amawuka iwo atagwa

Ngati mulemba pofufuza mawu akuti "zizoloŵezi za anthu opambana", pafupifupi zinthu zonse tidzakumana ndi mawu otere: sataya mtima pambuyo polephera. Iyi ndiye mbali yaukali - kusafuna kupirira zochitika. Kwa mwana yemwe ali ndi chikhalidwe chouma, zovuta ndi zolakwika ndi chifukwa china chokhalira pamodzi ndikuyesanso.

Amaphunzira pa zimene zinawachitikira

Ana ena amangofunika kunena kuti “siyani” ndipo amamvera. Mwana wamakani adzayenda m'mikwingwirima ndi mikwingwirima, koma izi zimamupangitsa kuti amvetsetse zomwe adakumana nazo kuti amve ululu, zomwe zotsatira zake zimatha kuyambitsa, komwe kuli koyenera kuyimitsa ndikusamala.

Amasankha zochita mwachangu

Ana ouma khosi safika m'thumba mwawo ndi mawu ndipo samazengereza kwa nthawi yayitali asanabwezere. Liwiro limene amachitira ndi zosonkhezera limasintha kukhala zochita zopupuluma. Koma musadere nkhawa: akamakula, amaphunzira kukhala anzeru, ndipo kusasamala kwawo kumasandulika kukhala otsimikiza.

Amadziwa kupeza zomwe zili zosangalatsa

Makolo amadandaula za ana ouma khosi kuti sakufuna kuphunzira ndi kugwira ntchito zachizolowezi. Koma ana omwewa pambuyo pake amalimbana ndi mapulogalamu ndi ma microcircuits kwa masiku otsiriza, amaika zolemba za Olimpiki ndikupanga zoyambira bwino. Satopetsa - koma pokhapokha ngati sayesa kukakamiza zomwe sakuzifuna.

Amadziwa momwe angapambane

Chizoloŵezi chotsutsana ndi malamulo ndikuchita zosemphana ndi malangizo chimagwirizanitsidwa ndi kupambana muuchikulire, kafukufuku waposachedwapa akusonyeza.¹. “Kusamvera ulamuliro wa makolo ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zimene zimachititsa kuti munthu akhale ndi thanzi labwino pazachuma, komanso kukhala ndi maganizo ochuluka a m’maganizo mwawo, udindo wa makolo ndi maphunziro,” akutero olembawo. "Mwachiwonekere, kugwirizana kumeneku ndi chifukwa chakuti zigawenga zimatha kukwaniritsa zolinga zawo ndikuteteza zokonda zawo pazokambirana."

Iwo ali oona mtima kwa iwo eni

Wolemba mabuku wina dzina lake Clive Staples Lewis ananena kuti munthu amadziona kuti ndi woona ngati “achita zoyenera, ngakhale palibe amene akumuona.” Ana ouma khosi amapatsidwa khalidwe limeneli mochuluka. Sizingochitika kwa iwo kuti azisewera ndikuyesera kudzilungamitsa. M'malo mwake, nthawi zambiri amanena mwachindunji kuti: "Inde, sindine mphatso, koma ndiyenera kuleza mtima." Akhoza kupanga adani, koma ngakhale adani amawalemekeza chifukwa cha kulunjika kwawo.

Onse amafunsa

“Ndizoletsedwa? Chifukwa chiyani? Ndani ananena zimenezo?” Ana osakhazikika amaopseza akuluakulu ndi mafunso oterowo. Sakhala bwino m'malo okhala ndi mikhalidwe yokhwima - chifukwa cha chizolowezi chochita zinthu m'njira yawoyawo nthawi zonse. Ndipo amatha kutembenuza aliyense kuti adzitsutsa okha. Koma m'malo ovuta, mukafunika kuchita zinthu mosagwirizana, amadzuka.

Iwo akhoza kusintha dziko

Makolo angaone kuti kuumirira kwa mwanayo ndi vuto lenileni: sizingatheke kumukakamiza kumvera, kuchokera kwa iye pali ntchito zapakhomo ndi nkhawa, nthawi zonse amamuchitira manyazi pamaso pa ena. Koma kuuma mtima nthawi zambiri kumayendera limodzi ndi utsogoleri ndi luso. Ulemerero wa anthu "ovuta" unapezedwa nthawi imodzi ndi oganiza odziimira okha, monga katswiri wa sayansi ya sayansi Nikola Tesla kapena katswiri wa masamu Grigory Perelman, ndi amalonda atsopano, monga Steve Jobs ndi Elon Musk. Ngati mupatsa mwanayo mpata wotsogolera kulimbikira ku zomwe amakondwera nazo, chipambano sichidzakupangitsani kuyembekezera.

¹ M. Spengler, M. Brunner at al, «Makhalidwe a ophunzira ndi makhalidwe ali ndi zaka 12…», Developmental Psychology, 2015, vol. 51.

Za wolemba: Reenie Jane ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, wophunzitsa moyo, komanso wopanga pulogalamu yochepetsera nkhawa ya ana a GoZen.