Zamkatimu
Ine ndi mnzanga tinali limodzi kwa nthawi yaitali, tinkakondana ndipo ndinkafunitsitsa kukhala ndi ana. Iye anali wochepa chidwi, koma anavomera mfundo. Patapita zaka ziwiri, palibe! Ndinali ndi nkhawa, ndinaona kuti ndizodabwitsa, mnzangayo anandiuza kuti chilichonse chimachitika nthawi yake ndipo tifika. Iye, samakakamiza tsogolo. Ndimakhala ndi nkhawa, ndipo ndimakonda kuyambitsa zochitika. Ndinapita kwa dokotala wachikazi kuti ndidziwe zomwe zikuchitika. Kupimidwa kwachipatala kunavumbula kusalinganika pang’ono kwa mahomoni, koma osati kwakukulu. Ndikhoza kukhala ndi mwana. Mwadzidzidzi, ndinapempha mnzangayo kuti aone ngati zonse zikuyenda bwino pamapeto pake. Anatenga nthawi yaitali kwambiri kuti apange spermogram, anachita ngati akuganiza kuti ali ndi vuto ndipo ankachita mantha kuti adziwe. Ndinamupukuta khungu kwa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi usiku uliwonse, ndinali wokwiya kwambiri ndipo ubwenzi wathu unatha. Anamaliza kupita ndipo mayeso adawonetsa kuti adadwala azoospermia, anali ndi zaka 29, ndipo palibe umuna mu umuna wake.
Anatulukira chotupa mwa mwamuna wanga!
Ndinapanga chisankho chopita kukaonana ndi katswiri wobereka. Tonse tinkafuna kupeza njira yothetsera mwana. Ndinapimidwanso, machubu anga sanatsekeke, chiberekero changa chinali bwino, ndipo dzira langa linali langwiro. Kumbali ina, kuyezetsa kwatsopano komwe kunachitidwa kwa mnzanga kunavumbula chotupa m’machende. Matendawa akhoza kuchiritsidwa bwino, sanaike moyo wake pachiswe, chinali mpumulo. Koma nkhani yoipa imeneyi inandidabwitsa. Ndili ndi zaka 30 ndipo dziko langa linali kugwa! Umayi unali kwa ine funso la moyo ndi imfa, kusakhala ndi ana kunali kusowa moyo wako, changa chinalibe tanthauzo ngati sindinakhale mayi. Katswiri amene anachotsa chotupa cha mnzangayo anapeza umuna 3 m’kati mwa opaleshoniyo. Ndizochepa kwambiri kuchita IVF ndi ICSI (umuna umalowetsedwa mu dzira), koma tinatenga mwayi wathu. Ndinali wopanda chiyembekezo, sindinakhulupirire. Tinayesetsa kawiri koma osapambana. Banja lathu lawonongeka kwambiri. Ndipo ndinayamba misala, moyo wopanda ana unali zosatheka, zimakayikira zonse, tinasiyana kwa chaka. Zinali zachiwawa, ndinabzala mnzanga ndi khansa yake, koma ndinali wotanganidwa kwambiri ndi chikhumbo changa cha mwana, ndinayiwala za izo. Anakumana ndi munthu wina, anayambanso kudalira umuna wake, ndipo ndinazindikira mwamsanga kuti moyo wopanda iye unali zosatheka! Ndinazindikira kuti ndimakonda "Palibe mwana naye", osati "mwana wopanda iye". Iye anali atasiya kulankhula nane. Kamodzi pamwezi, ndinkamupatsa nkhani pa makina ake oyankha. Patapita chaka, anandiimbira foni ndipo ndinamuuza kuti ndimamukondabe, ndikumudikirira, kuti ndinali wokonzeka kuvomera kuti ndisakhalenso ndi ana kuti ndidzakhalenso naye. Tinapezana wina ndi mzake ndipo banja lathu linatuluka mu kupatukana uku mwamphamvu.
Masabata 12 a ultrasound adawonetsa vuto
Popeza mnzanga anali wosabala, yankho linali kulera ana kapena IAD (kulowetsedwa ndi wopereka wosadziwika). Iye anali wa IAD. Ndinali kutsika. Zinanditengera zaka ziwiri za chithandizo chamaganizo kuti ndivomereze njira imeneyi yothandizira kubereka. Kusadziwika komwe kudandidetsa nkhawa kunali chifukwa chosadziwa yemwe adachokera. Ndidavutitsidwa ndi malingaliro oyipa, woperekayo atha kukhala psychopath yomwe idadutsa m'ming'alu? Kusiyapo pyenepi, anyakubala anga akhanyerezera kuti ndi pyakuipa. Panthawiyo, tinakumana ndi abwenzi angapo omwe anali ndi ana awo ndi IAD. Tinakambirana zambiri, zomwe zinatithandiza kuti tiyambe.
Njirayi ndi yaitali kwambiri, timapita ku CECOS (Center for Studies and Conservation of Eggs and Sperm), timayesedwabe, timakumana ndi madokotala, kuchepa, kuti tiwone ngati tikudziwa bwino zomwe njirayi ikuphatikiza ndi momwe munthu amaganizira. kulera. Tikaweruzidwa kuti ndi "oyenera", amasankha wopereka yemwe ali ndi phenotype pafupi ndi mwamuna wake - mtundu wa maso, khungu, morphology ... Palibe opereka ndalama ambiri, nthawi yodikira ndi miyezi 18. Panthawiyo, ndinali ndi zaka 32 ndipo ndinazindikira kuti ndidzakhala mayi ndili ndi zaka 35! Monga momwe tingachepetsere nthawi ngati tipereka wopereka ku CECOS, mnzanga wa mnzanga anavomera kupereka chopereka chosadziwika kwa achibale ena. Mkhalidwe wathu unamukhudza mtima, chinali chochitika chaulere, sitingamuthokoze mokwanira! Monga mnzanga wapamtima amene wakhala akutithandiza pankhondo yathu. Pambuyo pa miyezi 12, ndinabadwa kawiri. Koma zimenezo sizinathandize. Kenako ma IVF awiri omwe sanagwire ntchito. Ndinaona akuchepa, katswiri wa sterility, ndipo ndinazindikira kuti ndinali ndi nkhaŵa imodzimodziyo ponena za woperekayo. Potsirizira pake, kulera kwachisanu kunagwira ntchito, potsirizira pake ndinakhala ndi pakati! Tinali osangalala. Koma 5 masabata ultrasound anasonyeza nuchal translucency wa 12mm, ndipo madokotala anatitsimikizira kuti mwana wathu anali ndi vuto lalikulu mtima. Titakambirana ndi achipatala, tinaganiza zomusiya. Ndinabereka mosadziwika bwino pa 6 milungu gestation, ndinapatsidwa anesthetized, ndinakumana nazo ngati robot. Anali mtsikana, sindinkafuna kumuwona, koma ali ndi dzina ndipo linalembedwa m'buku lathu lakale. Pambuyo pa chochitika ichi, ndinakana kotheratu za zomwe zinachitika. Zinali zovuta kwa mnzanga, anali ndi maganizo. Chotero tinaganiza zokwatirana, kukhala ndi phwando lalikulu ndi mabwenzi athu ndi banja langa kuthetsa chisoni chathu. Mlongo wanga adakonza ukwati wanga, zinali zabwino. Ndinayambiranso kuyimba, ndinali ndi ufulu wopatsidwanso kachiwiri, ndi zina zisanu ndi chimodzi za insemination. Pa tsiku lachisanu, ndinatenga mimba. Sindinasangalale konse. Ndinatuluka magazi pang'ono ndipo ndinali wotsimikiza kuti nditaya mwana wanga. Pa sabata la 16 ultrasound ndinali kulira. Koma zonse zinali bwino, mwana wanga anali wabwinobwino. Ndinali ndi mimba yopweteka, panalibe vuto, koma ndinali ndi nkhawa kwambiri ndinayambitsa ming'oma ikuluikulu, ndinagwidwa ndi toxoplasmosis ndi amphaka, ndinangodya Babybel!
Mwana wokongola, koma wokongola!
Ndipo pa August 23, 2012, ndinabereka Aaron, mwana wokongola, koma wokongola! Ine ndi mwamuna wanga tinali pa cloud nine, sitinadandaule chifukwa kubadwa kwa mwana wathu wamwamuna kunali kodabwitsa. Ndinachita mini baby-blues m'chipinda cha amayi oyembekezera, mwamuna wanga amakhala nane nthawi zonse. Kubwerera kunyumba kunali kovuta, ndinali ndi nkhawa chifukwa cha matenda a mwadzidzidzi a imfa ya khanda. Mwamuna wanga, yemwe nthawi zonse anali wapadera, adanditsimikizira, adatenga udindo. Ndi bambo wodabwitsa. Anasiya kugwira ntchito kuti azisamalira Aroni. Mosakayikira inali njira yobwezera chifukwa mwana wake analibe majini ake. Anafunika kukhalapo kuti apange mgwirizano wamphamvu kwambiri nthawi yomweyo. Patapita chaka chimodzi, tinakhala ndi mnyamata wachiŵiri, Enio. Zinali mpumulo kuti anali anyamata awiri, zomwe zinamuyendera kwambiri mwana wathu wamkazi. Ndi mwamuna wanga amene amawasamalira tsiku ndi tsiku. Aroni analumbirira bambo ake mpaka atakwanitsa zaka 2, ndipo kwa Enio n’chimodzimodzi. Mwamuna wanga amadziwa kuti ntchito yanga ndi yofunika kwambiri kwa ine, amandiyamikira kuti sindinasiye mlanduwo, kuyembekezera, kuyesetsa kuti ndithe kuyambitsa banja, zivute zitani. Amadziwanso kuti zimanditsimikizira kuti amawasamalira. Ndife gulu, ndife okondwa chonchi! Chisoni changa chokha ndichakuti sindingathe kupereka mazira anga chifukwa ndili ndi zaka zopitilira 38. Ndikanakonda kwambiri kumupatsa mkazi zomwe wopereka watichitira ...