Zamkatimu
“Panali patchuthi chabanja pamene mkwiyo wanga woyamba unawonekera: pamene ndinali nditanyamula mpeni wakukhitchini madzulo ena, ndinadziwona ndikubaya makolo anga ndi mchimwene wanga. Monga ngati ndagwidwa ndi chikhumbo chosatsutsika, chophatikizidwa ndi zithunzi zachiwawa kwambiri, ndinali wotsimikiza kuti ndingathe kuchitapo kanthu ngati ndimvera mawu aang'ono awa omwe adandiitana kuti ndiwononge banja langa, kuyambira msinkhu wa zaka khumi ndi zitatu. Ngakhale kuti panthawiyo sindinkadziwa, ndinkangovutika ndi zimene zimatchedwa impulse phobias, obsessive-compulsive disorder, yomwe imadziwika ndi kuopa kulephera kudziletsa komanso kudzichitira nkhanza. kapena ena.
Zaka zotsatira zinali zodziwika ndi zochitika zofanana. Sindinathe kuyandikira pulatifomu mpaka sitima inafika, poopa kuti ndingagwidwe ndi chikoka n’kukankhira munthu m’njanji. Ndili m’galimoto, ndinalingalira kuti ndikupereka chiwongolero ndi kuloŵa mumtengo kapena galimoto ina. Zinandidetsa nkhawa kale panthawiyo, koma pang'ono.
Kodi impulse phobia ndi chiyani?
Impulse phobia ndi kutengeka mtima kwambiri kapena kuopa kuchita zinthu zankhanza, zachiwawa komanso / kapena zonyansa, ndipo ndizoletsedwa. Mwachitsanzo, kumenya munthu mutakhala ndi mpeni m'manja, ndikukankhira munthu pansi pa sitimayo ngati muli papulatifomu… Vutoli lingakhudzenso zochita zomwe munthu angachitire ana ake omwe. Malingaliro osautsa awa samasulira kuchitapo kanthu.
Ma phobias okhudzidwa ndi a m'banja la OCD ndipo akhoza kubwera pambuyo pa kubadwa, ngakhale amayi ambiri alibe kulimba mtima kukamba za izo. Kasamalidwe ka ma impulse phobias kwenikweni amatengera psychotherapy, makamaka pa cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT). Njira zofatsa monga kusinkhasinkha mwanzeru kapena mankhwala azitsamba zitha kukhala zothandiza.
"Ndinagwidwa ndi malingaliro omwe adaundana magazi anga"
Ndinabereka mwana wanga woyamba mu 2017 pomwe zochitikazi zidasintha kwambiri. Ndinagwidwa ndi maganizo omwe anaziziritsa magazi anga komanso kuti mwana wanga, yemwe anali wofunika kwambiri kwa ine, anali cholinga chake.
Zokhazikika m'maganizo mwanga popanda kufuna kutero, malingaliro oyipawa adayambitsa chizungulire choyipa cha malingaliro osatha, ndipo machitidwe wamba a moyo watsiku ndi tsiku adatha kukhala ndi khalidwe lowawa kwambiri kotero kuti sindinathenso kuzichita. wosakwatiwa. Mwachitsanzo, zinali kunja kwa funso kuti ndiyandikira mipeni kapena mazenera, zokopa za "phobogenic" zomwe zinayambitsa mitundu yonse ya zomverera zakuthupi, kupsinjika maganizo ndikundiyika ine mu kupsinjika maganizo kotero kuti ndinali ndi mantha pa lingalirolo. kuti mwamuna wanga atisiya kupita ku ntchito. Nanenso sindimatha kusamba ndekha kuopa kumumiza.
Kuyambira miyezi yoyamba ya mwana wanga ndi masitepe anga oyamba monga mayi, ndimakumbukira zinthu zodzadza ndi chimwemwe ndi chisoni, pamene ndinagwada pansi pamaso pa mantha anga makamaka. Kukhala ndi mantha kwambiri ndi kukhutiritsidwa kuti malingalirowa akhoza kukhala ndi chinthu cha choonadi, ndi kuti kuika njira zopewera kukanandilola kuti ndituluke m'mavuto. Ndidayenera kuzindikira kuti ndi malingaliro oyipa awa omwe amakulitsa mantha ndikupangitsa kuti mitundu yonse yovutitsayi ichuluke, ngakhale zitasemphana ndi zomwe timafunikira.
Landirani maganizo anu mokoma mtima
Pomvetsetsa izi, ndinatha kuphunzira momwe ndingawasamalire bwino m'miyezi ingapo, makamaka kupyolera mu kusinkhasinkha. Ndikuvomereza kuti ndinali wotsutsa kwambiri poyamba, lingaliro lomwelo lokhala kwa mphindi zingapo ndikuwona kupuma kwanga linkawoneka ngati lopanda nzeru kwa ine. Ndikadawoneka bwanji, nditakhala ndimiyendo pakati pachipinda ndikuyang'ana maso, ngati mwamuna wanga atagwa mwadzidzidzi?! Ndinkasewerabe masewerawa, kusinkhasinkha mphindi khumi tsiku lililonse kwa mlungu umodzi, kenako mwezi umodzi, kenako chaka, ndipo nthaŵi zina ndinkachita maphunziro otalika kuposa ola limodzi, zimene poyamba zinkaoneka ngati zosatheka kuziganizira.
Zinandilola kuphunzira kuletsa maganizo oipawa mwa kudzionetsera kwa iwo ndi kuwalandira mokoma mtima, popanda chiweruzo, m’malo mofuna kuwapewa kapena kumenyana nawo. Ngakhale kuti ndakambirana ndi akatswiri amisala angapo, ndikukhulupirira kuti chithandizo chabwino kwambiri chakhala kusinkhasinkha mwanzeru komanso ntchito yomwe yanditsogolera kuti ndizichita ndekha m'miyezi yonseyi.
Kuyang’ana ndi kuvomereza zimene zikuchitika m’mutu mwathu ndi m’thupi mwathu, mwa kukhalapo kwenikweni, kumatiitanira kusintha unansi wathu ndi malingaliro athu ndi malingaliro athu, kaya akhale abwino kapena oipa.
“Kulimba mtima kukamba nkhaniyo kumatanthauzanso kuvomereza mantha anu”
Nditakhala ndi mwana wachiwiri miyezi ingapo yapitayo, ndawona kupita patsogolo komanso njira yomwe idayenda kuyambira mchimwene wake anabadwa. Ngakhale sindinayerekeze kuyankhula za izi m'mbuyomu (ndi mtundu watsatanetsatane womwe timakonda kubisa!), Kubwerera uku kunandilimbikitsa kuti ndikambirane za matendawa ndi okondedwa anga, komanso kuti ndilembe buku pazokhudza zonse. njira zomwe zidandithandiza kuthana nazo. Kulimba mtima kukamba nkhaniyo kumatanthauzanso kuvomereza mantha anu.
Lero, sindinachiritsidwe ma phobias opumirawa chifukwa m'malo mwake, munthu samawachiritsa, koma ndidatha kuwachotsa, ndikuchepetsa malingaliro aukali, omwe sakhalaponso. Mulimonse mmene zingakhalire, sindikuziika kukhala zofunika kwambiri, tsopano popeza ndikudziwa kuti zonse zikuyenda m’mutu mwanga ndipo sindidzachitapo kanthu. Ndipo ndicho chigonjetso chenicheni cha chitukuko changa. “
Morgan Rosa