Chifukwa chiyani timapanga ma exes athu?

Posachedwapa, ofufuza ochokera ku Canada adasanthula zambiri kuchokera kwa omwe adachita nawo kafukufuku wabanja wanthawi yayitali waku Germany momwe azimayi ndi abambo kuyambira 2008 amafotokozera pafupipafupi za iwo eni ndi maubwenzi awo ndikulemba mayeso okhudza momwe alili omasuka, omvera, ochezeka, olekerera, oda nkhawa. Ochita nawo 332 adasintha anzawo panthawiyi, zomwe zidapangitsa kuti ochita kafukufukuwo aphatikizepo omwe adakhala nawo kale komanso apano pa kafukufukuyu.

Ofufuzawa adapeza kuphatikizika kwakukulu m'mbiri za omwe anali nawo kale komanso atsopano. Pazonse, mphambano zidalembedwa pazizindikiro 21. "Zotsatira zathu zikuwonetsa kuti kusankha kwa okwatirana kumadziwikiratu kuposa momwe amayembekezera," olemba kafukufukuyo amagawana.

Komabe, pali zosiyana. Omwe angaganizidwe kuti ndi omasuka (extroverts) amasankha mabwenzi atsopano osati nthawi zonse monga owonetsa. Mwinamwake, ochita kafukufuku amakhulupirira, chifukwa gulu lawo lachiyanjano ndi lalikulu ndipo, motero, olemera posankha. Koma mwina mfundo yonse ndi yakuti anthu okonda masewerawa akufunafuna zatsopano m'mbali zonse za moyo. Iwo ali ndi chidwi ndi chirichonse chatsopano, sichinayesedwe.

Ndipo komabe nchifukwa chiyani ambiri aife timayang'ana mtundu womwewo wa okondedwa, ngakhale zolinga zonse kuti tisabwereze zolakwazo? Apa, asayansi amangolingalira ndikuyika zongopeka. Mwina tikukamba za zochitika zosavuta, chifukwa nthawi zambiri timasankha munthu wochokera kumalo ochezera omwe tazolowera. Mwina timakopeka ndi chinthu chodziwika bwino komanso chodziwika bwino. Kapena mwina ife, monga obwerezabwereza osasinthika, nthawi zonse timabwerera kunjira yomenyedwa.

Kuyang'ana kumodzi ndikokwanira ndipo chisankho chimapangidwa

Wothandizira maubwenzi komanso mlembi wa Who's Right For Me? Iye + Iye = Mtima ”Christian Thiel ali ndi yankho lake: chiwembu chathu chopeza bwenzi chimabwera muubwana. Kwa anthu ambiri, izi, tsoka, zitha kukhala zovuta.

Tiyeni titenge nkhani ya Alexander monga chitsanzo chophiphiritsira. Ali ndi zaka 56, ndipo kwa miyezi itatu tsopano ali ndi chilakolako chachinyamata. Dzina lake ndi Anna, ndi wowonda, ndipo Alexander ankakonda tsitsi lake lalitali lofiirira kotero kuti sanazindikire kuti mnzake "wosiyana" amafanana kwambiri ndi m'malo mwake, Maria wazaka 40. Mukawayika mbali imodzi, munganene kuti ndi alongo.

Momwe timakhalira okhulupilika kwa ife tokha posankha bwenzi zimatsimikiziridwa ndi mafilimu ndi owonetsa akatswiri amalonda. Leonardo DiCaprio amakopeka ndi mitundu yofanana ya blonde. Kate Moss - kwa anyamata omwe ali ndi vuto losweka omwe amafunikira thandizo, nthawi zina - kulowererapo kwa narcologist. Mndandandawu ukhoza kupitilizidwa mpaka kalekale. Koma n’chifukwa chiyani amagwera mosavuta nyambo imodzimodziyo? Kodi madongosolo osankha anzawo amapangidwa bwanji? Ndipo limakhala vuto liti?

Christian Thiel akutsimikiza kuti kusankha kwathu kuli ndi malire ndi dongosolo lolimba la dongosolo lomwelo. Mwachitsanzo, Christina wazaka 32, yemwe ali ndi malo ofewa pamagalimoto apamwamba a retro. Christina wakhala yekha kwa zaka zisanu tsopano. Tsiku lina, akudikirira kuthawa, adagwira diso la mwamuna - wamphamvu, watsitsi labwino. Mkaziyo pafupifupi nthaŵi yomweyo anatembenuka, natumiza mwamunayo “ku dengu.” Nthawi zonse ankakonda tsitsi laling'ono ndi lakuda, kotero kuti ngakhale "wowonerera" ali ndi garaja yonse ya magalimoto akale, sakanayesedwa.

Timataya chidwi chathu mosavuta kwa iwo omwe sakugwirizana ndi nkhungu yathu. Izi, monga ofufuza adapeza, zimangotenga kachigawo kakang'ono ka sekondi. Choncho kuyang'ana mwachidule kumodzi ndikokwanira kupanga chisankho chomaliza.

Muvi wa Cupid kuyambira ali mwana

Inde, sitikunena za chikondi chamwambi pongochiona kumene anthu ambiri amakhulupirira. Kumverera kozama kumatenga nthawi, Thiel akutsimikiza. M’malo mwake, mu kamphindi kakang’ono kameneka, tikuyesa ngati tipeza ena ofunikira. Mwachidziwitso, izi ziyenera kutchedwa erotica. Mu nthano zachi Greek, mawuwa, ndithudi, analibe, koma panali kumvetsetsa kwenikweni kwa ndondomeko yokha. Ngati mukukumbukira, Eros anaponya muvi wagolide womwe unayatsa banjali nthawi yomweyo.

Mfundo yakuti nthawi zina muvi umagunda "mumtima" nthawi zambiri ukhoza kufotokozedwa mopanda chikondi - ndi maganizo kwa kholo la amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Bambo a Christina kuchokera ku chitsanzo chomaliza anali brunette woonda. Tsopano, pofika zaka za m'ma 60, ndi wonenepa komanso wa tsitsi la imvi, koma m'malingaliro a mwana wake wamkazi amakhalabe mnyamata yemweyo yemwe anapita naye kumalo ochitira masewera Loweruka ndikumuwerengera nthano madzulo. Chikondi chake choyamba chachikulu.

Njira iyi yopezera wosankhidwayo imagwira ntchito ngati ubale pakati pa mkazi ndi abambo ake unali wabwino. Ndiye, akamakumana, iye - kawirikawiri mosazindikira - akuyang'ana amuna omwe amawoneka ngati iye. Koma chododometsa ndi chakuti atate ndi wosankhidwa onse ali ofanana ndi osiyana pa nthawi imodzi. Kufanana kwambiri sikulola kukopeka: kuopa kugonana ndi wachibale kumakhala mozama kwambiri mwa ife. Izi, ndithudi, zimagwiranso ntchito kwa amuna omwe akufunafuna akazi mu fano la amayi awo.

Kusankha bwenzi lofanana ndi kholo la amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, nthawi zambiri timasamala mosazindikira mtundu wa tsitsi, kutalika, miyeso, mawonekedwe a nkhope. Zaka zingapo zapitazo, ofufuza a ku Hungary anawerengera kuchuluka kwa maphunziro 300. Anafufuza, mwa zina, mtunda wa pakati pa maso, komanso utali wa mphuno ndi m’lifupi mwa chibwano. Ndipo adapeza ubale wabwino pakati pa nkhope ya abambo ndi abwenzi a ana aakazi. Chithunzi chomwecho cha amuna: amayi awo adagwiranso ntchito ngati "prototypes" ya okondedwa.

Osati kwa bambo komanso kwa amayi

Koma bwanji ngati chokumana nacho ndi amayi kapena abambo chinali cholakwika? Muchikozyano, tulakonzya “kuvota mumakani aakusaanguna.” "M'zondichitikira zanga, pafupifupi 20% ya anthu akufunafuna mnzawo yemwe amatsimikiziridwa kuti asawakumbutse za amayi kapena abambo," akufotokoza motero katswiriyo. Izi ndi zomwe zimachitika kwa Max wazaka 27: amayi ake anali ndi tsitsi lalitali lakuda. Nthawi zonse akakumana ndi mkazi wamtunduwu, amakumbukira zithunzi kuyambira ali mwana ndipo amasankha okondedwa omwe samawoneka ngati amayi ake.

Koma sizikutsatira kuchokera mu phunziro ili kuti kukondana ndi mtundu womwewo ndiko kulakwitsa. M'malo mwake, iyi ndi nthawi yosinkhasinkha: tingaphunzire bwanji kutengera mikhalidwe ya bwenzi latsopano mwanjira ina kuti tisaponde pamzere womwewo.