Zinthu 12 zomwe zimafunikira kuti munthu azisangalala

Jen Granneman, mlembi wa buku lofotokoza za anthu odzionetsera komanso amene anayambitsa gulu lalikulu la anthu apa intaneti la anthu ongolankhula, akutero Jen Granneman. “Ndinkafuna kukhala ngati anzanga onyada, chifukwa analibe vuto kulankhula ndi anthu osawadziŵa, sanali otopa ndi kulankhulana ndi moyo monga mmene ine ndinaliri.”

Pambuyo pake, atakhazikika m’phunziro la mutu umenewu, anazindikira kuti palibe cholakwika ndi kukhala munthu wongolankhula momasuka. "Kupatula apo, introversion ili mu DNA yathu kuyambira kubadwa, ndipo ubongo wathu umagwira ntchito mosiyana kwambiri ndi extroverts. Malingaliro athu amasintha mozama, timakhala omvera kwambiri ma neurotransmitters a dopamine, timadzi "tikumva bwino", ndipo sitipeza chakudya chofanana ndi kucheza komwe anthu amapeza.

Chifukwa cha mikhalidwe imeneyi, anthu oterowo angafunikire mikhalidwe yosiyana kuti akhale osangalala kuposa otuluka kunja. Pansipa pali 12 mikhalidwe yotere malinga ndi Jen Granneman.

1. Timeouts kwa Chiwonetsero Processing

Pambuyo pa maphwando aphokoso ndi zochitika zina, oyambitsa amafunika kupuma kuti awonjezere mabatire awo. Chifukwa cha kusanthula kwawo mwakuya malingaliro ndi zochitika, tsiku lotanganidwa kuntchito, kugula m’misika yodzaza ndi anthu, kapena kukambitsirana kwaukali kungayambitse kutopa mosavuta.

Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kuti mudzipatse nthawi yopumula, "kugaya" zowonera ndikuchepetsa kuchuluka kwa zokondoweza kukhala zomasuka komanso zokhazikika. Apo ayi, zidzawoneka kuti ubongo "wakufa" kale, kukwiya, kutopa kwa thupi, kapena ngakhale malaise.

2. Kukambirana kopindulitsa

“Kodi weekend yanu inali bwanji?”, “Chatsopano ndi chani?”, “Kodi mumakonda zakudya zotani?”… Okhazikika mwa iwo eni, anthu opanda phokoso amatha kukamba nkhani zazing’ono, koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti amakonda kalembedwe kameneka. kulankhulana. Palinso mafunso ambiri ofunika ndi ochititsa chidwi amene angasangalale kukambitsirana: “Kodi nchiyani chatsopano chimene mwaphunzira posachedwapa?”, “Kodi lero mwasiyana bwanji ndi zimene munali dzulo?”, “Kodi mumakhulupirira Mulungu?”.

Sikuti kukambirana kulikonse kuyenera kukhala kozama komanso kwatanthauzo. Nthawi zina mafunso osavuta okhudza momwe maholide adayendera komanso ngati mumakonda phwando lamakampani ndi ofunikiranso kwa oyambitsa. Koma ngati «adyetsedwa» kokha ndi nkhani zazing'ono zazing'ono, amamva njala popanda kulankhulana kozama, kopindulitsa.

3. Kukhala chete mwaubwenzi

Zingawoneke kuti mfundoyi ikutsutsana ndi yapitayi, koma amafunika kukhala chete mwaubwenzi. Kwa iwo, anthu ndi ofunika omwe mungathe kukhala nawo maola ambiri m'chipinda chimodzi, aliyense akuchita zofuna zake osati kulankhula, ngati palibe maganizo oti mukambirane. Amayamikira awo amene sangazindikire mwamantha mmene angadzaze kupuma, kumene nthaŵi zina kumafunika kuwongolera maganizo awo.

4. Mwayi wokhazikika muzokonda ndi zokonda

Mabuku a Gothic, nthano za Celtic, kubwezeretsa magalimoto akale. Kulima, kuluka, kujambula, kuphika kapena kulemba. Ngati introvert ali ndi chidwi ndi chinachake, akhoza kupita kumeneko ndi mutu wake. Mwayi umenewu woganizira kwambiri zokonda ndi zokonda ndi wopatsa mphamvu.

Kutengeka ndi zosangalatsa zomwe amakonda, anthu oterewa amalowa m'malo a «otaya» - amamizidwa kwathunthu ndi ntchitoyi ndikusangalala ndi njirayi. Mkhalidwe wa kuyenda kwa ambiri a iwo kumachitika mwachibadwa ndipo amapereka kumverera kwa chisangalalo.

5. Pothaŵirapo mwakachetechete

Woyamba, monga palibe wina aliyense, amafunikira malo abata, odekha omwe ali ake okha. Kumeneko mukhoza kubisala kwa kanthawi pamene dziko likuwoneka mokweza kwambiri. Moyenera, ichi ndi chipinda chomwe munthu amatha kukonzekeretsa ndikukongoletsa mwanjira yake. Kukhala pawekha popanda kuopa kulowerera ndi mwayi umene kwa iye uli ngati kuchita zauzimu.

6. Nthawi yosinkhasinkha

Malinga ndi Dr. Marty Olsen Laney, mlembi wa Invincible Introvert, anthu omwe ali ndi khalidweli akhoza kudalira kwambiri kukumbukira kwa nthawi yaitali kusiyana ndi kukumbukira kwanthawi yochepa - mwa njira, zosiyana ndi zowona kwa extroverts. Izi zikhoza kufotokoza chifukwa chake anthu omwe amalankhula nawo nthawi zambiri amayesa kufotokoza maganizo awo m'mawu.

Nthawi zambiri amafunikira khama lowonjezera ndi nthawi yoti aganizire asanayankhe, nthawi yayitali kuposa momwe amaganizira za mavuto akulu. Popanda nthawi iyi yokonza ndi kusinkhasinkha, oyambitsa amakhala ndi nkhawa.

7. Kutha kukhala kunyumba

Ma introverts amafunika kuyimitsidwa pakucheza: kulumikizana kumafuna kusamala. Izi zikutanthauza kuti kutha kukana kutuluka "pagulu" ndikofunikira, komanso kumvetsetsa kufunikira kotere kwa mnzanu, achibale ndi abwenzi. Kumvetsetsa zomwe sizimaphatikizapo kukakamizidwa ndi kudziimba mlandu.

8. Cholinga chachikulu pa moyo ndi ntchito

Aliyense ayenera kulipira mabilu ndi kupita kukagula zinthu, ndipo kwa ambiri ndi ndalama zomwe zimawalimbikitsa kupita kuntchito. Pali anthu amene amasangalala nazo. Komabe, kwa ma introverts ambiri izi sizokwanira - ali okonzeka kugwira ntchito modzipereka, koma pokhapokha ngati pali chidwi ndi tanthauzo mu ntchitoyi. Amafunikira zambiri kuposa kungogwira ntchito kuti alandire malipiro.

Popanda tanthauzo ndi cholinga m'moyo - kaya ndi ntchito kapena china - sadzakhala osangalala kwambiri.

9. Chilolezo chokhala chete

Nthawi zina ma introverts alibe mphamvu yolumikizana ndi ena. Kapena amatembenukira mkati, kusanthula zochitika ndi zowonera. Amafuna kuti "asakhale chete" ndi kuwagwedeza kuti alankhule kumapangitsa anthuwa kukhala osamasuka. "Tiyeni tikhale chete - izi ndi zomwe timafunikira kuti tikhale osangalala," wolembayo amalankhula ndi anthu okonda kwambiri. "Pakatha nthawi yofunikira kuti tifotokoze zambiri ndikuwonjezeranso, tidzabwerera kwa inu kuti zokambirana zipitirire."

10. Kudziimira pawokha

Oyambirira komanso odziyimira pawokha, omwe amangoyamba kumene amalola kuti zinthu zawo zamkati ziziwatsogolera m'malo motsatira unyinji. Amagwira ntchito moyenera komanso amakhala osangalala akakhala ndi ufulu. Amakonda kukhala odziyimira pawokha komanso odziyimira pawokha komanso kuchita zomwe akufuna.

11. Moyo wosalira zambiri

Jen Granneman akufotokoza za moyo wotanganidwa wa bwenzi lake lodzipatula - amadzipereka kusukulu, amasamalira banja lake, amakonza maphwando, zonsezi kuwonjezera pa ntchito yake. “Monga wongoyamba kumene, sindikanapulumuka m’ndandanda yoteroyo,” iye akufotokoza motero, “moyo wosiyana umandikwanira bwinopo: bukhu labwino, Loweruka ndi Lamlungu laulesi, kukambitsirana kwatanthauzo ndi bwenzi—zimene zimandipangitsa kukhala wachimwemwe.”

12. Chikondi ndi kulandiridwa kuchokera kwa okondedwa

An introvert sadzakhala munthu wotchuka kwambiri mu chipinda. M’gulu lalikulu la anthu, iye sangawonekere nkomwe, popeza iye amakonda kukhala kumbuyo. Komabe, monga wina aliyense, oyambitsa amafunikira anthu apamtima komanso okonda - omwe amawona kufunika kwawo, kuwasamalira ndi kuwavomereza ndi zovuta zawo zonse.

"Tikudziwa kuti nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta nafe - palibe amene ali wangwiro. Mukamatikonda ndi kutilandira monga momwe tilili, mumapangitsa moyo wathu kukhala wosangalala kwambiri,” anamaliza motero Jen Granneman.

Za Wolemba: Jen Granneman ndi mlembi wa The Secret Lives of Introverts.