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Masiku ano, kuyambika kumawonekera kwa ambiri kukhala chinthu chochititsa manyazi. Kodi mumamva bwanji kukhala kunyumba osalankhula ndi aliyense m'dera lomwe zochita ndi kucheza ndi anthu ndizofunika? M'malo mwake, ma introverts amatha kuwonetsa mphamvu zawo kudziko lapansi.
Sindinyadira kukhala munthu wongolankhula, koma sindichita manyazi nazo. Izi mwazokha sizabwino kapena zoyipa. Zangoperekedwa. Kunena zowona, ndatopa pang'ono ndi kunyada kwanga. Aliyense amene ndikumudziwa amanditumizira memes za introverts ozizira ndi extroverts wotopetsa amene kulankhula kwambiri.
Zokwanira. Ndizosangalatsa kuti tidalandira luso lathu ndikuwuza dziko lapansi za chikondi chathu chokhala tokha. Koma si nthawi yoti tipitirire? Kodi tikutsutsa kwambiri? Ngati mukumva bwino, kodi muyenera kumangokhalira kukuwa? Kodi si nthawi yoti muzingoganizira zanu?
Kuonjezera apo, ambiri ochita zachitukuko cha "kunyada ndi kayendetsedwe kanu kameneka" akukulimbikitsani kuti muwasiye.
Zoonadi, kufunikira kwa kukhala pawekha ndi gawo la chikhalidwe cha introvert, koma gawo lokha. Tikufuna izi kuti tichire, koma ndikuganiza kuti ndi nthawi yoti mudziwe momwe mungasangalatsire dziko lapansi ndi zabwino zomwe mumalankhula.
Ngati mukungogwiritsa ntchito ngati chowiringula chokana kuyitanira, ndiye kuti mukungotsimikizira malingaliro ambiri kuti ma introverts ndi asocial. Ndipo ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro kuti inu molakwika introversion wanu. Tiyeni tiyambe ndi izo, kenako tikambirana za ena.
1. Mumathera nthawi yochuluka kunyumba.
Simumakonda maphwando. Zili bwino, koma kodi mumadziwa kuti mutha kuphunzira kuwakonda ngati mutenga nawo mbali muzochita zanu… mwanjira yanu? Mwachitsanzo, popita kuphwando, dzipatseni chilolezo chochoka nthawi iliyonse - ngakhale "kukadali koyambirira". Kapena khalani pakona ndikuyang'ana ena. Inde, wina angakuvutitseni ndi mafunso okhudza chifukwa chake simulankhulana. Ndiye? Simusamala, muli bwino nokha.
Koma tinene kuti mumadanabe ndi maphwando. Choncho musapite kwa iwo! Koma ngati mungokana kuyitanira ndipo osaitana anthu omwe mumawakonda kuti achite zomwe mumakonda, ndiye kuti simuli munthu wamba, koma wodzipatula.
Ndibwino ngati simukonda momwe anthu ena amachezerana.
Koma ndiye muyenera kumacheza m’njira yanuyanu. Inu mukhoza kukhala introvert amene iye mwini kuitana anthu chidwi kutsagana naye ku zochitika - mwachitsanzo, ku nkhani, ziwonetsero, kuwerenga wolemba.
Kodi mumakonza chakudya chamadzulo kuti musangalale ndi kukambirana kosangalatsa pabwalo lopapatiza? Kodi mumapita kukamanga msasa ndi mnzanu yemwe ali wabwino kulankhula naye ndikungokhala chete? Idyani ndi anzanu ochepa omwe ali pafupi ndi mtima wanu? Ngati sichoncho, ndiye kuti mukugwiritsa ntchito molakwika introversion yanu. Onetsani ochepa omwe ali ndi mwayi momwe ma introverts amakhalira ozizira.
2. Mukungogwira ntchitoyo.
Kutha kwa oyambitsa kuchita ntchito zachizolowezi ndi imodzi mwamphamvu zathu. Muzinyadira nazo. Koma ngati simufotokoza malingaliro anu kwa anzanu ndi akuluakulu, kodi mukuwonetsa dziko lapansi ukulu wonse wakuyamba kwanu?
Ndikumvetsa kuti nthawi zina misonkhano imayenda mofulumira kwambiri chifukwa cha kuganiza kwathu. Ndizovuta kwa ife kupanga malingaliro ndikupeza mphindi yoti timve. Ndipo komabe ndi ntchito yathu kuphunzira kugawana malingaliro ndi ena.
Kukumana maso ndi maso ndi manejala kapena kucheza ndi munthu yemwe angathandize malingaliro amawu angathandize.
Atsogoleri posachedwapa ayamba kuphunzira za introversion ndi extroversion monga mbali ina ya zosiyana zomwe ziyenera kukhalapo mu gulu logwira mtima. Onetsetsani kuti mukuwonetsa zabwino za introversion osati kungogwira ntchito pophatikizana.
3. Umapewa kulankhula.
Ndikudziwa, ndikudziwa, kuyankhula zopanda pake ndi chopunthwitsa kwa anthu ongolankhula. Ine ndekha ndimayesetsa kuzipewa. Koma ... Maphunziro ena amatsimikizira kuti kulankhula za «palibe ndi chirichonse» kumakhudza kwambiri maganizo athu.
Choncho, mndandanda wa zoyesera zochitidwa ndi akatswiri a maganizo ochokera ku Chicago, gulu la maphunziro linafunsidwa kuti lilankhule ndi oyenda nawo m'sitima - ndiko kuti, kuchita chinachake chimene nthawi zambiri amapewa. Malinga ndi malipoti, amene ankacheza ndi apaulendo anzawo anali ndi ulendo wosangalatsa kwambiri kuposa amene “anakonda kukhala okha.”
Palibe amene adayambitsa zokambirana adakanidwa kupitiliza kukambirana
Koma tiyeni tifufuze mozama. Ngakhale kuti nkhani za trivia nthawi zambiri zimatha zokha, nthawi zina zimasanduka zina. Maubwenzi samayamba ndi kukondana. Nthawi yomweyo kudumphira mu kuya kwa kukambirana ndi mnzako watsopano kungakhale kosokoneza. Zachidziwikire kuti mwakumanapo ndi izi: luso lomvetsera labwino kwambiri la oyambilira limatsogolera ku mfundo yoti timatsegula kuposa momwe timafunira.
Kusinthana kwa mawu wamba kumathandizira kukhazikitsa kulumikizana, kumapereka nthawi yoyesera wina ndi mnzake, kuwerenga mazizindikiro osalankhula, ndikupeza zomwe zimafanana. Ngati zinthu zikugwirizana, kukambirana kosavuta kungayambitse kukambitsirana kwatanthauzo. Chifukwa chake, ngati mumapewa kucheza, mumaphonya mwayi wokumana ndi anthu ofunikira komanso osangalatsa.
4. Mumanamizira kuti kusungulumwa kulikonse ndi kusungulumwa kwabwino.
Ndimalankhula izi kwambiri chifukwa cholakwika ichi chasokoneza chisangalalo changa kwa nthawi yayitali. Ndife introverts, koma anthu onse amafuna anthu, ndipo ifenso ndife osiyana. Kukhala kunyumba nokha ndiyo njira yosavuta yochitira kalikonse, koma kusungulumwa kwambiri kumavulaza ndipo kungayambitse kukhumudwa ndi kukhumudwa.
Tsoka ilo, njira yosavuta yothanirana ndi kusungulumwa ndiyo kukhala wekha. Kusungulumwa ndi kumverera kwanthawi zonse komanso kolemetsa kotero kuti ndikosavuta kukhala uli wekha kusiyana ndi kukumana nawo pagulu.
Ndipo ndithudi, zimatipangitsa kumva kukhala osungulumwa kwambiri.
Kuonjezela apo, kupotozedwa kwa maganizo athu kumatipangitsa kupitiliza kucita cinthu cimene siticikonda, cifukwa cakuti taya nthawi ndi mphamvu. Timadziuza tokha kuti kusungulumwa ndi kwabwino, kuti ndife anthu oposa umunthu, chifukwa ndife omasuka kukhala tokha, ngakhale izi siziri choncho.
Akatswiri amanena kuti anthu osungulumwa ndi amene amadana kwambiri. Nthawi zonse ndakhala ndimawaona ngati anthu olakwika, koma tsopano ndikukayikira kuti akhazikika m'gulu loipali lokanidwa.
Sena eeci tacaambi kuti ulaangulukide kuzwa kucipati? Kapena mukamachita manyazi pang'ono pamaso pa mlendo? Kodi mumadzitonthoza nokha ndi nkhani zomwe mwachibadwa simungathe kukopa ena? Musayembekezere kukhala wolankhula mwanzeru? Kumbukirani luso lanu lofooka locheza lomwe limapangitsa chochitika chilichonse kukhala malo opangira mabomba?
Iwalani za izo. Lekani kukhulupilila kuti ndinu wosiyana ndi ena onse. Inde, anthu ena amaona kuti n’zosavuta kulankhulana, ena amaunikira m’chipindamo ndi kukhalapo kwawo chabe. Kunena zowona, awa si mtundu wa anthu omwe ndimakopeka nawo, ndimawaona ngati onyansa pang'ono. Ndikadakonda kulankhula ndi munthu yemwe amakhala phee pakona. Kapena munthu amene ndimamudziwa kale. Sindipita kumapwando kukakumana ndi anthu atsopano - ndimapita kumeneko kukawona anthu omwe ndimawadziwa.
Aliyense amamva kusatetezeka pang'ono pazochitika zatsopano.
Aliyense akuda nkhawa ndi zomwe akupanga. Anthu omwe amalowa m'chipindamo akuvina akungolimbana ndi nkhawa zawo motere.
Yesetsani kusakulitsa nkhawa yanu yachilengedwe podziuza kuti "mulibe chiyembekezo," simungathe kukambirana, ndipo palibe amene angakuzindikireni. Inde, muli ndi nkhawa. Koma ngati simukudwala matenda ovutika maganizo, nkhawa imeneyi si yoopsa kwa inu. Izi ndizochitika mwachibadwa pazochitika zatsopano.
Mverani, ndiyeno sonyezani anthu momwe ma introverts osangalatsa angakhalire ngati akufuna. Dziuzeni kuti anthuwa adzakhala amwayi bwanji ngati pamapeto pake atseka kuti amve zomwe mukufuna kunena!
Za wolemba: Sophia Dambling ndi mlembi wa Confessions of an Introverted Traveler ndi mabuku angapo, kuphatikiza Ulendo Woyamba: Moyo Wabata M'dziko Lokweza.