Zinthu 7 zomwe simungasinthe mwa mwamuna: lingaliro la psychotherapist wamwamuna

Osachepera kamodzi m'miyoyo yawo, akazi amati: "Ndikhoza kumusintha." Izi ndi maganizo olakwika omwe anthu ambiri amawaona. Inde, aliyense ali ndi zolakwika, koma sizingatheke kuti mutha kukonzanso mwamuna kuti agwirizane ndi malingaliro a bwenzi labwino. Talemba mndandanda wa makhalidwe asanu ndi awiri omwe simuyenera kuyesa kusintha mu theka lachiwiri.

1. Zizolowezi zoipa

Tinthu tating'onoting'ono timakukwiyitsani: amaluma zikhadabo kapena kutafuna atatsegula pakamwa. Palibe chochita. Musataye nthawi ndi mphamvu poyesa kuchotsa munthu makhalidwe oipa. N’zokayikitsa kuti adzatha.

2. Lingaliro la kalembedwe

Mukhoza kusankha zovala zomwe mumakonda kwa mwamuna, koma maonekedwe ake sangasinthe. Ngati mupita naye kukagula zinthu ndikutenga zinthu zomwe mumakonda, pagawo loyambirira la ubale zidzagwira ntchito. Koma zotsatira zake sizikhalitsa. Theka lanu lina lidzavala monga nthawi zonse. Zilibe kanthu kuti mumakonda kapena ayi.

3. Malingaliro achipembedzo

Kuyesera kusintha zikhulupiriro zachipembedzo sikungatheke ndipo nthawi zambiri kumakhala koopsa. Osakayikira chikhulupiriro mwa Mulungu kapena kusowa kwake. Chomwe mungachite ndikusintha nthawi zambiri amapita kutchalitchi, koma simungathe kuchita zambiri.

4. Ubale wabanja

Zikuwoneka kwa inu kuti mumadziwa bwino banja la wosankhidwayo. Simungathe kusintha ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi makolo ake. Ziribe kanthu zomwe mukuyesera kuti mukwaniritse: kuti ubale wawo ukhale woyandikana komanso wofunda, kapena, mosiyana, kudula chingwe cha umbilical. Simupeza kalikonse.

5.Makhalidwe

Simungasinthe momwe munthu amawonera dziko lapansi ndikuyika patsogolo. Miyezo ya munthu ndi mbali yofunika ya umunthu wake. Sangasinthe kapena kukonzanso zikhalidwe chifukwa simukugwirizana nazo. Ngati kusagwirizana ndi zotsutsana zili zamphamvu kwambiri moti simungathe kuzipirira, ndi bwino kusiya.

6. Njira yolankhulirana

Mukhoza kuyesa kulankhulana bwino pakati panu, koma nthawi zambiri mudzayenera kusintha ndikugwirizana ndi njira yolankhulirana ndi mnzanuyo. Ngati mukufunikira kulankhulana nthawi zonse, ndipo mnzanuyo akufuna kuti musalankhule kawirikawiri, phunzirani kupeza zosagwirizana. Musamukakamize kulankhula nanu mosafuna.

7.Zokonda

Mbali yabwino yaubwenzi ndi kuphunzira zinthu zatsopano pamodzi. Koma mwamuna angakhale ndi zokonda zimene inu simukuzikonda. Mwina mumadana ndi kuonera mpira kapena kupita kumapwando. Ngati mukufuna kuti zokonda zanu zikhale zamtengo wapatali ndi kulemekezedwa, tsatirani zomwe amakonda. Osayesa kuwasintha ndikuwakakamiza kusiya zomwe amakonda.

Momwe mungathanirane ndi zolakwika za mnzanu

Aliyense ali ndi lingaliro la bwenzi labwino. Zimapangidwa ndi zithunzi za makolo, makhalidwe a munthu amene amamukonda kwambiri, kukumbukira chikondi choyamba ndi zolinga zomwe zimalimbikitsidwa ndi ma TV ndi intaneti. Chifaniziro cha makhalidwe onse ofunidwa mwa mwamuna weniweni ndizosatheka.

Mutha kudikirira nthawi yonse yomwe mukufuna kuti mukhale ndi bwenzi loyenera, koma mawonekedwe amunthu weniweni yemwe muyenera kukhala naye amasiyana ndi ziyembekezo. Momwemonso, inu nokha simuli wangwiro konse kwa mwamuna wanu. Maanja atha kukhala mosangalala momwe okondedwa awo amasinthira machitidwe awo ndi zomwe amayembekeza kuti akhale oyandikana wina ndi mnzake.

The convergence process akhoza kugawidwa mu magawo anayi:

1. Musanalowe pachibwenzi, pendani zinthu zokhumudwitsa za mnzanuyo. Agaweni magulu awiri. Yoyamba ndi mikhalidwe imene iye mwalingaliro angasinthe kwa inu. M’gulu lachiwiri padzakhala chinachake chimene iye sangasinthe. Izi zikuphatikizapo zikhulupiriro zachipembedzo, malingaliro okhudza udindo wa mkazi m'banja, khalidwe, ndi maonekedwe. Ngati simunakonzekere kuvomereza, palibe chifukwa chopitirizira chiyanjano.
2. Gulu lotsatira la makhalidwe omwe angayambitse mikangano ndi makhalidwe ndi zizolowezi zomwe simukuzimvetsa. Kukonda mpira, kuwerenga mabuku, kusonkhanitsa masitampu, kukonda kuimba kungayambitse kukanidwa. Khalidwe labwino kwambiri lothana ndi izi ndi chidwi. Khalani ndi chidwi ndi zokonda za wina ndi mnzake ndikupeza zokonda zatsopano.
3. Kukambirana, kukambirana, kupanga mgwirizano. Osaumiriza kapena kuwongolera. Lankhulani momasuka za zilakolako ndi ziyembekezo. Ngati sizingatheke kuvomereza nokha ndipo mkanganowo sutha, funsani psychotherapist.
4. Pangani zizolowezi zatsopano zabanja ndi miyambo yomwe ingasangalatse onse awiri. Yesani china chake chomwe simunakumanepo nacho. Sungani malo anu: zomwe mumakonda, anzanu, nthawi ndi zochita zanu nokha. Inu ndi banja mukhalabe munthu payekha.