Anthu ambiri amazindikira kuti anakulira m’mabanja opanda thanzi ndipo safuna kuti ana awo akhale ndi moyo woterowo. Koma alibe zitsanzo zina, sadziwa chitsanzo chabwino. Zotani zikatero? Kumbukirani mfundo zazikulu za maubwenzi abwino ndikumanga banja popanda kupatuka kwa iwo.
Ngati mulibe chitsanzo cha banja labwino, yemwe chitsanzo chake ndi choyenera kuyesetsa, ndiye kuti izi zimawononga ubale wanu ndipo sizikulolani kuti mupange ndi kusunga nyengo yamaganizo m'banja. Chosasangalatsa kwambiri ndi chakuti mibadwo yamtsogolo ingathe kupanga mabanja opanda thanzi ndikulera ana m'malo ovuta.
Yakwana nthawi yoti muphwanye bwaloli. Ndipo chifukwa cha izi muyenera kumvetsetsa komwe mungapeze chitsanzo chabwino cha banja ndi zomwe zimatengedwa kuti ndizozoloŵera komanso zomwe siziri. Kupatula apo, makolo, mabwenzi, ngakhale ngwazi zamakanema ndi nthano nthawi zambiri amawulutsa khalidwe loipa - amakhala m'mabanja omwe ali ndi malo odalirana, kusokoneza ndi kuzunzidwa.
Musanayambe banja muyenera kuphunzira kumanga ubale ndi okondedwa. Inde, aliyense amadzisankhira yekha ngati akufunikira ubale wathanzi m'maganizo kapena ayi. Koma kumbukirani kuti maziko osayenera akhoza kungopereka kwa «matenda», ndipo palibe china - zili ngati kukula zipatso m'dera kachilombo.
Ndi pa zinsomba ziti zomwe zimamangidwa maubwenzi abwino m'nthawi yathu ino?
1. Kumverana chisoni
Malingaliro akale akuti "adzapirira ndi kugwa m'chikondi" sangathandize kupanga maubwenzi azinthu. M'malo mwake, chirichonse chidzakhala chosiyana - mphamvu zidzagwiritsidwa ntchito kusunga maubwenzi oterowo, ndipo zotsatira zake zidzakhala zosasangalatsa.
2. Ukwati wofanana
Kugogomezera pa dongosolo la ubale wa makolo kapena matriarchal sikugwiranso ntchito. Kugawikana kwa anthu ndi jenda kumamanga mipanda pakati pa anthu. Mwachitsanzo, mawu akuti "Ai-yay-yay, ndiwe mkazi!" kapena “Ndiwe mwamuna, ndiye uyenera!” Angathe kutembenuza zibwenzi wina ndi mzake. Kufanana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi, kulemekezana, kukana kupita ku umunthu - ndicho chofunika kwambiri.
3. Kukhulupirika kwa okondedwa
Zonse zisanayambe chibwenzi, komanso m'banja, munthu ayenera kukhala wodzidalira. Simuyenera kutha mu ubale ndikudzitaya nokha ngati munthu komanso katswiri pantchito yanu. M'malo mwake, ndikofunikira kuphunzira momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito kukwera kwamalingaliro kuchokera polankhulana wina ndi mnzake kuti mukulitse nokha ndi luso lanu pazinthu zilizonse.
4. "Ayi!" chisokonezo cha udindo
Makhalidwe akale m'mabanja saloledwanso. Ubale umene mwamuna amatenga udindo wa tate kapena mkazi amatenga udindo wa mayi ndi wovulaza ndipo pamapeto pake umabweretsa kusagwirizana.
5. Makhalidwe a m'banja
Kusunga malire a anthu ena ndi ulemu ndikofunikira osati mu bwalo la alendo, anzako ndi mabwenzi, komanso m'banja - komabe, anthu ambiri amaiwala za izo. Zoonadi, kulankhulana kosiyana kotheratu kumavomerezedwa m’banja, kotero kuti malirewo amachepetsedwa, koma ayenerabe kulemekezedwa.
6. "Tili pamodzi chifukwa tikufuna"
Ubale ndi chisangalalo cha kulankhulana wina ndi mzake, osati njira yothetsera mavuto a munthu, kutsekedwa kwa kuvulala, zosowa ndi zolephera zaumwini ndi mnzanu.
7. Kuthandizana ndi kuthandizana
Muzochita zilizonse, ndikofunikira kukhala okondana wina ndi mnzake - kuthandizira wokondedwa wanu ndipo, ngati kuli kotheka, muthandizeni kupita patsogolo. Kusakhalapo kwa malingaliro otere kukuwonetsa kuti ubalewu sukhalitsa.
8. Palibe zokonda
Ochepa amatha kupanga ntchito ngati Bill Gates kapena Steve Jobs, koma aliyense ali ndi chiyembekezo chabwino ngati angagwire ntchito yawo, kukulitsa ndikukulitsa malingaliro awo.
9. Taboo pakusintha
Maubwenzi onyenga alibe mgwirizano. Amayambitsa mikangano m'banja ndi nkhanza, ndipo pamapeto pake sapereka china koma zowawa ndi zokhumudwitsa.
10. Kukana kuchitiridwa nkhanza
Muubwenzi wabwino, palibe malo odzinenera kuti ndiwe wokhumudwitsa ena. Dziwani ngati ndinu wopondereza kapena wozunzidwa, ndipo yesetsani kuchita bwino ndi dokotala.
Aliyense akhoza kusankha chitsanzo cha banja lawo - ngakhale amene sakwaniritsa zonse «zabwino» mfundo. Onetsetsani kuti mwapeza mnzanu yemwe ali ndi malingaliro ofanana. Ndikofunikira kusankha chochita mwachidwi, ndikuyankha moona mtima funso limodzi: "Kodi ndikufunadi kukhala ndi moyo wotero?"