Chikhumbo cha mmodzi wa okwatirana kuti azithera maholide awo padera angayambitse mkwiyo ndi kusamvana mwa winayo. Koma chokumana nacho choterocho chingakhale chothandiza kukonzanso maubale, akutero katswiri wa British Psychologies Sylvia Tenenbaum.
Linda nthawi zonse amayembekezera mwachidwi sabata yake yatchuthi. Masiku asanu ndi atatu ali yekha, wopanda ana, wopanda mwamuna yemwe wakhala akugawana naye moyo wake kwa zaka makumi atatu. Mu mapulani: kutikita minofu, ulendo wopita ku nyumba yosungiramo zinthu zakale, kuyenda m'mapiri. Iye anati: “N’chiyani chimakusangalatsani.
Potsatira chitsanzo cha Linda, okwatirana ambiri amasankha kuthera maholide awo mosiyana. Masiku angapo, sabata, mwina zambiri. Uwu ndi mwayi wopeza nthawi ndikukhala nokha.
Chotsani chizolowezi
Mtsikana wina wazaka 30, dzina lake Sebastian, ananena kuti: “Ndimasangalala kwambiri kukhala pakati pa amuna popanda kukhalira limodzi. Mwayi ukangopezeka, amachoka kwa mlungu umodzi ali ndi anzake. Iye ndi mkazi wake Florence akhala limodzi kwa zaka ziwiri, koma malo ake ndi zizolowezi zimawoneka zodekha komanso zodekha kwa iye.
Kusiya chizolowezi, banjali likuwoneka kuti likubwerera ku gawo loyamba la ubale: mafoni, makalata.
Aliyense ali ndi zokonda zake. Sayenera kugawidwa pakati pa zibwenzi. Ndiko kukongola kwa tsankho. Koma ilinso ndi phindu lozama, akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo Sylvia Tenenbaum: “Tikakhala pamodzi, timayamba kudziiŵala tokha. Timaphunzira kugawa zonse ziwiri. Koma winayo sangatipatse chilichonse chimene tikufuna. Zokhumba zina zimakhalabe zosakhutitsidwa. " Pochoka ku chizoloŵezi chachizolowezi, okwatiranawo akuwoneka kuti akubwerera ku gawo loyamba la chiyanjano: mafoni, makalata, ngakhale olembedwa pamanja - bwanji? Pamene bwenzi palibe, zimatipangitsa kumverera nthawi za ubwenzi kwambiri pachimake.
Pezani
Ali ndi zaka 40, Jeanne amakonda kuyenda yekha. Iye wakhala m’banja kwa zaka 15, ndipo m’theka la nthaŵi imene anapita kutchuthi yekha. “Ndikakhala ndi mwamuna wanga, ndimamva kuti ndimamukonda kwambiri. Koma ndikapita kutchuthi, ndimayenera kuchoka kudziko lakwathu, kuntchito, ngakhalenso kwa iye. Ndiyenera kupuma ndikuchira. " Mwamuna wake amavutika kuvomereza. "Zinali zaka zambiri asanazindikire kuti sindikuyesera kuthawa."
Nthawi zambiri tchuthi ndi tchuthi ndi nthawi yomwe timapatsirana wina ndi mnzake. Koma Sylvia Tenenbaum akukhulupirira kuti pamafunika kusiya nthawi ndi nthawi: “Ndi mpweya wabwino. Osati kwenikweni chifukwa chimene mkhalidwe wa okwatirana wakhala wovuta. Zimangokulolani kuti mupumule ndikukhala nokha nokha. Pamapeto pake, tikuphunzira kuyamikira kwambiri moyo pamodzi.”
Pezani mawu anu kachiwiri
Kwa maanja ena, izi ndizosavomerezeka. Bwanji ngati iye (iye) apeza wina wabwinoko, amaganiza. Kodi kusakhulupirirana ndi chiyani? Sylvia Tenenbaum anati: “N’zomvetsa chisoni. "M'mabanja, ndikofunikira kuti aliyense adzikonde, adzidziwe komanso akhale ndi moyo wosiyana, kupatula paubwenzi ndi mnzake."
Patulani tchuthi - mwayi kuti mudziwenso nokha
Lingaliro ili likufanana ndi Sarah wazaka 23. Iye wakhala ali pachibwenzi kwa zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi. M'chilimwe, akuchoka ndi bwenzi kwa milungu iwiri, pamene wokondedwa wake akupita ku Ulaya ndi anzake. “Ndikapita kwinakwake popanda mwamuna wanga, ndimadzimva kukhala wodziimiraSara akuvomereza. - Ndidzidalira ndekha ndikusunga akaunti ndekha. Ndimakhala wolimbikira kwambiri."
Tchuthi chosiyana ndi mwayi wodzipatula pang'ono kuchokera kwa wina ndi mzake, kwenikweni komanso mophiphiritsira. Mwayi wodzipezanso tokha, chikumbutso chakuti sitifunikira munthu wina kuti azindikire thunthu lathu. “Sitikonda chifukwa timafunikira,” anamaliza motero Sylvia Tenenbaum. Timafunikira chifukwa timakonda.