Nkhani zambiri zalembedwa za momwe mungalekerere kuyika zinthu mpaka mphindi yomaliza. Katswiri waku Britain Psychology Kim Morgan amapereka njira yosazolowereka komanso yosavuta: dzifunseni mafunso oyenera.
Amanda wazaka XNUMX anatembenukira kwa ine kuti andithandize. “Nthaŵi zonse ndimakokera komalizira,” anavomereza motero mtsikanayo. — M’malo mochita zoyenera, nthawi zambiri ndimavomera kuchita chilichonse. Ndinathera kumapeto kwa mlungu wonse ndikuchapa ndi kusita m’malo molemba nkhani!”
Amanda ananena kuti ali ndi vuto lalikulu. Ofesi yake inatumiza mtsikanayo ku maphunziro apamwamba, kumene kwa zaka ziwiri amayenera kutenga zolemba zamaphunziro. Zaka ziwirizo zinatha patatha milungu itatu, ndipo Amanda analibe kalata yolembedwa.
“Ndimazindikira kuti ndinalakwa kwambiri mwa kuyambitsa zinthu monga choncho,” analapa mtsikanayo, “koma ngati sindimaliza maphunziro ameneŵa, zingawononge kwambiri ntchito yanga.
Ndinamufunsa Amanda kuti ayankhe mafunso anayi osavuta:
Kodi ndikufunika chiyani kuti izi zichitike?
Kodi ndi gawo laling'ono liti lomwe ndiyenera kuchita kuti ndikwaniritse cholingachi?
Ndikapanda kuchita kalikonse, chindichitikira ndi chiyani?
Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani ndikakwaniritsa cholinga changa?
Powayankha, mtsikanayo adavomera kuti adapeza mphamvu kuti akhale pansi kuti agwire ntchito. Titapambana bwino nkhaniyo, tinakumananso. Amanda anandiuza kuti sadzalolanso ulesi kumugonjetsa - nthawi yonseyi ankavutika maganizo, amada nkhawa komanso atatopa. Kusapeza bwino kumeneku kunamubweretsera katundu wolemera wa zinthu zosalembedwa. Ndipo adanong'oneza bondo kuti adachita zonse mphindi yomaliza - ngati Amanda adakhala pansi kuti alembe nkhani munthawi yake, akadalemba mapepala abwinoko.
Ngati ntchito ikuwopsezani, pangani fayilo, ipatseni mutu, yambani kusonkhanitsa zambiri, lembani ndondomeko yochitira
Zifukwa zazikulu ziŵiri za kuzengereza kwake ndizo kuganiza kuti ntchitoyo ndi yolemetsa ndi kuopa kugwira ntchito yoipitsitsa kuposa momwe iye amafunira. Ndinamulangiza kuti agaŵe ntchitoyo m’zing’onozing’ono zambiri, ndipo zinathandiza. Akamaliza kagawo kakang’ono kalikonse, ankadziona ngati wapambana ndipo zimenezi zinam’patsa mphamvu kuti apitirizebe kutero.
“Nditakhala pansi kuti ndilembe, ndinapeza kuti ndinali ndi dongosolo m’mutu mwanga pa nkhani iliyonse. Zikuoneka kuti zaka ziwiri izi sindinasokoneze, koma okonzeka! Chotero ndinaganiza zotcha nthaŵi imeneyi “kukonzekera” osati “kuchedwetsa,” ndi kusadzinyozetsanso mochedwa pang’ono ndisanamalize ntchito yofunika,” akuvomereza motero Amanda.
Ngati mumadzizindikira nokha (mwachitsanzo, mukuwerenga nkhaniyi m'malo momaliza ntchito yofunika), ndikukulangizani kuti muyambe kuzindikira "chopinga" chomwe chikulepheretsani kuti mukwaniritse cholinga chanu.
Ntchitoyi ikuwoneka yosatheka. Ndilibe chidziwitso ndi luso lofunikira.
Ndikuyembekezera nthawi yoyenera.
Ndikuwopa kulephera.
Ndinachita mantha kunena kuti “ayi” ndipo ndinavomera ntchitoyo.
Sindikhulupirira kuti izi ndi zotheka.
Sindikupeza chithandizo choyenera.
Ndilibe nthawi yokwanira.
Ndikuwopa kuti zotsatira zake zidzakhala kutali ndi ungwiro.
Ndimagwira ntchito bwino m'malo ovuta.
Ndizichita pamene ... (Ndimayeretsa, kudya, kuyenda, kumwa tiyi).
Sizofunika kwambiri kwa ine.
Ntchitoyi ikuwoneka yosatheka.
Mukatsimikiza chomwe chikukulepheretsani, ndi nthawi yoti mulembe zotsutsana ndi aliyense wa "blockers", komanso njira zothetsera vutoli.
Yesani kuuza anzanu ndi anzanu za mapulani anu. Afunseni kuti nthawi ndi nthawi aziwunika momwe mukuchitira komanso kufunsa momwe ntchitoyo ikuyendera. Musaiwale kuwapempha kuti akuthandizeni, ndikukonzeratu tsiku lokondwerera kupambana kwanu. Tumizani oitanira! Simukufuna kuletsa chochitikachi.
Nthawi zina kukula kwa ntchito kumapangitsa kuti tiziwoneka ngati tikuzizira m'malo mwake. Kuti mugonjetse kumverera uku, ndikwanira kuyamba pang'ono. Pangani fayilo, perekani mutu, yambani kusonkhanitsa zambiri, lembani ndondomeko ya zochita. Pambuyo pa sitepe yoyamba, zidzakhala zosavuta.