Zamkatimu
Malingaliro azamalamulo ndi ziwerengero
Chithunzi chenicheni cha kuphana kochitidwa m’mizinda ya ku America mosakayika n’chosiyana ndi chojambulidwa ndi olemba mabuku a upandu. Odziwika bwino m'mabuku, mosonkhezeredwa ndi chilakolako kapena kuwerengera mopanda mantha, nthawi zambiri amawerengera gawo lililonse kuti akwaniritse cholinga chawo. Mawu ogwidwa mu mzimu wa nkhani zopeka amatiuza kuti apandu ambiri amayembekezera kupindula (mwina mwa kuba kapena kugulitsa mankhwala osokoneza bongo), koma mwamsanga amasonyeza kuti nthaŵi zina anthu amapha pazifukwa zosafunika kwenikweni: “chifukwa cha zovala, ndalama zochepa . . . palibe chifukwa chenicheni." Kodi timatha kumvetsetsa zifukwa zosiyanasiyana zopha anthu? N’chifukwa chiyani munthu wina amapha mnzake? Onani →
Milandu yosiyanasiyana yoyambitsa kuphana
Kupha munthu wodziwa bwino nthawi zambiri kumakhala kosiyana ndi kupha munthu wachilendo; nthawi zambiri zimakhala chifukwa cha kuphulika kwa malingaliro chifukwa cha mikangano kapena mikangano pakati pa anthu. Kuthekera kwa kupha munthu amene wamuwona koyamba m'moyo kumakhala kwakukulu kwambiri panthawi yakuba, kuba ndi zida, kuba galimoto kapena kugulitsa mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Pachifukwa ichi, imfa ya wozunzidwayo si cholinga chachikulu, ndizowonjezera kapena zochepa zothandizira pokwaniritsa zolinga zina. Choncho, akuti kuwonjezeka kwa kupha anthu osadziwika kwa wolakwira kungatanthauze kuwonjezeka kwa "kuchokera" kapena "chikole" kupha. Onani →
Mikhalidwe yomwe kuphana kumachitika
Vuto lalikulu lomwe anthu amakono akukumana nalo ndi kumvetsetsa ndi kugwiritsa ntchito ziwerengero zomwe ndakambirana m'mutu uno. Kufufuza kosiyana kumafunikira funso loti chifukwa chiyani America ili ndi anthu ambiri akuda ndi akupha omwe amapeza ndalama zochepa. Kodi upandu woterowo umachitika chifukwa cha umphaŵi ndi tsankho? Ngati ndi choncho, ndi zinthu zina ziti zomwe zimakhudza anthu? Kodi ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zimachititsa kuti munthu wina achite nkhanza kwa wina? Kodi umunthu umakhala ndi mbali yotani? Kodi akupha alidi ndi makhalidwe ena amene amawonjezera mwayi woti aphe munthu wina - mwachitsanzo, atapsa mtima? Onani →
Malingaliro amunthu
Zaka zapitazo, yemwe kale anali woyang’anira malo odziwika bwino odzudzula anthu olakwa analemba buku lodziwika bwino lofotokoza mmene anthu amene ankapha anthu amene anali m’ndende ankagwira ntchito yotumikira m’nyumba ya banja lake kundendeko. Anatsimikizira owerenga kuti anthuwa sanali owopsa. Mwachionekere, iwo anachita kupha chifukwa cha mikhalidwe yopsinjika yowonjezereka imene sakanatha kuithetsa. Kunali kuphulika kwanthaŵi imodzi kwachiwawa. Miyoyo yawo itayamba kuyenda m’malo abata ndi amtendere, mwayi woti angayambenso kuchita zachiwawa unali wochepa kwambiri. Chithunzi chotere cha opha anthuwa ndi cholimbikitsa. Komabe, kulongosola kwa mlembi wa bukhu la akaidi odziwika kwa iye nthawi zambiri sikumagwirizana ndi anthu omwe amapha dala moyo wa munthu wina. Onani →
Kupita patsogolo kwakukulu polimbana ndi nkhanza ndi chiwawa ku America kungapezeke mwa kuchitapo kanthu pofuna kupititsa patsogolo moyo wa mabanja ndi midzi m'mizinda, makamaka kwa osauka omwe akukhala m'madera ovuta a ghettos awo. Ndi ma ghetto osaukawa omwe amayambitsa ziwawa zankhanza.
Kukhala mnyamata wosauka; osakhala ndi maphunziro abwino ndi njira zopulumukira ku malo opondereza; kufuna kupeza maufulu operekedwa ndi anthu (ndi kupezeka kwa ena); kuwona momwe ena mopanda lamulo, ndipo kaŵirikaŵiri mwankhanza, amachitira zinthu kuti akwaniritse zolinga zakuthupi; kuyang'ana kusalangidwa kwa zochita izi - zonsezi zimakhala zolemetsa ndipo zimakhala ndi chikoka chachilendo chomwe chimakankhira ambiri ku milandu ndi zigawenga. Onani →
Chikoka cha subculture, zikhalidwe wamba ndi makhalidwe
Kutsika kwa ntchito zamalonda kunachititsa kuti kuphana kochitidwa ndi azungu kuchuluke, ndipo ngakhale kudzipha kowonjezereka pakati pawo. Mwachiwonekere, mavuto azachuma sanangowonjezera zikhoterero zaukali za azungu kumlingo wakutiwakuti, komanso zinapanganso ambiri a iwo kudzineneza okha chifukwa cha mavuto azachuma amene anabuka.
Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, kuchepa kwa ntchito zamalonda kunachititsa kuti chiŵerengero cha kupha anthu akuda chichepe ndipo chiŵerengero cha kudzipha cha anthu amtundu umenewu chinachepa. Kodi sizingakhale kuti anthu akuda osauka ankaona kusiyana kochepa pakati pa udindo wawo ndi wa ena pamene nthawi zinali zovuta? Onani →
Kuyanjana mu komisheni yachiwawa
Mpaka pano, tangolingalira za nkhani zakupha. Ndazindikira zinthu zosiyanasiyana zomwe zimakhudza mwayi woti munthu aphe mnzake mwadala. Koma izi zisanachitike, wolakwayo ayenera kuyang’anizana ndi amene adzakhale wozunzidwayo, ndipo anthu awiriwa ayenera kulowa m’chiyanjano chimene chingabweretse imfa ya wozunzidwayo. Mu gawo ili, tikutembenukira ku chikhalidwe cha kuyanjana uku. Onani →
Chidule
Polingalira za kuphana ku America, kumene kuli chiŵerengero chochuluka cha kuphana pakati pa mayiko opita patsogolo pa luso laumisiri, mutu uno ukupereka chithunzithunzi chachidule cha zinthu zofunika kwambiri zimene zimachititsa kuphedwa mwadala kwa munthu mmodzi ndi mnzake. Ngakhale chidwi chachikulu chimaperekedwa ku gawo la anthu achiwawa, kusanthulako sikumaphatikizapo kulingalira za kusokonezeka maganizo kwakukulu kapena kupha anthu ambiri. Onani →
Gawo 4. Kuletsa Ukali
Chapter 10
Palibe chifukwa chobwereza ziwerengero zosautsa. Chomvetsa chisoni kwa aliyense n’chachidziŵikire: ziwawa zachiwawa zikuchulukirachulukira nthaŵi zonse. Kodi anthu angachepetse bwanji kuchuluka kwa ziwawa zomwe zimadetsa nkhawa kwambiri? Kodi tingatani - boma, apolisi, nzika, makolo ndi osamalira, tonse palimodzi - kupanga dziko lathu labwino, kapena kukhala lotetezeka? Onani →