Kuti mupambane mtima wa mnzanu yemwe angakhale nawo wamtundu uliwonse, muyenera kuseka nthabwala zake.
Kupeza uku kudapangidwa ndi ofufuza ochokera ku Norwegian University of Science and Technology, omwe nkhani yawo m’magazini ya Evolutionary Psychology.
Kukopana ndi chida chofunikira kwambiri pakukhazikitsa ubale wapamtima ndi munthu yemwe angakhale wokondana naye kapena wogonana naye. Njira zomwe anthu amagwiritsa ntchito pokopana zimatha kukhala zapakamwa (monga kuyamikira) komanso osalankhula (chilankhulo cha thupi).
Asayansiwo anaganiza zoyerekezera njira zimene anthu amitundu yosiyanasiyana amagwiritsa ntchito pokopana. Pafupifupi ophunzira XNUMX aku yunivesite ochokera ku Norway ndi USA adatenga nawo gawo pa kafukufukuyu.
Ophunzira adafunsidwa kuti ayankhe mafunso angapo okhudzana ndi njira zokopana zomwe amakonda nthawi zosiyanasiyana.
Ofufuzawo adapanga mwachindunji mitundu inayi ya mafunso: mkazi kukopana ndi mwamuna kwa nthawi yochepa kapena yaubwenzi wanthawi yayitali, komanso, chimodzimodzi, mwamuna kukopana ndi mkazi kuyembekezera kugonana kwa nthawi imodzi kapena kwautali- mgwirizano wanthawi. Aliyense wa otenga nawo mbali, kutengera jenda, adalandira imodzi mwamafunso afunso.
Pamapeto pake, zinapezeka kuti amuna ndi akazi amagwiritsa ntchito njira zofanana zokopana, koma, malingana ndi cholinga, njira zina zimagwira ntchito bwino komanso zina zoipa. Choncho, kusonyeza kupezeka kwa kugonana (zovala zoyenera, kusonyeza ziwalo zotseguka za thupi) zochokera pa maubwenzi afupipafupi zimakhala zogwira mtima pokhapokha ngati akazi amachita motere, osati amuna. Pa nthawi yomweyi, amayi omwe amangofuna kugonana kamodzi kokha ndi mnzako watsopano sayenera kuyembekezera kuti khalidwe laubwenzi lidzawathandiza kuyandikira cholinga ichi - kukumbatirana, kupsompsona pa tsaya, nthabwala.
Panthawi imodzimodziyo, kwa amuna, kuseketsa, komanso kuwonetsera momasuka kwa kuwolowa manja ndi kuzama kwa zolinga zawo, kumathandiza kukhazikitsa ubale wautali ndi mkazi.
Komabe, monga momwe ofufuzawo adadziwira, pali njira yapadziko lonse yokopana yomwe imakhala yothandiza kwa amuna ndi akazi nthawi zonse. Ngati museka ndi kuseka nthabwala za mnzanuyo, mumakhala ndi mwayi wokhala naye nthawi yayitali komanso nthawi yayitali.