Zamkatimu
1-Osasokoneza kufunikira ndi kusamalira
Mwana wakhanda amagwiritsa ntchito mawonekedwe a kusokoneza zofunika. Kulira kwake, kulira kwake, twitter yake ndi njira yake yokha yolankhulirana kuti akwaniritse zofunika zake zazikulu (njala, kukumbatira, kugona ...). "Ngati zopempha izi zikuchitikira ngati kulira, ndichifukwa chakuti kholo liribe kupezeka kwa psychic kofunikira kuti awamve (pambuyo pausiku wopanda tulo, mwachitsanzo) ", akufotokoza Gilles-Marie Valet, katswiri wamisala wa ana.
Pambuyo pake, pafupifupi chaka chimodzi ndi theka mpaka zaka 1, pamene mwanayo ayamba kuphunzira chinenero ndi kulankhulana mozama, zopempha zake ndi zochita zake zikhoza kukhala mwadala ndipo zimafanana. zakuda. “Ana amazindikira kuti, mwachitsanzo, angapindule ndi kumwetulira kwabwino kapena kukwiya pamaso pa anthu,” akuseka wochiritsayo.
2-Nenani malamulowo pasadakhale ndikuwatsatira
Ndipo ngati kholo lipereka zake zofunikira, mwanayo amakumbukira kuti njira yake imagwira ntchito. "Kuti mupewe zochitika izi, ndibwino kunena malamulo ambiri momwe mungathere," akukumbukira katswiriyo. Njira yodyera, kukhala m'galimoto, mipikisano, nthawi yosamba kapena yogona ... "Chowonadi n'chakuti nthawi zina makolo amakhala otopa ndipo amakonda kulekerera. Zilibe kanthu. Iwo akhoza kukhala olimba tsiku lotsatira. Ana amatha kuphatikizira kusintha, akupanga zinthu! Palibe chomwe chimaundana, "akulimbikira Gilles-Marie Valet.
3-Pewani kudzipangira nokha
” Malingaliro woyendetsa si chibadwa. Imakula mwa ana podziwika ndi akuluakulu omwe ali nawo, "akutero katswiri wamisala. M'mawu ena, ngati ana amayesa maganizo oipa, n’chifukwa chakuti makolo amaugwiritsa ntchito. "Mosadziwa komanso chifukwa maphunziro athu atizolowera, timagwiritsa ntchito" ngati / ngati ". "Mukandithandiza kukonza, mudzawonera zojambula." Pomwe "kaya / kapena" zingakhale zogwira mtima kwambiri. Mwina mungandithandize kukonza ndi kunditsimikizira kuti ndinu wamkulu ndipo mumatha kuonera TV. Mwina simundithandiza ndipo simungathe kupenyerera, ”akutero adokotala.
"Zitha kuwoneka ngati tsatanetsatane, mawonekedwe ake, koma ili ndi lingaliro lonse la udindo ndi kusankha, kofunika kwambiri kuti mwanayo adzidalire ndikukhala wololera payekha," akupitiriza. Koposa zonse, zimatithandiza kuti tichoke pamasewera a maudindo omwe zachinyengo. Monga chilango chosatheka ("mudzalandidwa paki kwa sabata imodzi!") Zomwe tidaziwonetsa kuti ndizowopseza ...
4-Kulumikizana ndi abambo / amayi amwana
Kwa Gilles-Marie Valet, zikuwonekeratu, ngati makolo sagwirizana, mwanayo akuthamanga. “Njira ziŵiri: kaya lamulo loyenera kulemekezedwa linakhazikitsidwa kale ndi makolo onse aŵiri chifukwa anali anenapo kale za ilo. Mmodzi mwa awiriwo amasowa panthawiyo ndikuyimitsa mkanganowo mpaka pamene mwanayo palibe. Siziyenera kuonedwa ngati njira yopunthwa, koma kunyadira kupereka mwana a momveka bwino ndi mogwirizana ”, akupanga wochiritsayo.
5-Ganizirani za ubwino wa mwanayo kaye
Nanga bwanji la kupalamula ? Momwe mungakane chidole, chidutswa cha keke, kukwera popanda kudziimba mlandu? “Makolo ayenera nthawi zonse kudzifunsa chomwe chili chabwino kwa mwana. Kodi pempho lakelo limawononga thanzi lake? Ngati ndi choncho, musazengereze kunena kuti ayi,” akuyankha katswiriyo. Kumbali ina, zimachitika kuti ana amapempha zinthu zosayembekezereka zomwe sizimakhudza kwenikweni moyo wawo watsiku ndi tsiku. Chitsanzo: “Ndikufuna ndipite naye kusukuluyi! “
Mu nkhani iyi, whim si. "Pempholi liri ndi tanthauzo lobisika (apa kufunikira kwa chilimbikitso) zomwe nthawi zina zimatithawa panthawiyo. Muzochitika zotere, ngati palibe chifukwa chokana, chifukwa chiyani? », Adatero a psychiatrist.
(1) Buku lofalitsidwa ndi Editions Larousse mu 2016.