Nzeru zam'mutu mwa mwana - ndi chiyani komanso chifukwa chiyani zili zofunika. Upangiri wa akatswiri amisala

Gordon Newfeld, katswiri wodziŵika bwino wa ku Canada ndi Ph.D., analemba m’buku lake lotchedwa Keys to the Well-being of Children and Adolescents kuti: “Maganizo amatenga mbali yaikulu pakukula kwa anthu ngakhalenso kukula kwa ubongo weniweniwo. Ubongo wamaganizidwe ndiye maziko abwinobwino. ”Kafukufuku wanzeru zam'maganizo adayamba m'masiku a Darwin. Ndipo tsopano akuti popanda nzeru zamtsogolo, simudzawona kupambana - ngakhale pantchito yanu, kapena m'moyo wanu. Adabweranso ndi mawu oti EQ - mofananira ndi IQ - ndikuwayesa mukamalemba ntchito.

Valeria Shimanskaya, wama psychologist wamwana komanso wolemba imodzi mwamapulogalamu otukuka kwamalingaliro am'maganizo "Academy of Monsiks", adatithandiza kudziwa mtundu wanji wa nzeru, chifukwa chiyani ziyenera kupangidwa ndi momwe tingachitire.

1. Kodi nzeru zam'maganizo ndi chiyani?

Adakali m'mimba mwa mayi, mwanayo amakhala atatha kumva zokumana nazo: momwe mtima ndi malingaliro a mayi amapatsidwira kwa iye. Chifukwa chake, momwe moyo umakhalira komanso momwe mayi akumvera panthawi yapakati zimakhudza mapangidwe amkwiyo wa mwana. Pakubadwa kwa munthu, mayendedwe amakula nthawi zikwi zambiri, nthawi zambiri amasintha masana: mwanayo amamwetulira ndikusangalala, kenako amaponda mapazi ake ndikulira. Mwanayo amaphunzira kuyanjana ndi malingaliro - awo komanso iwo owazungulira. Zomwe adazipezazo zimapanga luntha lamaganizidwe - chidziwitso cha momwe akumvera, kutha kuwazindikira ndikuwongolera, kusiyanitsa zolinga za ena ndikuwayankha mokwanira.

2. Chifukwa chiyani izi zili zofunika?

Choyamba, EQ imathandizira kutonthoza kwamaganizidwe a munthu, moyo wopanda mikangano yamkati. Uwu ndi unyolo wathunthu: choyamba, mwanayo amaphunzira kumvetsetsa machitidwe ake ndi momwe amachitira ndi zochitika zosiyanasiyana, kenako kuvomereza momwe akumvera, ndikuwongolera ndikulemekeza zofuna zake.

Chachiwiri, zonsezi zidzakuthandizani kuti mupange zisankho mozindikira komanso modekha. Makamaka, sankhani gawo lazomwe munthu amakonda.

Chachitatu, anthu omwe ali ndi luntha lamalingaliro amakambirana bwino ndi anthu ena. Kupatula apo, amamvetsetsa zolinga za ena komanso zomwe akuchita, amayankha mokwanira pamakhalidwe a ena, amatha kukhala achifundo komanso achifundo.

Nayi chinsinsi cha ntchito yopambana komanso mgwirizano wamunthu.

3. Momwe mungakwezere EQ?

Ana omwe ali ndi luntha lazam'maganizo amapeza kuti ndizosavuta kuthana ndi zovuta za msinkhu ndikusintha kukhala gulu latsopano, m'malo atsopano. Mutha kuthana ndi kukula kwa mwana nokha, kapena mutha kuyika bizinesi iyi kuzipatala zapadera. Tikuwonetsani njira zosavuta zapakhomo.

Lankhulani ndi mwana wanu momwe akumvera. Nthawi zambiri makolo amatchula zinthu za mwana zomwe amachita kapena zomwe amamuwona, koma samamuuza zakomwe akumva. Nenani: "Mudakhumudwa kuti sitidagule chidole ichi", "Mudakondwera kuwona abambo," "Mudadabwitsidwa alendo atabwera."

Pamene mwana akukula, funsani za momwe akumvera, mosamala mawonekedwe ake pankhope kapena kusintha kwa thupi. Mwachitsanzo: “Mumalumikiza msakatuli wanu. Mukumva bwanji tsopano? ” Ngati mwanayo sangathe kuyankha funsolo nthawi yomweyo, yesani kumuuza kuti: “Mwinanso mumakhala ngati mumakwiya? Kapena ndikunyozabe? "

Mabuku, zojambulajambula ndi makanema amathanso kuthandizira kukulitsa nzeru zam'mutu. Muyenera kungolankhula ndi mwanayo. Kambiranani zomwe mwawona kapena kuwerenga: ganizirani ndi mwana wanu za momwe otchulidwawo akumvera, zomwe adachita, chifukwa chomwe amachitira izi.

Lankhulani momasuka zakukhosi kwanu - makolo, monga anthu onse padziko lapansi, amatha kukwiya, kukwiya, kukhumudwa.

Pangani nthano za mwanayo kapena limodzi ndi iye, momwe ngwazi zimaphunzirira kuthana ndi zovuta pakuwongolera momwe akumvera: amathetsa mantha, manyazi, ndikuphunzira pazodandaula zawo. M'nthano, mutha kusewera nthano za moyo wa mwana ndi banja.

Tonthozani mwana wanu ndikulolani kuti akutonthozeni. Mukakhazika mtima pansi mwana wanu, musasinthe chidwi chake, koma mumuthandize kuti adziwe momwe akumvera pomupatsa dzina. Nenani za momwe adzapirire ndipo posachedwa adzasangalalanso.

Funsani akatswiri. Simusowa kuti mupite kwa wama psychologist chifukwa cha izi. Mafunso onse atha kufunsidwa kwaulere: kawiri pamwezi Valeria Shimanskaya ndi akatswiri ena ochokera ku Monsik Academy amalangiza makolo pama webinema aulere. Zokambirana zimachitika patsamba la webusayiti www.tiji.ru - iyi ndi tsamba lapawayilesi ya ana asukulu asanakwane. Muyenera kulembetsa mu gawo la "Makolo", ndipo mudzatumizidwa ulalo wofalitsa pa intaneti. Kuphatikiza apo, zokambirana zam'mbuyomu zitha kuwonedwa pazomwe mukujambulazo.