Luntha lanzeru, lodziwika ndi intelligence quotient (IQ), silikuwonekanso ngati chinthu chachikulu pakuchita bwino kwa munthu. Nzeru zamaganizo, zodziwika zaka zingapo zapitazo ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku America Daniel Goleman, zingakhale zofunika kwambiri. Koma kodi tikutanthauza chiyani ponena za “maganizo anzeru”? Chifukwa chiyani ili ndi chikoka chachikulu kuposa IQ pa moyo wathu? Kodi kukula izo? Mayankho.

Lingaliro lanzeru zamalingaliro lidakhazikitsidwa koyamba mu 1990 ndi akatswiri amisala Peter Salovey ndi John Mayer. Koma anali katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku America Daniel Goleman yemwe adachifalitsa mu 1995 ndi "Emotional Intelligence" yogulitsa kwambiri. Amadziwika ndi kutha kumvetsetsa ndikuwongolera malingaliro ake, komanso a ena. Kwa Daniel Goleman, luntha lamalingaliro limawonetsedwa ndi maluso asanu:

• Kudzidziwitsa : kudziwa zakukhosi kwawo ndikugwiritsa ntchito chibadwa chawo momwe angathere popanga zisankho. Pachifukwa ichi, ndikofunikira kuti mudziwe nokha komanso kudzidalira nokha.
• kudzigwira : dziwani momwe mungasamalire malingaliro anu kuti asasokoneze m'njira yoipa pa moyo wathu potigonjetsa.
• kulimbikitsa: musaiwale zokhumba zanu ndi zokhumba zanu kukhala ndi zolinga nthawi zonse, ngakhale zitakhumudwitsidwa, zochitika zosayembekezereka, zolepheretsa kapena zokhumudwitsa.
• chisoni : kudziwa kulandira ndi kumvetsetsa malingaliro a ena, kutha kudziyika nokha mu nsapato za wina.
• luso laumunthu komanso kuthekera kolumikizana ndi ena. Gwirizanani ndi ena popanda nkhanza ndikugwiritsa ntchito luso lanu kufotokoza malingaliro bwino, kuthetsa mikangano ndi kugwirizana.

Tikadziwa bwino (mochuluka kapena mochepera) zinthu zisanu izi, timawonetsa luntha laumunthu ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu.  

“Masiku ano palibe amene anganene kuti luntha lamalingaliro limafotokozera kusinthasintha kwa moyo wa anthu. Koma zomwe zilipo zikusonyeza kuti chikoka chake chikhoza kukhala chofunikira kapena chachikulu kuposa cha IQ”, akufotokoza motero Daniel Goleman m’buku lake lakuti Emotional Intelligence, Integral. Malinga ndi iye, IQ imangokhalira kuchita bwino kwa munthu, mpaka 20%. Kodi zina zonse ziyenera kunenedwa chifukwa cha luntha lamalingaliro? Zovuta kunena chifukwa, mosiyana ndi IQ, luntha lamalingaliro ndi lingaliro latsopano lomwe sitili ndi malingaliro ochepa. Komabe, zatsimikiziridwa kuti anthu omwe amadziwa kulamulira maganizo awo ndi a ena, ndi kuwagwiritsa ntchito mwanzeru, ali ndi ubwino m'moyo, kaya ali ndi IQ yapamwamba kapena ayi. Luntha lamalingaliro ili limagwira ntchito yofunika kwambiri m'mbali zonse za moyo: ntchito, banja, banja ... “Anthu amene sangathe kulamulira maganizo awo amakumana ndi mikangano yamkati yomwe imasokoneza luso lawo lokhazikika ndi kulingalira bwino”, akutero Daniel Goleman. Mfundo ina yofunika ndi yakuti luntha la m’maganizo limasintha moyo wonse. Izi sizili choncho ndi IQ, yomwe imakhazikika pafupi ndi zaka za 20. Zoonadi, ngati luso lina lamalingaliro liri lachibadwa, ena amaphunzira kupyolera muzochitika. Mutha kukulitsa luntha lanu lamalingaliro, ngati mukufuna kutero. Zimenezi zimaphatikizapo kufunitsitsa kudzidziŵa bwino ndi kudziŵa bwino anthu otizungulira. 

Kuwonetsa luntha lamalingaliro kumafuna kuphunzira. Kusintha khalidwe lanu sikungachitike mwadzidzidzi. Tonse tili ndi luso lamalingaliro, koma amatha kusokonezedwa ndi zizolowezi zoyipa. Izi ziyenera kusiyidwa kuti zilowe m'malo ndi malingaliro atsopano omwe amapereka kunyada kwa luntha lamalingaliro. Mwachitsanzo, kupsa mtima, komwe kumabweretsa kuluma ndi kukwiya, kumalepheretsa kumvetsera ena, luso lamaganizo lomwe ndi lofunika kwambiri pamoyo. Komano, zimatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji kuti munthu agwirizane ndi luso lamalingaliro? “Zimadalira zinthu zingapo. Maluso akamavuta kwambiri, zimatengera nthawi yayitali kuti mukhale ndi luso limeneli ”, amazindikira Daniel Goleman. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti nthawi zonse mugwiritse ntchito luso lanu lamalingaliro, mosasamala kanthu za malo omwe mumapezeka: kuntchito, ndi banja lanu, ndi mnzanu, ndi anzanu ... malo omwe munthu ali nawo akatswiri, akhoza kungofuna kuzigwiritsa ntchito m'mbali zonse za moyo wake. Ubale uliwonse ndi mwayi wochitira luso lanu lamalingaliro ndikuwongolera nthawi yomweyo. Kudzizungulira nokha ndi anthu omwe ali ndi nzeru zamaganizo ndi njira yabwino yosunthira mbali iyi. Timaphunzira kwa ena. Ngati tikuchita ndi munthu yemwe sali wanzeru pamalingaliro amalingaliro, m'malo mosewera masewera ake, ndikwabwino kumupangitsa kuti amvetsetse zomwe zingapindule pokhala wachifundo komanso wowongolera. za malingaliro ake. Nzeru zamaganizo zimabweretsa mapindu ambiri.

Emotional intelligence imalola kuti:

• kupititsa patsogolo ntchito zamabizinesi. Zimalimbikitsa kulenga, kumvetsera ndi mgwirizano. Makhalidwe omwe amapangitsa ogwira ntchito kuti azigwira ntchito bwino komanso kuti azikhala opindulitsa.
• kutengera zochitika zonse. Maluso athu amalingaliro amathandizira kwambiri pazovuta. Zimatithandiza kusankha zinthu mwanzeru komanso kuti tisamachite zinthu motengera maganizo. 
• kuti afotokoze bwino maganizo ake. Kudziwa kumvetsera, ndiko kuti, kuganizira malingaliro ndi malingaliro a ena, ndi phindu lalikulu. Izi zimakupatsani mwayi kuti mumve ndikumvetsetsa mukafuna kutulutsa malingaliro anu. Malingana ngati mukuchita popanda nkhanza. Emotional nzeru ndi mphamvu zenizeni mukakhala manejala.