Kukonzekera Mwamalingaliro: Momwe Mungamvere Zofuna Zanu Zenizeni

Sitingathe kukhudza mwachindunji kutuluka kwa malingaliro. Ndi njira yachilengedwe, monga chimbudzi, mwachitsanzo. Koma pambuyo pa zonse, kutengeka kulikonse kumatengera chochitika kapena zochita, ndipo titha kukonzekera zochita zathu. Timatha kuchita zinthu zomwe zimatsimikiziridwa kuti zingayambitse zochitika zina. Motero, tidzakonza maganizo okha.

Cholakwika ndi chiyani ndikukonzekera zachikhalidwe

Timakonda kukhazikitsa zolinga potengera zotsatira. Pezani diploma, gulani galimoto, pitani kutchuthi ku Paris. Kodi tidzakhala ndi malingaliro otani pokwaniritsa zolingazi? Mu chithunzi chachizolowezi cha dziko, izi sizofunika. Chofunika ndi zomwe timathera nazo. Umu ndi momwe kulunjika kwanthawi zonse kumawonekera.

Tonse tikudziwa kuti cholinga chiyenera kukhala chachindunji, chotheka kukwaniritsa komanso cholimbikitsa. Tili okonzeka pasadakhale kuti panjira yopitako, mwina, mudzakumana ndi zovuta ndikudziletsa mwanjira ina. Koma tikafika pamenepo, tidzakhala ndi malingaliro abwino - chisangalalo, chisangalalo, kunyada.

Ndipo ngati sichoncho? Bwanji ngati tiyesetsa kwambiri kuti tikwaniritse cholingacho, koma osakumana ndi malingaliro oyembekezeredwa? Mwachitsanzo, pambuyo pa miyezi yophunzitsidwa ndi kudya zakudya zopatsa thanzi, kodi mudzafika kulemera kwanu komwe mukufuna, koma kodi simudzakhala odzidalira kwambiri kapena osangalala? Ndi kupitiriza kuyang'ana zolakwika mwa inu nokha? Kapena mudzakwezedwa, koma mmalo mwa kunyada koyembekezeredwa, mudzakhala ndi nkhawa ndipo simungathe kuchita zomwe mumakonda pomaliza.

Timagwirizanitsa kukwaniritsidwa kwa zolinga ndikumverera kwachimwemwe. Koma kawirikawiri chisangalalo sichikhala champhamvu monga momwe timayembekezera, ndipo chimatha mofulumira. Tinadzipangira tokha cholinga chatsopano, kwezani mipiringidzo ndikuyembekezera kukumana ndi malingaliro omwe timafunanso. Ndipo mosalekeza.

Kuphatikiza apo, nthawi zambiri, sitikwaniritsa zomwe tinkafuna. Ngati pali kukayikira ndi mantha amkati kumbuyo kwa cholingacho, ngakhale chofunikira kwambiri, ndiye kuti malingaliro ndi mphamvu sizingawathandize kuwagonjetsa. Ubongo udzapeza mobwerezabwereza zifukwa zomwe zimakhala zoopsa kuti tikwaniritse. Choncho posachedwapa tidzasiya. Ndipo m’malo mosangalala, timakhala ndi maganizo odziimba mlandu kuti sitinapirire ntchitoyo.

Khalani ndi zolinga kapena khalani ndi malingaliro

Danielle Laporte, wolemba Live with Feeling. Mmene mungakhazikitsire zolinga zimene moyo umazirira” zinafika pa njira yokonzekera mwangozi. Madzulo a Chaka Chatsopano, iye ndi mwamuna wake analemba mndandanda wanthawi zonse wa zolinga za chaka, koma anazindikira kuti chinachake chikusowa.

Zolinga zonse zinkawoneka zabwino, koma osati zolimbikitsa. Kenako, m’malo molemba zolinga zakunja, Daniella anayamba kukambitsirana ndi mwamuna wake mmene iwo angakonde kudzimvera m’mbali zosiyanasiyana za moyo.

Zinapezeka kuti theka la zolinga sizinabweretse malingaliro omwe ankafuna kukhala nawo. Ndipo malingaliro ofunidwawo safunikira kulandiridwa mwanjira imodzi yokha. Mwachitsanzo, ulendo wopita kutchuthi ndi wofunika kwa zatsopano, mwayi wosokonezeka ndikukhala nokha ndi wokondedwa wanu. Koma ngati simungathe kupitabe ku Paris, bwanji osapeza chisangalalo chotsika mtengo pokhala kumapeto kwa sabata mu mzinda wapafupi?

Zolinga za Daniella zasintha kwambiri ndipo sizikuwoneka ngati mndandanda wotopetsa. Chilichonse chinali cholumikizidwa ndi malingaliro osangalatsa komanso odzazidwa ndi mphamvu.

Khazikitsani njira yamalingaliro

Kukonzekera zolinga nthawi zambiri kumakulepheretsani kuchita bwino. Sitimva zokhumba zathu zenizeni ndikukwaniritsa zomwe makolo athu akufuna kapena zomwe zimaonedwa kuti ndi zolemekezeka m'deralo. Timaika maganizo athu pa kusakhala osangalala, ndipo chifukwa cha ichi, timayesetsa moyo wathu wonse kuchita zinthu zimene sizitisangalatsa.

Tiyenera kutsatira mosamalitsa kasamalidwe ka nthawi ndikuchita zinthu zosasangalatsa zomwe zimatengera mphamvu ndikuchepetsa kuti tipitirire. Poyamba timayang'ana zotsatira, zomwe zingakhumudwitse.

Ndicho chifukwa chake kukonzekera kwamaganizo kumagwira ntchito bwino kwambiri. Timaika patsogolo mmene tikufuna kumva. Wamphamvu, wodzidalira, waulere, wokondwa. Izi ndizo zilakolako zathu zenizeni, zomwe sizingasokonezedwe ndi ena, zimadzaza ndi chilimbikitso, zimapereka mphamvu zogwirira ntchito. Tikuwona zomwe ziyenera kugwiridwa ntchito. Ndipo timayang'ana kwambiri njira yomwe timalamulira.

Chifukwa chake, konzani malingaliro omwe mukufuna kukhala nawo, kenako pangani mndandanda wazomwe mukuyenera kuchita potengera iwo. Kuti muchite izi, yankhani mafunso awiri:

• Ndikumverera kotani komwe ndikufuna kudzaza tsiku, sabata, mwezi, chaka?
• Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani, kupeza, kugula, komwe mungapite kuti mumve zomwe ndalemba?

Bizinesi iliyonse kuchokera pamndandanda watsopano idzapereka mphamvu ndi zothandizira, ndipo kumapeto kwa chaka simudzangowona nkhupakupa patsogolo pa zolinga. Mudzakhala ndi zomverera zomwe mumalakalaka.

Izi sizikutanthauza kuti mudzasiya kuyesetsa kuchita zina, kupeza gawo lachisangalalo kuchokera ku kapu ya tiyi ndi bukhu lomwe mumakonda. Koma mudzayamba kumva zokhumba zanu zenizeni, kuzikwaniritsa ndikuzichita mosangalala, osati “kudzera mwa ine sindingathe.” Mudzakhala ndi mphamvu zokwanira kuchita ndi kukwaniritsa mosavuta zimene poyamba ankaona zosatheka. Mudzawona kuti malingaliro amagwira ntchito bwino kwambiri kuposa mphamvu.

Moyo wanu usintha. M’menemo mudzakhala zinthu zosangalatsa ndi zosangalatsa. Ndipo mudzawatsogolera wekha.