Ukazi umapindulitsa osati akazi okha komanso amuna. Mgwirizano womwe mwamuna ndi mkazi amalemekezana komanso kukhala ndi ufulu wofanana udzakhala wamphamvu komanso wokhalitsa. Talemba zifukwa zomwe ukazi umalimbikitsira maubwenzi.
1. Ubale wanu wakhazikika pa kufanana. Mumathandizana wina ndi mnzake kukwaniritsa zolinga ndikukulitsa zomwe mungathe. Pamodzi ndinu wamphamvu kuposa nokha.
2. Simuli omangidwa ndi malingaliro achikale a jenda. Mwamuna akhoza kukhala pakhomo ndi ana pamene mkazi amapeza ndalama. Ngati ichi ndi chikhumbo cha onse awiri - chitanipo.
3. Wokondedwayo samakukambirana ndi abwenzi ndipo sangavomereze kuti "anthu onse amachita izi." Ubale wanu uli pamwamba apo.
4. Mukafuna kuyeretsa m'nyumba kapena kutsuka zinthu, simugawaniza ntchito ndi jenda, koma kugawa ntchito kutengera zomwe mumakonda komanso kuchuluka kwa ntchito kuntchito.
Bhonasi yabwino yogawana ntchito mofanana ndi moyo wogonana wabwino. Ofufuza ochokera ku yunivesite ya Alberta apeza kuti maanja omwe amuna amagwira ntchito zina zapakhomo amagonana kwambiri ndipo amakhala okhutira poyerekeza ndi maukwati omwe udindo wonse umakhala pa mkazi.
5. Chifukwa china cha kukhutitsidwa kwakukulu kwa kugonana mwa okwatirana ofanana ndi chakuti amuna amazindikira kuti chisangalalo cha mkazi sichofunika kwambiri kuposa chawo.
6. Mwamuna samakuweruza chifukwa cha kugonana kwanu kale. Chiwerengero cha mabwenzi akale zilibe kanthu.
7. Wokondedwayo amvetsetsa kufunikira kwa kulera. Simukusowa kufotokoza kapena kutsimikizira.
8. Sakuyesa kukuphunzitsani za moyo. Kumusokoneza, kukweza mawu, kuyang'ana pansi si njira zake.
9. Nonse mukudziwa kuti malo a mkazi ndi pamene amasankha. Ngati nonse mukufuna kugwira ntchito, ndiye kuti banja lidzakhala ndi ndalama zambiri.
10. Wokondedwa wanu akukhulupirira kuti m'dziko limene akazi amapatsidwa mphamvu, zidzakhala bwino kwa aliyense. Kalonga Henry wodziwika bwino wa zachikazi ananenapo kuti: “Akazi akakhala ndi mphamvu, amapititsa patsogolo moyo wa aliyense wowazungulira mosalekeza—mabanja, madera, mayiko.”
11. Wokondedwayo amakonda thupi lanu, koma amavomereza: nokha mumasankha chochita nawo. Mwamuna samakukakamizani pankhani ya kugonana ndi kubereka.
12. Mungathe kukhala mabwenzi mosavuta ndi anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi anzanu. Wokondedwayo amazindikira ufulu wanu wolankhulana ndi abambo ndi amai ena.
13. Mkazi akhoza kufunsira yekha ukwati.
14. Ukwati wanu ukhoza kukhala wachikhalidwe kapena wachilendo - mwasankha.
15. Ngati mnzanu wa mwamuna wanu ayamba kupanga nthabwala zoipa zachikazi, mnzanuyo adzamuika m'malo mwake.
16. Mwamuna amatenga madandaulo anu ndikudandaula kwambiri. Sawapeputsa chifukwa ndiwe mkazi. Kuchokera kwa iye simudzamva mawu akuti: "Zikuwoneka ngati wina ali ndi PMS."
17. Simukuwona ubale ngati ntchito yoti mugwire, simuyesa kukonzana. Amuna sayenera kukhala akatswiri ovala zida zonyezimira, ndipo akazi sayenera kuyesa kuthetsa mavuto a amuna ndi chikondi. Aliyense amatenga udindo pazochitika zake. Muli paubwenzi ngati anthu awiri odziyimira pawokha.
18. Mukalowa m'banja, mumasankha kutenga dzina lomaliza la mnzanu, kusunga lanu, kapena kusankha awiri.
19. Wokondedwayo samasokoneza ntchito yanu, koma m'malo mwake, amanyadira zomwe mwapeza pantchito yanu. Amakuthandizani panjira yopita ku kukwaniritsa zokhumba, ziribe kanthu kaya ndi ntchito, zokonda, banja.
20. Mawu ngati "khala mwamuna" kapena "musakhale chiguduli" ali kunja kwa ubale wanu. Ukazi umatetezanso amuna. Wokondedwa wanu akhoza kukhala wokhudzidwa mtima komanso wosatetezeka momwe amafunira. Izi sizimamupangitsa kukhala wolimba mtima.
21. Wokondedwa amayamikira mwa inu osati kukongola kokha, komanso luntha.
22. Ngati muli ndi ana, inuyo ndi mnzanuyo mumakambirana nawo za kugonana.
23. Mumasankha yemwe mwa inu kuti mutenge tchuthi cholipirira cha makolo.
24. Mwa chitsanzo chanu, mumasonyeza ana anu chitsanzo cha maubale ozikidwa pa kufanana.
25. Ngakhale mutaganiza zothetsa banja, n’zachionekere kwa inu kuti makolo onsewo ayenera kukhala ndi phande m’miyoyo ya anawo.
26. Inu nokha munakhazikitsa malamulo a ukwati ndi kusankha maganizo pa mwamuna mmodzi.
27. Wokondedwa wanu amvetsetsa chifukwa chomwe mumathandizira gulu lomenyera ufulu wa amayi.
Unikani ubale wanu: amalemekeza bwanji mfundo za kufanana? Ngati wokondedwa wanu agawana mfundo zachikazi, simudzayenera kumenyera ufulu wanu m'banjamo.
Za wolemba: Brittany Wong ndi mtolankhani.