Spring yafika: ndi nthawi yoti muvule ma jekete anu pansi. Koma zithumwa za nyengo yofunda zimaphimbidwa ndi chidwi chowonjezeka cha amuna omwe amavutitsa atsikana ndi amayi omwe ali pamsewu. N’chifukwa chiyani amachita zimenezi ndipo tingapewe bwanji khalidwe limeneli?
Ngati ndinu mkazi, ndiye kuti mwina munawonapo kapena mwakumanapo ndi zochitika zonga "catcalling": apa ndi pamene amuna, pokhala pagulu, amayimba mluzu pambuyo pa akazi ndi kumasula kunyoza, nthawi zambiri ndi kugonana kapena kuopseza, ndemanga. mu adiresi yawo. Mawuwa amachokera ku English catcall — «to boo». M’mayiko ena, kuchita zimenezi kulipiritsidwa chindapusa. Chifukwa chake, ku France, "ozunza m'misewu" ali pachiwopsezo cholipira ma euro 90 mpaka 750 chifukwa cha khalidwe lawo.
Zomwe zimachitika pogwira nyama ndizosiyana: zimatengera momwe zinthu ziliri, ndi munthuyo mwini. Atsikana ena amapeza mtundu wa chisangalalo, kulandira zizindikiro zoterezi. "Ndili bwino. Iwo anandiwona ine, iwo amaganiza. Koma nthawi zambiri, "mayamiko" oterowo amawopsya, amakwiyitsa ndi kutipangitsa kumva ngati tili mu msika wa akapolo, popeza tikhoza kukambidwa ndikuyesedwa, monga momwe amachitira ndi zinthu. Kupsinjika maganizo kungabwerenso chifukwa cha kuzunzidwa koteroko.
Zimachitika bwanji
"Madzulo, ine ndi bwenzi langa tinabwerera kunyumba - tinamwa chakumwa ndipo tinaganiza zoyenda kuzungulira kwathu. Galimoto imabwera ndi anyamata awiri kapena atatu. Amatsitsa zenera ndikuyamba kukuwa, “Okongola, bwerani nafe. Atsikana, zidzakhala zosangalatsa kwambiri ndi ife, tikuwonjezerani! Tiyeni tipite, makinawo ndi atsopano, mungawakonde. Tinayenda mwakachetechete mpaka kunyumba, kuyesa kunyalanyaza ndemanga izi, zinali zowopsa komanso zosasangalatsa konse.
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“Ndinali ndi zaka 13 ndipo ndinkaoneka wamkulu kuposa msinkhu wanga. Anadzidula yekha ma jeans ake, kuwasandutsa kabudula wamfupi kwambiri, kuvala ndikuyenda yekha. Pamene ndinali kuyenda m’mbali mwa bwalo, amuna ena - analipo asanu, mwinamwake - anayamba kundiyimba malikhweru ndikufuula kwa ine: "Bwera kuno ... matako ako ali maliseche." Ndinachita mantha ndipo mwamsanga ndinabwerera kunyumba. Zinali zochititsa manyazi kwambiri, ndikukumbukirabe.
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“Panthaŵiyo ndinali ndi zaka 15 zakubadwa, inali m’dzinja. Ndinavala malaya aatali okongola a amayi anga, nsapato - kawirikawiri, palibe chokhumudwitsa - ndipo mu chovala ichi ndinapita kwa chibwenzi changa. Nditatuluka m’nyumbamo, mwamuna wina wokwera Mercedes wakuda ananditsatira. Anandiimbira likhweru, kundiimbira foni, ndipo anandipatsa mphatso. Ndinachita manyazi komanso mantha, koma nthawi yomweyo ndinasangalala pang'ono. Zotsatira zake, ndinanama kuti ndine wokwatiwa ndipo ndinalowa pakhomo la mnzanga.
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“Mnzanga wina anabwera kwa ine wochokera ku Israel, yemwe anali wozoloŵera kuvala zopakapaka zonyezimira ndiponso atavala ma corset okhala ndi ma leggings othina. M'chithunzichi, anapita nane ku kanema. Tinayenera kutsika munjanji yapansi panthaka, ndipo panjira yapansi panthaka munthu wina anamuyimbira mluzu ndi kuyamba kumuyamikira monyanyira. Anaima n’kutembenuka kutisatira. Mtsikana uja, osaganiza kawiri, adabweranso ndikumupha nkhonya pamphuno. Ndiyeno iye anafotokoza kuti m'dziko lakwawo si mwambo kuchita motere ndi mkazi - ndipo iye sakhululukira aliyense chifukwa cha khalidwe limeneli.
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“Ndikuthamanga. Nthaŵi ina ndinali kuthamanga kumudzi, ndipo galimoto ina inaima chapafupi. Bamboyo anandifunsa ngati ndikufunika kukwera galimoto, ngakhale zinali zodziwikiratu kuti sindikufunikira. Ndinathamanga, galimoto inanditsatira. Munthuyo analankhula pawindo lotsegula kuti: “Bwera. Khalani pansi ndi ine, wokongola. Kenako: "Kodi mathalauza anu ndi achigololo?" Ndiyeno mawu osasindikizidwa anapitiriza. Ndinayenera kutembenuka mwachangu ndikuthawira kunyumba.
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“Nditabwerera kunyumba usiku, ndinadutsa pafupi ndi benchi pamene gulu la anthu linali kumwa. M’modzi wa iwo amene anakhala pa benchi ananyamuka natsatira. Anandiimbira mluzu, kunditchula mayina, kunditchula mayina ndi kunena kuti: “Ndiwe wokoma kwambiri.” Ndinachita mantha kwambiri.”
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“Nthawi inali cha m’ma 22:40, kunali mdima. Ndinali kubwerera kunyumba kuchokera kusukulu. Bambo wina wazaka zake za m'ma XNUMX adandiyandikira mumsewu, ataledzera, atayima pang'onopang'ono. Ndinayesa kunyalanyaza ngakhale ndinalimba mtima koma ananditsatira. Anayamba kuyitana kunyumba, nthabwala, mwanjira yodabwitsa, adayesa kundikumbatira. Ndinakana mwaulemu, koma zinali ngati kuti mantha anandithera. Kunalibe kothawira, kunalibe anthu mozungulira - derali linali labata. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, ndinathamangira m’khonde limodzi ndi agogo anga aakazi, akumafuula kuti: “Mtsikana, uli kuti, tibwere kudzandichezera.” Ndinali kugwedezeka kwa nthawi yaitali.
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"Ndinakhala pa benchi ya paki ndi miyendo yanga yopingasa ndikuyang'ana foni yanga. Mwamuna akubwera, kudzakhudza bondo langa, ndikukweza mutu wanga. Ndiyeno akuti: “Chabwino, n’chifukwa chiyani mwakhala m’nyumba ya mahule?” Ndine chete. Ndipo akupitiriza kuti: "Miyendo inali yokhotakhota mokopa, musachite choncho ..."
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“Ndinapita kusitolo nditavala t-sheti yothina. Ndili m’njira, munthu wina ananditsatira. Nthawi zonse anandiuza kuti: “Mtsikana, n’chifukwa chiyani ukungodzionetsera, ndikuona kuti zonse ndi zokongola kwambiri.” Zinandivuta kumusiya. "
Chifukwa chiyani amachitira izi komanso momwe angachitire
N’chifukwa chiyani amuna amalolera kuchita zimenezi? Zifukwa zingakhale zosiyana, kuyambira kunyong’onyeka mpaka kufuna kusonyeza nkhanza kwa akazi m’njira imene amati ndi yovomerezeka. Koma chinthu chimodzi chinganenedwe motsimikizika: amene amayimbira mluzu mkazi kapena kuyesa kumuyitana ndi mawu akuti "kupsompsona-kupsompsona" mwachiwonekere samamvetsa kwenikweni. ndi chifukwa chake ayenera kulemekezedwa. Ndipo pamenepa, zilibe kanthu ngati akudziwa kuti alendo odutsa paokha sakonda chisamaliro chotero.
Inde, udindo wa zimene zikuchitikazi uli ndi munthu amene amagona akazi osadziwika bwino. Koma anthu sadziŵika, ndipo sitikudziwa kuti ndi munthu wotani: mwina ndi woopsa kapena kuti wapezeka wolakwa chifukwa cha ziwawa. Chifukwa chake, ntchito yathu yayikulu ndikusunga thanzi lathu komanso kutuluka mwachangu momwe tingathere.
Zosachita? Yesetsani kupeŵa zaukali. Kumbukirani kuti chiwawa ndi "chopatsirana" ndipo chikhoza kuchitika mwamsanga ndi munthu yemwe akuphwanya kale miyambo ya anthu. Komanso, ndi «catcaller» mwina akudwala otsika kudzidalira, ndi wanu nkhanza yankho mosavuta kumukumbutsa zina zoipa zinachitikira m'mbuyomu. Umu ndi momwe mumayambitsa mikangano ndikudziyika nokha pachiwopsezo.
Ngati vuto likuwopsa:
- Yesetsani kuwonjezera mtunda ndi munthuyo, koma osathamanga kwambiri. Onani amene mungapemphe thandizo ngati kuli kofunikira.
- Ngati pali anthu pafupi, mokweza funsani «catcaller» kubwereza kuyamikira kwake. Mwina safuna kuwonedwa.
- Nthawi zina ndi bwino kunyalanyaza chidwi.
- Mutha kunamizira kucheza pafoni ndi mnzanu yemwe akuwoneka kuti akubwera kwa inu. Mwachitsanzo: “Muli kuti? Ndilipo kale. Bwerani, ndikuwona mumphindi zingapo. "
- Ngati mukutsimikiza kuti munthu sangakuvulazeni, mukhoza kusonyeza khalidwe lake: kuyankha mluzu, kunena "kit-kit-kit". Oyimba amphaka nthawi zambiri amakhala osakonzekera kuti wozunzidwayo agwire ntchitoyo. Akhoza kutembenuzidwa ndi manyazi ndi kukhumudwa kwa mkazi, koma ndithudi sakonda ngati iye mwadzidzidzi atenga gawo lokangalika.
Chofunika kwambiri, kumbukirani chitetezo chanu. Ndi kuti mulibe ngongole kwa mlendo zomwe mwina simumazikonda.