Yekha katswiri wazamisala - ndizotheka?

"Chifukwa chiyani timafunikira akatswiri azamisala?" Zowonadi, chifukwa chiyani padziko lapansi tiyenera kugawana zinsinsi zathu zaumwini, zapamtima kwambiri ndi mlendo, ndipo ngakhale kumulipira, pomwe mashelufu amadzaza ndi ogulitsa omwe amatilonjeza kuti "tidzipeza zenizeni zathu" kapena "kuchotsa mavuto obisika amalingaliro. » ? Kodi sikutheka, pokhala mutakonzekera bwino, kudzithandiza nokha?

Sizophweka, katswiri wa zamaganizo Gerard Bonnet akuziziritsa chilakolako chathu: "Musayembekezere kukhala katswiri wamaganizo anu, chifukwa chifukwa cha udindo umenewu muyenera kudzipatula nokha, zomwe zimakhala zovuta kuchita. Koma ndizotheka kugwira ntchito yodziyimira pawokha ngati mukuvomera kumasula chikomokere chanu ndikugwira ntchito ndi zizindikiro zomwe zimapereka. Kodi kuchita izo?

Yang'anani zizindikiro

Njira iyi imathandizira psychoanalysis yonse. Zinali kuyambira pakudziwonetsera, kapena kani, kuchokera ku imodzi mwa maloto ake, omwe adalowa m'mbiri pansi pa dzina lakuti "Loto la jekeseni wa Irma", Sigmund Freud mu July 1895 anatulutsa chiphunzitso chake cha maloto.

Titha kugwiritsa ntchito njira iyi mwangwiro ndikuigwiritsa ntchito kwa ife tokha, pogwiritsa ntchito zizindikiro zonse zomwe chikomokere chimatiululira: osati maloto okha, komanso zinthu zomwe tidayiwala kuchita, kutsetsereka kwa lilime, kutsika kwa lilime, kutsetsereka kwa lilime. , kutsetsereka kwa lilime, zochitika zachilendo - chirichonse chimene chimatichitikira kawirikawiri.

Gerard Bonnet anati: “Mufunika kuthera nthawi yochita zimenezi nthawi zonse. - Osachepera 3-4 pa sabata, koposa zonse m'mawa, osadzuka, tiyenera kukumbukira tsiku lapitalo, kupereka chidwi chapadera ku maloto, zosiyidwa, zochitika zomwe zinkawoneka zachilendo. Ndi bwino kulemba mu diary zonse zomwe zimachitika mwaufulu kwambiri, kuganizira za mayanjano komanso osadandaula za kalembedwe kapena mtundu uliwonse wa mgwirizano. Ndiyeno tingapite kuntchito kuti madzulo kapena m’maŵa m’maŵa tibwerere ku zimene tinalemba ndi kuzisinkhasinkha mofatsa kuti tione kugwirizana ndi tanthauzo la zochitikazo momveka bwino.

Pakati pa zaka zapakati pa 20 ndi 30, Leon, yemwe tsopano ali ndi zaka 38, anayamba kulemba maloto ake mosamala m'buku, ndikuwonjezera kwa iwo mayanjano aulere omwe anali nawo. Iye anati: “Ndili ndi zaka 26, ndinakumana ndi vuto linalake. - Ndinayesa kangapo kuti ndidutse chiphaso cha layisensi yoyendetsa, ndipo zonse sizinaphule kanthu. Ndiyeno usiku wina ndinalota ndikuwuluka mumsewu waukulu pagalimoto yofiyira ndikudutsa munthu wina. Nditakumananso kachiwiri, ndinasangalala kwambiri. Ndinadzuka ndikumva kokoma uku. Ndili ndi chithunzi chomveka bwino m'mutu mwanga, ndinadziuza kuti ndikhoza. Monga kuti chikomokere chandipatsa lamulo. Ndipo patapita miyezi ingapo, ndinali kuyendetsa galimoto yofiyira!”

Chinachitika ndi chiyani? Kodi «dinani» zinachititsa kusintha? Panthawiyi sizinkafuna ngakhale kutanthauzira kovuta kapena kusanthula kophiphiritsira kwa malotowo, popeza Leon anakhutitsidwa ndi kufotokozera kosavuta, kopanda tanthauzo komwe adadzipatsa yekha.

Kumasuka n'kofunika kwambiri kuposa kupeza kufotokozera

Nthawi zambiri timayendetsedwa ndi chikhumbo chofuna kufotokozera zochita zathu, zolakwa, maloto. Akatswiri ambiri a zamaganizo amaona kuti izi ndi zolakwika. Izi sizofunikira nthawi zonse. Nthawi zina ndi zokwanira kuchotsa fano, kuti «kutulutsa» popanda kuyesa kufotokoza izo, ndi chizindikiro kutha. Kusintha sikuchitika chifukwa timaganiza kuti tadzilingalira tokha.

Mfundo sikutanthauza kutanthauzira molondola zizindikiro za chikomokere, ndikofunika kwambiri kuti titulutse ku zithunzi zomwe zimatuluka mosalekeza m'mutu mwathu. Zokhumba zathu zosazindikira zimangomveka. Imatilamula popanda kudziwa pamene ikufuna kutumiza uthenga ku chidziwitso chathu.

Marianne wazaka 40 ankakhulupirira kwa nthawi yaitali kuti mantha ake ausiku ndi zibwenzi zosasangalatsa zinali zotsatira za ubale wovuta ndi abambo ake omwe palibe: "Ndinayang'ana chirichonse kupyolera mu prism ya maubwenzi awa ndikumanga maubwenzi ofanana ndi "osayenera." ” amuna. Ndiyeno tsiku lina ndinalota kuti agogo anga aakazi, amene ndinakhala nawo ubwana wanga, akutambasulira manja awo kwa ine ndi kulira. M'mawa, pamene ndinali kulemba malotowo, chithunzi cha ubale wathu wovuta ndi iye chinakhala chowonekeratu kwa ine. Panalibe chomvetsetsa. Linali funde lomwe linakwera kuchokera mkati, lomwe poyamba linandigonjetsa, kenako linandimasula.

Nkopanda ntchito kudzizunza tokha, kudzifunsa tokha ngati kufotokoza kwathu kumagwirizana ndi izi kapena za mawonetseredwe athu. "Freud poyamba ankangoganizira kwambiri za kumasulira kwa maloto, ndipo pamapeto pake adatsimikiza kuti kufotokoza kwaufulu maganizo ndiko kofunika," anatero Gérard Bonnet. Amakhulupirira kuti kudziwitsidwa kochitidwa bwino kuyenera kubweretsa zotsatira zabwino. "Maganizo athu amamasulidwa, tikhoza kuchotsa zizindikiro zambiri, monga khalidwe lokakamiza lomwe limakhudza maubwenzi athu ndi anthu ena."

Introspection Ili ndi Malire

Koma ntchito imeneyi ili ndi malire ake. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Alain Vanier akukhulupirira kuti munthu sayenera kudumphira mozama: “Tidzakumana mwamsanga ndi zopinga ndi kudzikondweretsa kosapeŵeka kwa ife eni. Mu psychoanalysis timayamba kuchokera ku madandaulo, ndipo chithandizo ndichotitsogolera kumene zimapweteka, ndendende pamene tamanga zotchinga kuti tisayang'ane pamenepo. Apa ndipamene panayambika vutolo.”

Kodi chobisika mu kuya kwenikweni kwa chikomokere, phata lake ndi chiyani? - izi n'zimenenso chikumbumtima chathu, «Ine» sangayerekeze kukumana: ndi zone zowawa zoponderezedwa mu ubwana, inexpressible aliyense wa ife, ngakhale amene moyo wasokoneza kuyambira pamenepo. Kodi mungapirire bwanji kuti mupite kukayang'ana mabala anu, kuwatsegula, kuwakhudza, kukanikiza zilonda zomwe tazibisa pansi pa chophimba cha neuroses, zizolowezi zachilendo kapena chinyengo?

"Kuyang'anizana ndi maso ndi maso, timayesetsa kuti tisaone zosamvetseka zomwe zingatidzidzimutsa: kutsetsereka kodabwitsa kwa lilime, maloto odabwitsa. Nthawi zonse tidzapeza chifukwa chosawona izi - chifukwa chilichonse chidzakhala chabwino pa izi. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ntchito ya psychotherapist kapena psychoanalyst ndiyofunika kwambiri: zimatithandiza kuthana ndi malire athu amkati, kuchita zomwe sitingathe kuchita tokha, "akumaliza Alain Vanier. Koma Gerard Bonnet akuwonjezera kuti, “ngati tidzifufuza mwadzidzidzi tisanalandire chithandizo, mkati, kapena ngakhale pambuyo pa njira yamankhwala, mphamvu yake imakhala yochuluka kuŵirikiza kaŵirikaŵiri.” Choncho kudzithandiza ndi njira ya psychotherapy sikupatulana wina ndi mzake, koma kukulitsa luso lathu lodzigwira tokha.