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“Mtsogoleri wabanja”, “Mkazi wathu ndiye amasankha chilichonse”, “Ndimufunsa mwamuna wanga zomwe anganene” … Kodi mtsogoleri pa awiriwa ndi ndani? Kodi si nthawi yoti tiganizirenso zamatsenga akale ndikuphunzira kuchokera ku mabanja omwe palibe chinthu chachikulu, kapena m'malo mwake, zazikulu ndizo zonse? Kodi n'chiyani chimachititsa kuti banja likhale losangalala kwa zaka zambiri? Mphunzitsi wamalonda Radislav Gandapas ali ndi njira, yotsimikiziridwa ndi zochitika zaumwini.
Banja lirilonse silimangokhalira kudzoza ndi chisangalalo, komanso gwero lalikulu la mikangano ndi mavuto, mphunzitsi wa bizinesi ndi katswiri wa utsogoleri Radislav Gandapas amatsimikiza. Ndi mikangano ya m’banja imene imadza choyamba pa ndandanda ya zifukwa zazikulu za mavuto.
Pachiwiri pali mikangano mu gawo la akatswiri. "Panthawi ya kufooka, munthu amakhala ndi chikhumbo chachibadwa chofuna kuchotsa magwero a mavuto, ndiko kuti, kuthetsa ubale, kusiya ntchito. Koma kodi iyi ndiyo njira yokhayo yothetsera vutoli? - imayitanitsa mphunzitsi wabizinesi woganiza.
Sonkhanitsani zowonera
Nthawi zambiri okwatirana amakhala pamodzi ngakhale kuti pali kusiyana koonekeratu. Mwachionekere, iwo sanafikebe povuta.
"Ndili wotsimikiza kuti palibe katundu wamba kapena ana wamba omwe angalepheretse okwatirana kutha ngati vutoli lifika pachimake," akupitiriza Radislav Gandapas. - Pakachitika chisudzulo ndi "zochitika zankhondo" zomwe zimatsagana nazo, okwatiranawo amawononga katundu wogwirizana. Malo okhala akusinthidwa ndi madzi ochepa komanso omasuka. Pokambitsirana milandu, si zachilendo kuti bizinezi yomwe idatukuka mumgwirizano kufa. Ndipo ngakhale kukhalapo kwa ana sikuletsa aliyense, ndipo, monga lamulo, abambo amachoka, kutaya katundu, ndipo ana amakhala ndi amayi awo.
Ndiye ndi chiyani chomwe chidzapangitsa kuti banjali likhale limodzi? “Osaunjikirana katundu, izi sizinapulumutse banja. Sonkhanitsani zowonera! amalangiza mphunzitsi wa bizinesi. Izi ndi zomwe amachita pa maubwenzi ndipo amanyadira kuti ali ndi "ana anayi kuyambira zaka 4 mpaka 17, ndipo onse kuchokera kwa mkazi mmodzi wokondedwa."
Moyo wa banja lalikulu ndi wodzaza ndi chizolowezi, choncho Radislav ndi mkazi wake Anna amabwera ndi Zopatsa kwa banja lonse kangapo pachaka ndipo amathera masiku ovomerezeka pamodzi, kusiya ana kwa agogo awo. Iwo anaganiza zokwatirana ndendende kuti akhale chinthu china chodziwika bwino m'moyo, ngakhale kuti panthawiyo anali ndi ana awiri ndipo panalibe kukayika kuti adzakhala pamodzi.
Zinali zokongola Mipikisano masewera masewera ndi ulendo pa sitima ndi m'manja mwaukwati, imene aliyense anasangalala - okwatirana kumene, ndi achibale, ndi abwenzi nawo pa foni kung'anima gulu anatulukira ndi mkwati (64 mafoni ndi mawu « Anya, nenani» Inde » adalandira mkwatibwi kwa maola angapo akuyenda pamtsinje).
Zowoneka wamba ndi kugawana malingaliro ndizomwe zimagwirizanitsa anthu awiri osiyana kukhala okwatirana, osati malo okhalamo wamba kapena sitampu mu pasipoti.
"Uwu ndi ukwati, ndi ulendo, ndipo pamene kutentha kwa mwanayo kuli pansi pa 40, ndipo mumathamangira ndi mkazi wanu usiku kuchokera ku chipatala china kupita ku china kufunafuna dokotala woyenera," akufotokoza motero Radislav. - Zilibe kanthu mmene kamvekedwe - zabwino kapena zoipa - zowoneka ndi achikuda, nkofunika kuti olowa.
Ngati takula wina ndi mnzake ndi zochitika zodziwika miliyoni miliyoni komanso zokumana nazo, zimakhala zovuta kuti tisiyane. Ndipo ngati palibe nkhani zofala m'banja, ndiye kuti palibe chosungira: mkazi amasamalira ana, amapeza ndalama, ndipo akabwerera kunyumba, akupitiriza kulankhula pa foni za bizinesi. Kapena akuti watopa, akupempha kuti asamugwire, amadya yekha n’kupita kukaonera TV muofesi, n’kugona kumeneko. Ali ndi miyoyo iwiri yofanana, alibe chotaya. ”
Kumbukirani kuti mtsogoleri ndi udindo wokhazikika
Katswiri wa utsogoleri ali wotsimikiza kuti banja lamakono likusowa utsogoleri wopingasa.
"Kumbali imodzi, iyi ndi oxymoron, chifukwa mawu oti "olamulira" amasonyeza kuti wina ali pansi pa wina," mphunzitsi wamalonda akufotokoza udindo wake. - Kumbali inayi, banja lamakono la anthu awiri ogwirizana omwe akufuna kusonyeza momwe angathere amatanthauza kukhalirana kofanana. Ngati, komabe, wina mwa awiriwo akuumirira paulamuliro woyima, ndiye kuti mbali imodzi idzakakamizika kuyika zofuna zake pansi pa mzake.
Pali mabungwe omwe amapeza ndalama, ndipo amasamalira nyumba ndi ana. Mgwirizano woterewu ukuwoneka kuti ukugwirizana ndi aliyense. Ena mwa mabanja amenewa ndi osangalala. Koma nthawi zambiri ndimapeza kuti azimayi ambiri sawonetsa luso lawo kunja kwa nyumba.
Panthawi ina, wina mwa okwatirana mwadzidzidzi amadzimva kuti ali pafupi. "O, malingaliro athu adazizira." Kapena "Tilibe choyankhula." Chabwino, ngati akuganiza kuti apite ku maphunziro, kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo, ayambe kuwerenga mabuku apadera, ndiye kuti pali mwayi wopeza kuti ukwati sunasindikizidwe ndi mgwirizano waukwati, ana ndi katundu, koma ndi zochitika zamaganizo. Ndipo, mwina, okwatiranawo asintha mtundu wawo wanthawi zonse wa maubwenzi "mutu wabanja - wocheperako."
Ulamuliro wopingasa umalola onse awiri kudzizindikira okha komanso nthawi yomweyo awiriwo onse. Koma bwanji kugawana utsogoleri muzochita?
"Kukambitsirana ndizomwe zimatsimikizira ubale wokhwima, wokhazikika. Ukwati ndi luso logwirizana, akutero Radislav Gandapas. — Muyenera kunena zimene mukufuna m’banja, zimene mukufuna kunja kwa ukwati wanu, zofunika ndi zosangalatsa kwa inu.
Ambiri amakhala ndi kuganiza molakwika kuti mbali inayo imakhutitsidwa ndi kusakhazikika, popeza ili chete. Ndipo ngati mwadzidzidzi chinachake chalakwika, ndiye chifukwa chiyani akuchita, ngati ali ndi chirichonse. Ndipo nthawi zina zosoŵa zathu sizingakwaniritsidwe ngakhale tokha. Mpaka tinapita kutchuthi ndipo ndinali ndi ngodya yangayanga mnyumba ya alendo, sindimadziwa kuti ndimafunanso kunyumba. Ndipo ine ndinauza mkazi wanga za izo, tsopano ife tikuganiza za mmene zida m'nyumba yathu.
Pokhala ndi utsogoleri wopingasa, palibe chofunikira kuti zokonda za wina zikhale zapamwamba, zofunika kwambiri kuposa za ena. Pano aliyense ali ndi ufulu wofanana, mosasamala kanthu kuti ndani amabweretsa ndalama zazikulu m'nyumba kapena kuyeretsa nyumba ndikukonzekera chakudya.
Muzipatsana ufulu wosankha zochita
Kodi kusiyanitsa mtsogoleri? Ndipo mungapeze bwanji utsogoleri mwa inu nokha? Utsogoleri sumafotokozedwa ndi udindo. Mtsogoleri weniweni, onse mu bizinesi ndi maubwenzi, ndi amene amatenga udindo wa moyo wokangalika ndikulola ena kuti ayambe kukhala pafupi ndi iye, osati amene ali ndi chizindikiro "Mkulu" pakhomo ndikuyang'ana ena pansi. .
“Mawu akuti “mtsogoleri” ali ndi matanthauzo ndi matanthauzo ambiri,” akutero Radislav Gandapas. - Utsogoleri ukhoza kutchedwa njira yamoyo yokhazikika pakuchitapo kanthu komanso udindo. Mtsogoleri ndi amene amadzipangira yekha tsogolo lake. Sakhala paudindo wa "O, nditani, zomwe zachitika." Iye mwini amalenga mikhalidwe yofunikira.
Mtsogoleriyo sadikira mpaka atakweza malipiro ake, adzayambitsa yekha. Koma osati m’lingaliro lakuti zingakhale bwino kupeza zambiri. Amaona ndalama ngati muyezo wa kukula kwake ndi chitukuko. Auza oyang'anira kuti akufuna kudzizindikira bwino, kuti afike pamlingo wina wosankha, kukula, udindo. "
Mwachitsanzo, mnyamata wina Misha akuona kuti palibe chiyembekezo chilichonse m’tauni yakwawo ndipo anaganiza zopita ku mzinda waukulu. Akalowa ku yunivesite, amapeza ntchito, amakwera makwerero a ntchito kumeneko. Kodi iye ndi mtsogoleri? Mosakayikira. Zomwe sitinganene za mnyamata wina Bor, yemwe adabadwa ndikuleredwa ndi makolo a imperious, adalowa ku yunivesite yomwe adamusankha, atamaliza maphunziro ake adapeza ntchito ndi bwenzi la abambo ake, ndipo kwa zaka 12 tsopano wakhala. kukhala ndi udindo womwewo - nyenyezi ndi palibe kumwamba kokwanira, koma sangathe kumuwotcha ngakhale - pambuyo pake, mwana wa bwenzi la bambo wakale.
Mu moyo wake, iye amadziwikanso - mtsikana mwamsanga anatenga pakati pa iye, "kukwatira" yekha. Sanamukonde, koma chifukwa cha msinkhu wake inakwana nthawi yoti akwatiwe. Kodi mtsogoleri pa awiriwa ndi ndani? Ndi. Zaka zambiri zimadutsa, ndipo tsiku lina Borya anazindikira kuti amagwira ntchito yosakondedwa, akukhala ndi mkazi wosakondedwa, ndipo akulera mwana yemwe sankamufuna kwenikweni. Koma sali wokonzeka kusintha moyo wake. Kotero iye alipo, popanda kusonyeza njira ya utsogoleri.
Makhalidwe a utsogoleri amakhazikika muubwana. Koma "tikangolanga" ana chifukwa chochitapo kanthu, nthawi yomweyo timaletsa kusankha kwa mtsogoleri wamtsogolo. Mwanayo adatsuka mbale, kuthira madzi pansi. Ziwiri zimatheka.
Choyamba: kutamandani ndikuwonetsa momwe mungatsukire mbale popanda kutaya madzi.
Chachiwiri: kudzudzula madambo, kumutcha chitsiru, wowononga katundu wapakhomo, kumuopseza ndi anansi omwe amati ndi okwiya.
Zikuwonekeratu kuti muzochitika zachiwiri, nthawi yotsatira mwanayo adzaganizira mozama kuti achite chinachake panyumba, chifukwa zimakhala zochititsa manyazi, zowononga komanso zosatetezeka kwa iye. Kukonzekera kumatha kutayika pazaka zilizonse. Mwamuna nthawi zambiri amadula mapiko a mkazi wake, ndipo mkazi amadula mapiko a mwamuna wake. Ndiyeno onse amadabwa: chifukwa chiyani amakhala nthawi zonse ndi anzake, osati kunyumba, ndipo nthawi zonse amagona pa kama.
Ndiye titani? Kodi mungayambe bwanji kuchitapo kanthu komanso kukhala pachibwenzi?
Banja ndi mgwirizano, mgwirizano. Aliyense m’banjamo ali ndi mawu ndi kuyenera kwa kukhala wosangalala nthawi ina iliyonse.
"Mutha kubwereranso komwe munayambira. Ndipo vomerezani mwatsopano momwe tidzamangire tsopano,” akutero Radislav Gandapas. - Ndizomveka kuzimitsa malingaliro ndikuyatsa kulingalira ndikudzifunsa nokha: zambiri, kodi ndimasangalala ndi munthu uyu, kodi ndikufuna kukhala naye moyo? Kodi kusakhutitsidwa kwathu ndi wina ndi mzake ndi imfa?
Ngati yankho la funso loyamba ndi “Ayi” ndipo lachiwiri ndi “Inde”, ndiye kuti lekani kuzunzana ndikusiya. Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti uyu ndi munthu wanu yemwe mukufuna kukhala naye moyo, kukalamba pamodzi, ndiye kuti muyenera kukambirana kapena kupita kukakambirana pamaso pa katswiri wa zamaganizo wa banja yemwe angakuthandizeni nonse kuwona ubale kuchokera kunja ndikusunga. kukambirana m’njira yolimbikitsa.
Ndi chiyani chomwe chingapatse mwayi kwa wina aliyense kuti ayambe kuchitapo kanthu? Kumva kuti mawu ake ndi ofunika. Lingaliro lakale - yemwe amapeza, amasankha - ndi lachikale.
“Chilichonse chimene munthu amachita m’banja—kaya ali muofesi, akuchita bizinesi kapena m’nyumba, ayendayenda m’mizinda ndi m’matauni, kapena kukhala panyumba ndi ana, sayenera kulandidwa ufulu wosankha,” akutero. Radislav Gandapas. “Mitundu ya anthu yakhalapobe chifukwa chotha kugwirizana ndi kukambirana.
Banja ndi mgwirizano, mgwirizano. Aliyense m’banjamo ali ndi mawu ndi kuyenera kwa kukhala wosangalala nthawi ina iliyonse. Ndipo ngati sakukondwera, ndiye kuti ayenera kumvera, ndipo zofuna zake zomveka ziyenera kukhutitsidwa ndi mbali inayo, pokhapokha atawononga chisangalalo chake.