Momwe mungathanirane ndi kusungulumwa - 5 nsonga

Ngati malingaliro opanda thandizo, opanda chiyembekezo, ndi kuthedwa nzeru zikupitirira kwa milungu yoposa iwiri, kungakhale koyenera kulankhula ndi uphungu wa psychologist kapena psychotherapist. Chabwino, ngati mlandu wanu suli wovuta kwambiri, apa pali malangizo amomwe mungachotsere msanga kusungulumwa.

1. Musaganize

Kusungulumwa kukuwoneka kutikutatiza. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, timathera nthawi yambiri tikudzimvera chisoni ndipo sitichita chilichonse. Ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala otsimikiza kuti izi sizisintha. Malingaliro oterowo ayenera kusiyidwa mwamsanga. Pezani choti muchite pompano.

Gwirani ntchito m'munda. Chotsani garaja. Tsukani galimoto yanu. Chezani ndi anansi. Itanani anzanu ndikupita nawo ku cafe kapena kanema nawo. Pitani koyenda. Kusintha kwa mawonekedwe kumathandizira kusokoneza malingaliro opondereza a melancholy. Sizingatheke kuvutika ngati muli otanganidwa ndi chinachake.

2. Dzichitireni chifundo

Tikakhala ndi nkhawa, kudzikweza sikungathandize. Koma, mwatsoka, tonse timachita izi popanda kufuna. Mwacitsandzo, tinacita cinthu cakuphonyeka ku ncito cakuti pisadula ntengo ukulu, peno kumenyana na m’bale wathu peno xamwali wathu, pyenepi nee tisalonga na iye.

Kapena mwina tili ndi zowononga zambiri, ndipo kulibe komwe tingapezeko ndalama. M’malo mokambirana ndi munthu chilichonse chimene chimatidetsa nkhawa, timadziunjikira mwa ife tokha. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, timasungulumwa kwambiri.

Tikakhumudwa, m’pofunika kudzisamalila. Ndipotu, nthawi zambiri timayiwala za izi chifukwa cha zovuta zambiri. Zotsatira zake, sitigona mokwanira, sitidya bwino, sitipita kumasewera, timadzilemetsa tokha. Yakwana nthawi «yoyambitsanso» ndi kubwezeretsa bwino bwino anataya, kumva bwino mwathupi. Pitani ku paki, kusamba, kuwerenga buku mu cafe mumaikonda.

3. Khalani omasuka

Ngakhale kuti n’zotheka kukhala wosungulumwa pagulu la anthu, kulankhulana kumathandiza kuti kusokonezeke kwa kanthaŵi. Mankhwala abwino kwambiri ndikutuluka m'nyumba ndikupeza kampani. Ndibwino ngati gulu la abwenzi, koma makalasi amagulu, magulu ochita zosangalatsa, kuyenda ndi kuyenda m'magulu ndi njira yabwino yotulukira. N’zovuta kulingalira za chisoni chimene mumamva mukamakambirana nkhani zosangalatsa.

4. Dziwani zatsopano

Njira yotsimikizika yothanirana ndi kukhumudwa ndiyo kupeza ndi kuphunzira zinthu zatsopano. Mukayatsa "chidwi jini" ndikuchita zomwe zimakusangalatsani komanso zomwe zimakusangalatsani, palibe malo oti mukhale osangalala. Yesani kuyendetsa galimoto kuti mukagwire ntchito panjira yatsopano.

Mwachitsanzo, matauni ang'onoang'ono, mapaki, nkhalango, malo osungirako zachilengedwe, malo osungiramo zinthu zakale, malo osaiwalika. Pamsewu, yesetsani kuphunzira zatsopano, kukumana ndi anthu atsopano, kuti pali chinachake choyenera kukumbukira.

5. Thandizani ena

Njira yotsimikizirika yosiyira kudzimvera chisoni ndiyo kuthandiza wina. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuthamangira nthawi yomweyo m'misewu kuti mupulumutse osowa pokhala. Palinso njira zina. Sanjani zovala zanu, sonkhanitsani zinthu zomwe simuvalanso, ndikuzipereka ku mabungwe othandiza.

Perekani zida zakale koma zogwirira ntchito, mbale, mipando, zofunda, zoseweretsa ndi zinthu zina zosafunikira kwa omwe akufunika. Zidzakhala zothandiza kwa iwo, koma zothandiza kwambiri kwa inu. Ngati pakati pa oyandikana nawo pali opuma, odwala pabedi kapena osungulumwa omwe akusowa thandizo, kuwachezera, kucheza, kuwachitira chinachake chokoma, kusewera masewera a bolodi.

Ngakhale mukakhala osungulumwa, tangoganizani mmene zimakhalira kwa iwo? Pamodzi, nkosavuta kuthetsa kusungulumwa. Kumbukirani, mutha kuchotsa malingaliro oyipa mothandizidwa ndi khama lozindikira.

Zokhudza Wolemba: Suzanne Cain ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, mtolankhani, komanso wolemba zojambula ku Los Angeles.