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Pali zifukwa zazikulu zitatu zimene zimachititsa munthu kukwiyira ena.
Chifukwa choyamba chakukwiyira ndikuwongolera, komanso mwadala. Munthuyo mwadala «pouts» kuti winayo adzimve wolakwa. Nthawi zambiri, atsikana amachita izi akafuna kupeza zomwe akufuna kwa mwamuna.
Chifukwa chachiwiri ndi kulephera kukhululuka. Tsoka ilo, izi ndizomwe zimayambitsa zokhumudwitsa zambiri. Ngati muyang'ana chifukwa ichi kuchokera kumbali ina, ndiye kuti ikhoza kutchedwanso kusokoneza, kungosadziwa. Pamenepa, nthawi zambiri munthu samvetsa chifukwa chimene anamukwiyira. Kungokhumudwa - ndizo zonse. Koma kumbali ina, iye amadziŵa bwino lomwe mmene wolakwiridwayo angawongolere.
Ndipo chifukwa chachitatu chosungira chakukhosi ndicho kunyengedwa ziyembekezo. Mwachitsanzo, mkazi akuyembekeza kuti wokondedwa wake amupatsa malaya a ubweya, koma m'malo mwake amapereka chidole chachikulu chofewa. Kapena munthu amayembekezera kuti mumkhalidwe wovuta, mabwenzi, popanda zopempha kuchokera kwa iye, adzapereka chithandizo, koma samapereka. Apa ndi pamene mkwiyo umachokera.
Kwenikweni, anthu amakhala okhudzidwa ndi nkhawa, kupsinjika maganizo, kukangana ndi wokondedwa. Anthu omwe ali ndi matenda aakulu nthawi zambiri amakhala okhudzidwa kwambiri: nthawi zambiri amakhumudwa osati ndi okondedwa awo okha, komanso padziko lonse lapansi. Kumverera kumeneku kumakhala kobadwa makamaka mwa okalamba ndi anthu olumala kwambiri. Nthawi zambiri amakhumudwa ndi chilichonse komanso anthu omwe amadzimvera chisoni komanso amakonda kwambiri. Ngakhale nthabwala zopanda vuto kapena zonena za iwo zingawakhumudwitse.
Kodi mkwiyo ndi chiyani ndipo zimachitika bwanji
Kusakhumudwitsidwa konse nkovuta, koma titha kuugwira mtima. Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti mu psychology pali chinthu monga touchiness, ndiko kuti, chizolowezi chokwiyitsa aliyense ndi chirichonse. Apa mungathe ndipo muyenera kuchotsa chakukhosi. Kupatula apo, uku sikumangodzimva ngati khalidwe loipa, maganizo osayenera.
Munthu wamkulu, ngakhale ngati mawu a interlocutor anamukhudza, akhoza modekha ndi mwanzeru kupitiriza kukambirana. Munthu wachikulire ndi wanzeru, ngati pakufunika kutero, akhoza kumuuza modekha za mmene akumvera. Mwachitsanzo: “Pepani, koma mawu anu tsopano akundikhumudwitsa kwambiri. Mwina sunafune zimenezo?" Pamenepo mikhalidwe yosakondweretsa yambiri idzathetsedwa mwamsanga, ndipo sipadzakhala chakukhosi chotsalira m’moyo wanu ndipo mudzatha kusunga maunansi abwino ndi munthu amene anakulakwitsani mosadziŵa.
Zotsatira za kudandaula pafupipafupi
Ngati munthu sachita nawo chitukuko chaumwini ndikupitiriza kukhumudwa ndi chirichonse, izi sizingangoyambitsa matenda amitundu yonse (otchedwa psychosomatic factor), komanso kumayambitsa kutaya abwenzi ndi mikangano yosalekeza. m’banja, mpaka chilekano. N’zosadabwitsa kuti Baibulo limati kunyada ndi limodzi mwa machimo aakulu kwambiri, chifukwa nthawi zambiri munthu amakhumudwa chifukwa cha kunyada.
Chifukwa cha mkwiyo wosakhululukidwa umene umawononga moyo, munthu akhoza kuthera nthawi yaitali makamaka kuyesera kubwezera wolakwayo, kubwera ndi mapulani osiyanasiyana obwezera. Izi zidzatenga malingaliro ake onse, ndipo panthawiyi moyo wake udzadutsa, ndipo pamene azindikira izi, zikhoza kukhala mochedwa kwambiri.
Munthu amene amayenda ndi mkwiyo m’moyo wake pang’onopang’ono amayamba kusakhutira ndi moyo, samaona kukongola kwake ndi mitundu yake yonse, ndipo maganizo oipa amawononga umunthu wake mowonjezereka. Ndiye kukwiyitsidwa, kukwiyira ena, manjenje komanso kukhala ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse kungawonekere.
Kodi mungathane bwanji ndi mkwiyo ndikusiya kukhumudwa?
Dziwani chifukwa chake mwakhumudwitsidwa
Yambani kusunga diary ya malingaliro anu, ndikulemba theka lililonse la ola momwe mukumvera. Ichi ndi chida chosavuta komanso chothandiza kwambiri: simukuwoneka kuti mukuchita kalikonse, koma simudzakhumudwitsidwa (ndipo, kwenikweni, mudzakhala wopanda pake). Chotsatira ndi chakuti ngati mwakhumudwabe kapena mukukhumudwa, lembani chifukwa chake. Makamaka, chifukwa chiyani? Ziwerengero zikabwera, mudzakhala ndi mndandanda wazotsitsa zomwe mumakonda. Kenako mumaganiza ndikulemba mndandanda wazomwe zimakusangalatsani: mungatani kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro abwino? Momwe mungalembere mfundo 50, kotero mudzayamba kuyang'ana moyo molimba mtima komanso mokondwera.
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Dziphunzitseni kuti muwone zabwino m'moyo. Asayansi a ku America ochokera ku yunivesite ya Stanford anaphunzira anthu omwe amakwiya msanga ndipo sanakhululukire olakwa awo kwa nthawi yaitali. Zinapezeka kuti amene anasintha maganizo abwino kwambiri a moyo ndipo anatha kukhululukira, anayamba mwamsanga kusintha thanzi lawo: mutu ndi ululu msana mbisoweka, kugona anabwerera mwakale ndi mtendere wa maganizo anabwezeretsedwa. Kodi mungatembenukire bwanji ku zabwino? Onetsetsani kuonera zodabwitsa filimu «Polyanna» - ndipo inu simukufuna kukhala monga kale!
Samalirani nthawi yanu
Kusunga chakukhosi kumakutengerani nthawi yambiri ndi khama, kumakupangitsani kuchita zachabechabe. Kodi mukuzifuna? Phunzirani kuyamikira nthawi yanu, lembani tsiku lanu lonse mphindi iliyonse, zomwe zimaphatikizapo chirichonse: ntchito, kupuma, kugona - ndi kupita ku bizinesi. Mudzakhala otanganidwa ndi bizinesi - simudzakhala okhumudwa.
Muzichita masewera olimbitsa thupi nthawi zonse
Anthu amasewera amakhumudwa nthawi zambiri - kufufuzidwa! "Otsutsa" kwambiri ndi masewera owopsa, ngati mukuwopa masewerawa, yambani ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi m'mawa. Kapena mwina mwaganiza zodzithira madzi ozizira? Modabwitsa amasintha mutu kukhala chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo!
werengani mabuku
Anthu anzeru ndi ophunzira sakhumudwa pang'ono - ndi zoona! Werengani mabuku abwino kwa maola 1-2 patsiku, kambiranani mabuku - izi zidzakhala zosangalatsa kwa inu kuposa kukhumudwa. Zoti muwerenge? Yambani pang'ono ndi mabuku anga: "Momwe Mungadzichitire ndi Anthu", "Nthano Zafilosofi", "Moyo Wosavuta Wabwino" - simudzanong'oneza bondo.
Bungwe Loyenera
Lembani mndandanda wa anthu omwe mumawawona ndikulankhula nawo kwambiri. Tsindikani amene ali ndi makhalidwe abwino ndi amene mungafune kukhala nawo. Chotsani iwo omwe nthawi zambiri amakhumudwa, ansanje, amalankhula zoipa za ena ndi omwe ali ndi zizolowezi zina zoipa. Nawa malingaliro ena kwa inu, omwe muyenera kulumikizana nawo pafupipafupi, komanso ocheperako. Ganizirani za komwe mungapeze malo abwino, abwino.
Ana anga adatengeka ndi ShVK (School of Great Books), nditha kukupangiraninso: anthu osangalatsa komanso anzeru amasonkhana kumeneko.
Mwachidule: ngati mumayanjana ndi anthu omwe ali ndi vuto, inunso mumakhala ovuta. Ngati mumayanjana ndi anthu ochita bwino komanso abwino, inunso mudzakhala opambana komanso abwino. Choncho chitani!