Kodi mungasiyanitse bwanji narcissism "yathanzi" ndi "yopanda thanzi"?

Nkhani zokhudzana ndi chibwenzi ndi maubwenzi nthawi zambiri zimalankhula za kunyansidwa, koma mawuwa amagwiritsidwa ntchito molakwika, anatero katswiri wa zabanja Marnie Feerman. Pamene mawu oti "narcissist" amagwiritsidwa ntchito muzokambirana wamba, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosiyana ndi zomwe zimachitika, osati matenda otchedwa narcissistic personality disorder.

"Ngati mnzanuyo ndi wamatsenga, zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti mukwaniritse mgwirizano wamaganizo ndi kukhulupirirana, chifukwa choyamba amadziganizira yekha ndi zomwe amakonda ndipo chifukwa chake amatsekedwa," akufotokoza.

N'kutheka kuti wokondedwa woteroyo amangokugwiritsirani ntchito popanda kubwezera, ndipo chifukwa cha ichi, kusalinganika kwakukulu kudzabuka muubwenzi. Ndikoyeneranso kukumbukira kuti narcissism imatha kusandulika kukhala chikhalidwe cha anthu, kotero kuti maubwenzi ndi munthu wankhanza kwambiri akhoza kukhala owopsa.

“Wathanzi” vs. “Zopanda Thanzi” Narcissism: Pali Kusiyana Kotani?

Tonsefe ndife otopa, okwiya, otopa chifukwa cha kupsinjika maganizo. Tonse nthawi zina timangodziganizira tokha, kunyalanyaza malingaliro, zokhumba ndi zosowa za ena. Aliyense wa ife nthawi ndi nthawi wina amadzudzula kapena kusonyeza mwaukali.

Kudzikonda kokhazikika, koyenera kumatithandiza kukhala ndi chiyembekezo komanso chidaliro ngakhale tili ndi malingaliro awa komanso ena olakwika. Komabe, mwa anthu amene akudwala matenda a narcissistic personality, kudzikonda kumapitirira malire onse.

Kope lachisanu la buku la US Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) limafotokoza kuti vuto la umunthu wa narcissistic ndi “kulimbikira kudziona kuti ndiwe wapamwamba, kulakalaka nthawi zonse kuyamikiridwa, kusamvera chisoni.” Kuzindikira kumafuna kukhalapo kwa zizindikiro zosachepera 5 mwa 9:

• Lingaliro la munthu payekha.
• Zongopeka nthawi zonse za kupambana kwanu kopanda malire, mphamvu, malingaliro anzeru, kukongola kodabwitsa.
• Kukhudzika kwa munthu woteroyo kuti ndi munthu wapadera, wodabwitsa yemwe amayenera kuyanjana ndi anthu komanso mabungwe apadera.
• Kulakalaka kukhala chinthu chosirira mosayenera.
• Chikhulupiriro chakuti amaloledwa kuposa ena.
• Chizoloŵezi cholamulira anthu ena mu ubale wapakati pa anthu.
• Kusowa kapena kusowa chifundo.
• Kuipidwa kosalekeza kwa ena kapena kukhulupirira kuti ena amamukwiyira.
• Mawonetseredwe a kudzikonda ndi narcissism khalidwe kapena maganizo kwa ena.

Katswiri wa zamaganizo ku Harvard Medical School Craig Malkin adazindikira zinthu zitatu zazikuluzikulu za narcissism:

1. Narcissists amadyera anzawo masuku pamutu. Iwo ali okonzekera chirichonse, kuphatikizapo chinyengo ndi chinyengo, kuti akwaniritse zosowa zawo.
2. Narcisists amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi ngongole zonse ndipo ali ndi ufulu pa chilichonse. Kaŵirikaŵiri amachita ndi kupsa mtima kwa kukanidwa.
3. Narcissists alibe chifundo. Kuchokera kunja kungawoneke kuti ali okhoza chifundo, koma mwamsanga amazimiririka ngati siziri zofuna za narcissist kapena atanganidwa ndi zochitika zake.

Momwe mungadziwire nthawi yothawa

Ngati mukukayikira kuti mnzanuyo ndi wamatsenga weniweni, apa pali zizindikiro zitatu zochenjeza zomwe siziyenera kunyalanyazidwa. Aliyense wa iwo ndi chifukwa yomweyo kuthetsa ubwenzi.

1. Chiwawa kapena nkhanza

Choyamba, tikukamba za nkhanza zakuthupi, koma nkhanza zamaganizo siziyenera kuloledwa. Izi zikhoza kukhala kutsutsa kosalekeza, kunyoza, kunyoza, kutukwana, kuyatsa gaslight (pamene mnzanu akuyesera kukufunsani funso la momwe mumaonera zenizeni).

Udindo wa khalidwe lotere uli pa iye yekha, osati inu. Ndi njira iyi, maubwenzi abwino ndi osatheka.

2. Kukana mavuto

Ngati mnzanu achita zinthu zosayenera, ayenera kuvomereza kuti: "Ndimamvetsetsa zonse, koma sindingathe kudziletsa, ndikusowa thandizo." Ngati satha kuona mavuto ake, sadzatha kuwathetsa.

3. Recognitions sociopathies

Kunama nthawi zonse popanda chisoni kungakhale chizindikiro cha kusowa chifundo, koma kusowa kwathunthu, ndiko kuti, sociopathy. Kuthekera koti katswiri wa zachikhalidwe cha anthu asinthe khalidwe ndi zero. Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti mnzanuyo ndi ameneyo, thamangani nthawi isanathe.

Mkhalidwe wodzikuza ndi waudani wa mnzathu ungadzutse makhalidwe oipa kwambiri mwa ife. Mwina timayamba kumuzungulira kuti tisamukhumudwitse, kapena, m'malo mwake, kuyankha, kupanga zonyansa. Palibenso mwayi wokhala ndi ubale wabwino komanso wotukuka.

“Ngati kuli kotetezeka, yesani kukhala woona mtima ndi womasuka naye ponena za malingaliro anu. Komabe, musachite izi ngati pali chiopsezo chenicheni cha nkhanza zakuthupi, "akutero Marni Feerman.

Nayi njira yomwe ingathandize kudzutsa chifundo cha mnzanu kwa inu.

1. Mukumbutseni kuti ubwenzi wanu ndi wofunika kwambiri kwa inu.
2. Poyera, popanda kuopa kuwoneka osatetezeka, lankhulani za zomwe mukukumana nazo: kulakalaka, mantha, kusungulumwa, manyazi, ludzu la chikondi, ndi zina zotero. Ndimadziona kuti ndine wosiyidwa, wosafunidwa, ndiponso wopanda ntchito.” Kapena kuti: “Ndinu wofunika kwambiri kwa ine mwakuti mukamadzudzula zosankha zanga zonse, ndimaona ngati simundiyamikira ngakhale pang’ono.”

Ngati mnzanuyo ali wokhoza pang'ono kukuchitirani chifundo, kunena mosabisa kanthu kuyenera kuchepetsa maganizo ake kwa inu. Ngati izi sizichitika, ichi ndi chizindikiro chowopsya, ndi bwino kuganizira za kuthetsa chiyanjano. Potsirizira pake, ngati mnzanu wa narcissistic akakana psychotherapy, ichinso ndi chifukwa chachikulu choganizira za chiyembekezo cha chiyanjano.