Zamkatimu
Zizindikiro zochepa za anthu omwe muyenera kupewa kulankhulana nawo, ngakhale mutadziwana kwa zaka zana.
Kodi munayamba mwaganizapo kuti anzanu apamtima sakuwoneka kuti akusangalala kwambiri ndi kupambana kwanu, koma, m'malo mwake, amachitira nsanje zomwe mwakwanitsa? Poganizira izi, nthawi yomweyo munathamangitsira lingaliro ili kutali ndi inu. Nanga bwanji, koma mumadziwana kwa zaka zambiri - kuchokera ku koleji kapena kusukulu. Mwina munakulira limodzi, ndipo munakumana nazo zambiri pamodzi… Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti ubwenzi ndi wofunika kuusunga.
1. Mwamalingaliro, amakugwiritsani ntchito ngati thumba lokhomerera.
Zachisoni koma zoona: “abwenzi” awa samakunyozetsani - amangogwiritsa ntchito inu kuseketsa kudzikuza kwawo. Amachita bwino kwambiri pa izi ngati china chake m'moyo wanu sichikuyenda momwe mungafune: mukalephera, zimakhala zosavuta kuti adzuke ndikukulipirani.
Ndipo nthawi zonse muyenera kuwatulutsa m'mabowo amalingaliro - mutasweka, kuchotsedwa ntchito ndi zolephera zina; tonthozani, tonthozani, lemekezani, limbikitsani, sangalalani nawo. Ndipo, ndithudi, atangobwerera mwakale, simukufunikanso.
Mosakayikira, ngati inu nokha mukumva zoipa, palibe amene amakuvutitsani monga choncho?
2. Nthawi zonse pali mkangano pakati panu.
Kodi mumagawana ndi mnzanu chimwemwe chimene munaitanidwa ku ntchito imene mwakhala mukuilakalaka? Onetsetsani: popanda kukumvetserani, ayamba kuyankhula zakuti nayenso ali pafupi kukwezedwa. Kapena kuti adzakhala ndi tchuthi chomwe akuyembekezera kwa nthawi yayitali. Kapena yambani kukayikira luso lanu. Chilichonse choti chisakhale "choyipa" kuposa iwe.
Ndipo ndithudi, munthu woteroyo sangakuthandizeni pa zoyesayesa zanu, limbitsani chidaliro chanu, makamaka ngati mukuyesetsa kukwaniritsa zolinga zomwezo. Ntchito yake ndikukupumitsani kuti muwononge kudzidalira kwanu. Osachita masewerawa, ngakhale mutamudziwa munthuyo kuyambira ali wakhanda.
3. Iwo amakupangitsani inu kumamatira posewera pa zofooka zanu.
Chifukwa cha maubwenzi apamtima, tonsefe timadziwa "malo opweteka" a anzathu, koma anthu okhawo omwe ali ndi poizoni amalola kugwiritsa ntchito izi. Ndipo ngati mungayerekeze “kutuluka m’maukonde awo” ndi kuyamba ulendo waulele, tsimikizirani kuti chitonzo, miseche, ndi ziwopsezo zidzagwera pambuyo panu. Chilichonse choti mubwererenso mu ubale wopanda thanzi.
Kotero inu muyenera kukhala okonzekera kuti sizidzakhala zophweka kusiyana ndi anthu oterowo. Koma ndizofunika - mudzapeza abwenzi atsopano omwe angakuchitireni mosiyana, adzakuyamikiridwa, kukulemekezani ndi kukuthandizani.
Musalole kuti ena akutayitseni njira. Musalole kuti anthu amene mumawatcha “mabwenzi” akulandeni kudzidalira kwanu. Osachita nawo mpikisano wachilendo ndi mpikisano wosafunikira. Musalole kuti zingwe zikokedwe ndi kuyendetsedwa ndi liwongo.
Dziyikeni nokha, zokonda zanu, maloto ndi mapulani anu patsogolo. Khalani oleza mtima ndikuyang'ana abwenzi atsopano - omwe angapangitse moyo wanu kukhala wabwino.