Zamkatimu
Aliyense amene ali paubwenzi amafunikira nthawi yokhala yekha (kaya akuzindikira kapena ayi). Komanso: pamapeto pake, ndizo, osati kugwirizanitsa kwathunthu ndi mnzanu, zomwe zimalimbitsa mgwirizano. Koma mungafotokoze bwanji izi kwa theka lanu lina, ngati sanakumanepo ndi chosowa choterocho? Momwe mungapangire pempho kuti lisatengedwe ndi chidani - monga chizindikiro chakuti chinachake chalakwika ndi chiyanjano?
Ena aife, tikamva kuti mnzathu akufuna kukulitsa mtunda wamalingaliro ndi thupi, atenge mowawa, amve ngati akukanidwa komanso akusiyidwa. Mkhalidwe wa m’banja ukuyamba kutentha,” akufotokoza motero katswiri wa zamaganizo Li Lang. - Tsoka, nthawi zambiri munthu amayenera kuyang'ana momwe mnzako akufuna kuchoka, ndipo wachiwiri, akumva izi, amayesa ndi mbedza kuti amukokere kwa iye yekha. Zotsatira zake, chifukwa cha "nkhondo" iyi, onse amavutika.
Bwanji ngati mukufuna nthawi yochulukirapo kuposa ya mnzanu? Momwe mungasankhire mawu olondola ndikupereka pempho kwa iye kuti asamvetsetse mawu anu? Kodi mungatsimikizire bwanji kuti nonse mudzapambana ngati zotsatira zake? Izi ndi zomwe akatswiri azaubwenzi akunena.
Fotokozani zomwe mukutanthauza ndi nthawi yanu
Choyamba, muyenera kusankha nokha zomwe, makamaka, ndi malo anu enieni komanso "nthawi yanu" kwa inu. N’zokayikitsa kuti mukutanthauza kufunika kokhala kutali ndi mnzanuyo. Nthawi zambiri, zimakhala za kukhala osachepera theka la tsiku lopuma nokha kuchita zomwe mumakonda: kumwa tiyi, kugona pabedi ndi bukhu, kuwonera makanema apa TV, kuphwanya otsutsa pamasewera apakanema, kapena kupanga ndege yachipongwe. .
"Longosolani kuti zomwe mukufunikira ndikungotenga malingaliro anu ndikupumula," akutero Talya Wagner, wothandizira mabanja komanso mlembi wa Married Roommates. - Ndipo chinthu chachikulu apa ndikutha kuyang'ana momwe zinthu zilili ndi maso a mnzanu. Mwanjira imeneyi mukhoza kumvetsetsana bwino ndi kuphunzira kuthandizana.”
Sankhani mawu olondola
Popeza mutuwo ndi wovuta kwambiri, ndikofunikira kulabadira kusankha kwa mawu komanso kamvekedwe. Zimatengera momwe mnzanuyo amaonera mawu anu: ngati pempho lopanda vuto kapena chizindikiro chakuti chisangalalo cha banja chatha. “Ndi bwino kukhala wodekha monga momwe kungathekere ndi kutsindika kuti nonse mupambana pamapeto,” akutero Wagner. "Koma ngati mukwiyitsidwa ndikuimbidwa mlandu, uthenga wanu sudziwika bwino."
Chotero m’malo modandaula kuti mphamvu zanu zikutha (“Ndatopa kwambiri ndi mavuto ameneŵa kuntchito ndi kunyumba! Ndifunikira kukhala ndekha”), nenani kuti: “Ndikuganiza kuti tonsefe timafunikira nthaŵi yowonjezereka ya kukhala tokha. , malo ochulukirapo aumwini. Izi zithandiza aliyense wa ife komanso ubale wonse. ”
Gogomezerani ubwino wokhala paokha
"Kugwirizana kwambiri, pamene nthawi zonse timachitira zonse pamodzi (pambuyo pake, ndife banja!), Kumachotsa chikondi chonse ndi kuseweretsa m'chibwenzi," akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi kugonana Stephanie Buhler. "Koma nthawi yotalikirana imatilola kuyang'anana ndi maso atsopano ndipo mwinanso kukhala ndi chikhumbo chomwe chatisiya kalekale."
Osayiwala Umunthu Wanu ndi Wokondedwa Wanu
Malinga ndi a Buhler, anthu oyambilira nthawi zambiri amafunikira malo aumwini, zomwe ndizomveka. Kuthera nthawi paokha kumawathandiza kuti awonjezere ndalama, koma izi zingakhale zovuta kwa okwatirana awo omwe ali ndi chibwenzi kuti avomereze. “Anthu olankhula mawu oyamba amazimiririka ngati satha kukhala paokha: kulota, kuwerenga, kuyenda, kuganiza. Ngati ndi choncho, fotokozerani mnzanuyo mmene mukumvera.”
Kumbutsani wokondedwa wanu kuti mumamukonda
Tingasonyeze chikondi m’njira zosiyanasiyana ndi kukhala ndi chikondi chamitundumitundu. Ngati mnzanu akukhudzidwa kwambiri ndi inu, kukhazikika ndi chitetezo ndizofunikira kwa iye muubwenzi, nkofunika kudziwa kuti simudzamusiya. Pokambirana ndi munthu woteroyo, ndikofunikira kutsindika kuti chikhumbo chanu chaufulu sichiri chiganizo cha maubwenzi. Mumakonda kwambiri mnzanuyo, koma kuti mupitirize kuchita izi m'tsogolomu, mukufunikira nthawi yochulukirapo komanso nokha.
Konzekerani kena kake limodzi mutatha kukhala nokha
Palibe chomwe chingamukhazikitse bwino kuposa kuti mutakhala nokha nokha, mudzabwerera "kubanja" mwamtendere, mopumula, wokondwa komanso wokonzeka kuchita nawo maubwenzi. Kuonjezera apo, tsopano mutha kusangalala ndi zochitika zophatikizana popanda kuusa moyo nokha za momwe zingakhale bwino kukhala kunyumba nokha ndikukhala madzulo pabedi.
Ambiri mwina, ndiye bwenzi potsiriza kumvetsa kuti nthawi nokha akhoza kukhala chinsinsi kugwirizana kwambiri ndi ubwenzi weniweni pakati panu ndi kuthandiza kulimbikitsa ubale.