Woyambitsa wazaka 30 ndi CEO wa Detail.com ndiye womaliza mwa abale atatu. Amayamikira banja lake chifukwa chomupatsa ufulu wochita zinthu mwanzeru komanso kuchita zinthu zoopsa. Ndinali ndi ufulu wonse wosiya ntchito yanga yaganyu, kusiya koleji ndikuyamba moyo watsopano kudziko lina.
Lingaliro lakuti ana aang’ono amakhala okonda kuchita zinthu mopambanitsa ndi imodzi mwa nthanthi zambiri zimene zimalongosola mmene maudindo a m’banja amatikhudzira ife akamakula. Lingaliro lodziwika kwambiri, ndipo pafupifupi chowonadi, ndilakuti mwana woyamba amakhala ndi zaka zambiri ngati wamkulu ndipo motero amakhala wokhoza kukhala mtsogoleri.
Umboni wa sayansi m'derali ndi wofooka. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti kukhalapo kwa abale (kapena kusowa kwawo) sikumakhudza ife. Umboni waposachedwapa ukusonyeza kuti kusiyana kwa msinkhu pakati pa abale, chiŵerengero cha anyamata ndi atsikana, ndi ubwino wa maunansi a ana n’zofunika.
Kukangana za amene wakwera pampando wakutsogolo wa galimoto kapena amene amagona mochedwa n’kofunikadi. Kulimbana ndi kukambitsirana abale kungakuthandizenidi kukhala ndi luso laumwini.
Wobadwa kutsogolera?
Pali nkhani zambiri zochititsa chidwi pa intaneti zomwe zimati ana oyamba kubadwa ndi omwe amakhala atsogoleri. Lingaliro ili limatsimikiziridwa pazochitika zaumwini: Atsogoleri a ku Ulaya Angela Merkel ndi Emmanuel Macron, mwachitsanzo, ndi oyamba kubadwa, monga momwe amachitira pulezidenti waposachedwa wa US Bill Clinton, George W. Bush ndi Barack Obama (kapena analeredwa motero - Obama anali ndi theka lachikulire. -abale omwe samakhala nawo). M'dziko lamalonda, Sheryl Sandberg, Marissa Mayer, Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk, Richard Branson anali oyamba kubadwa, kutchula ochepa a CEO otchuka.
Komabe maphunziro angapo atsutsa lingaliro lakuti kubadwa kumapanga umunthu wathu. Mu 2015, maphunziro awiri akuluakulu sanapeze kugwirizana kwakukulu pakati pa kubadwa ndi makhalidwe aumunthu. Nthawi ina, Rodica Damian ndi Brent Roberts a pa yunivesite ya Illinois anafufuza mikhalidwe ya umunthu, IQs, ndi dongosolo la kubadwa la ophunzira pafupifupi 400 aku sekondale ku America. Kumbali ina, Julia Rohrer wa ku yunivesite ya Leipzig ndi anzake adayesa IQ, umunthu ndi kubadwa kwa anthu pafupifupi 20 ku UK, US ndi Germany. M'maphunziro onsewa, malumikizanidwe ang'onoang'ono angapo adapezeka, koma anali opanda pake potengera kufunika kwawo.
Lingaliro lina lodziwika bwino lokhudzana ndi dongosolo la kubadwa ndiloti ana ang'onoang'ono amatha kutenga zoopsa - koma zonenazi zidatsutsidwanso pamene Tomás Lejarraga wa ku yunivesite ya Balearic Islands ndi anzake sanapeze mgwirizano wofunikira pakati pa kuchita zinthu modzidzimutsa ndi kubadwa.
Kukonda abale ndi alongo kumathandiza
Kusakhala ndi mwana woyamba kapena wocheperako sizitanthauza kuti udindo wanu muulamuliro wabanja sunakuumbani. Ikhoza kukhala chikhalidwe chapadera cha ubale wanu ndi udindo wanu mu dongosolo la mphamvu za banja. Koma kachiwiri, monga asayansi amanenera, kusamala kumafunika - ngati mutapeza mgwirizano pakati pa maubwenzi apachibale ndi khalidwe pambuyo pake m'moyo, pali kufotokozera kosavuta: kukhazikika kwa umunthu. Wina amene amasamala za abale ake akhoza kungokhala munthu wosamala kwambiri, wopanda zotsatira zenizeni za ubale.
Pali umboni wosonyeza kuti ubale wa pachibale uli ndi zotsatira zofika patali m’maganizo. Choyamba, abale ndi alongo angayambitse matenda a maganizo kapena kuwateteza, malingana ndi kutentha kwa chiyanjano. Jenda la abale athu lingakhalenso ndi gawo mu ntchito zathu zamtsogolo, ndi kafukufuku wina wosonyeza kuti amuna omwe ali ndi alongo akuluakulu sakhala opikisana, ngakhale ndikofunika kuti tisapitirire kuchuluka kwa zotsatira za izi.
Chinthu china chofunika ndicho kusiyana kwa zaka pakati pa abale ndi alongo. Kafukufuku waposachedwa ku UK adapeza kuti abale ang'onoang'ono omwe ali ndi zaka zocheperako nthawi zambiri amakhala ochezeka komanso osasamala - mwina chifukwa amapikisana kuti makolo awo aziwasamalira mofanana komanso amathanso kusewera limodzi ndikuphunzira kuchokera kwa makolo awo. wina ndi mnzake.
Tiyeneranso kukumbukira kuti maubwenzi a abale ndi alongo samakhalapo m'malo opanda kanthu - abale ndi alongo amakonda kukhala ndi maubwenzi abwino kumene amakulira m'malo osangalatsa a pakhomo.
Mphamvu ya mmodzi
Kukhazikika m'malingaliro, chifundo, ndi luso lachiyanjano ndizodziwikiratu m'ntchito zambiri. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti kukhala ndi mchimwene wanu yemwe mumayanjana naye kungakhale malo abwino ophunzirira. Koma bwanji ngati palibe abale ndi alongo?
Kafukufuku amene anayerekezera makhalidwe a anthu amene anabadwira ku China atangotsala pang’ono kukhazikitsidwa ndi lamulo loti ana akhale ndi mwana mmodzi, anapeza kuti ana a m’gulu limeneli amakhala “osadalirana, osadalirika, osaika moyo pachiswe, osachita zinthu mopikisana. , wokayikitsa kwambiri ndiponso wosachita zinthu mosamala kwambiri.”
Kafukufuku wina adawonetsa zotsatira zomwe zingatheke chifukwa cha chikhalidwe cha anthu - otenga nawo mbali omwe anali ana okha adalandira ziwerengero zochepa za "ubwenzi" (anali ochezeka komanso odalira). Kumbali yabwino, komabe, ana okhawo omwe adachita kafukufukuyu adachita bwino pamayesero aukadaulo, ndipo asayansi amati izi ndi zomwe makolo awo amawaganizira kwambiri.