Malingaliro aumunthu ndi chinthu choseketsa. Tonsefe timakonda kuganiza kuti timadziwa bwino momwe tingalamulire malingaliro athu (makamaka pamalingaliro ndi machitidwe), koma kwenikweni zonse sizophweka. M'nkhaniyi, tiwona zingapo zoyipa zomwe wamba za chikumbumtima chathu. "Misampha" yotereyi nthawi zambiri imatilepheretsa kukhala moyo womwe tikufuna: 1. Yang'anani kwambiri pa zoyipa kuposa zabwino Zimachitika kwa aliyense. Aliyense wa ife akhoza kukumbukira anthu oposa mmodzi amene ali ndi madalitso onse a dziko lapansi, koma nthawi zonse amakhala wosakhutira ndi chinachake. Anthu amtundu umenewu ali ndi nyumba zazikulu, magalimoto apamwamba, ntchito zabwino, ndalama zambiri, akazi achikondi, ndi ana odziwika bwino—koma ambiri a iwo amamva chisoni, ndipo amangokhalira kusumika maganizo pa zinthu zimene sizikuyenda mmene iwo akufunira. "Msampha" wamalingaliro woterowo uyenera kukodwa mumphukira. 2. Kufuna kulakwitsa zinthu Ofuna kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa kalikonse ndi anthu amene amaopa kulakwitsa zinthu ndipo nthawi zambiri amadzidalira kwambiri. Iwo samazindikira kuti chimene iwo kwenikweni akuchita ndicho kudzikhutiritsa chifukwa cha kupanda ungwiro kwawo. Zotsatira zake, amalepheretsa luso lopita patsogolo, kapena amadziwonongera okha kunjira yosatha yopita ku zolinga zazikulu zomwe sangathe kuzikwaniritsa. 3. Kudikirira malo oyenera/nthawi/munthu/kumverera Ndime iyi ikunena za iwo omwe amadziwira okha mkhalidwe wa "kuzengereza". Nthawi zonse pali china chake m'malingaliro anu monga "ino si nthawi yake" komanso "izi zitha kuimitsidwa". Nthawi iliyonse mukadikirira mphindi yapadera kapena kuphulika kwachilimbikitso kuti potsiriza muyambe kuchita chinachake. Nthawi imawonedwa ngati chida chopanda malire ndipo munthu samasiyanitsa momwe masiku, masabata ndi miyezi zimadutsa. 4. Kufuna kusangalatsa aliyense Ngati mukuwona kufunikira kotsimikizira kuti ndinu wofunika kwa anthu ena, ndiye kuti muyenera kuyesetsa kudzidalira. Iwo omwe amafuna kuzindikiridwa ndi aliyense ndi chilichonse nthawi zambiri samazindikira kuti kumverera kwachisangalalo ndi kudzaza kumachokera mkati. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa banal, chowonadi chodziwika bwino: sizingatheke kukondweretsa aliyense. Kuvomereza mfundo imeneyi, mudzamvetsa kuti mavuto ena amayamba kupita okha. 5. Kudzifananiza ndi ena Kudziyerekeza nokha ndi ena ndi njira yopanda chilungamo komanso yolakwika yowonera kupambana kwanu ndi kufunikira kwanu. Palibe anthu awiri omwe ali ofanana, omwe ali ndi zochitika zofanana ndi zochitika za moyo. Chizolowezichi ndi chizindikiro cha kuganiza kosayenera komwe kumabweretsa malingaliro oipa monga nsanje, nsanje, ndi mkwiyo. Monga mukudziwa, zimatenga masiku 21 kuti muchotse chizolowezi chilichonse. Yesetsani kuchitapo kanthu pa mfundo imodzi kapena zingapo zimene zili pamwambazi, ndipo moyo wanu udzakhala wabwinoko.
2022-11-11